HUMILIATED!!!!!!

awwwww hun dont take it personally!!! guys are stupid when it comes to girls clothing; they just dont know anything about it! youve done great and you're boyfriend obviously thinks youre a hot mama anyways ;D i would kill for an *kitten*. just saying!

First, if you feel that your boyfriend is attracted to you and is mostly supportive (no offense to the men on here, but men are not ALWAYS supportive in the most appropriate ways, its just how they are wired, sometimes they forget they aren't talking to one of their buddies, and this is our fault too, because we are wired to be a little sensitive sometimes), then don't worry too much about it. Sometimes people we care about do not realize the power of the things they say. Remember, also, that when people hurt us, they are able to hurt us because we gave them the power to do so- meaning because we place value in the things they say and do, they are able to hurt us. If they continue to hurt us, then maybe that is when we have to re-evaluate to determine if they are worthy of that power.

Second, size varies greatly. Don't let a tag or a number on the scale control you. If you are unhappy with where you are, then keep up your good work towards your goal. If you are happy then don't let it bother you. Rejoice in your daily accomplishments towards your goal and the positives about you. Try not to focus on the negatives. When someone says things that are detrimental to your self image or goal, your emotions are immediately going to sting and hurt. However, force your brain to talk you through letting it go, or you will continue to hear that negative thought for weeks or months. Focusing on this will only make you unhappy and be detrimental to what you are trying to achieve.

Don't forget- clothes sizes are very variable. When I was at my smallest size I wore typically a size 6 to 8- however, I had everything in pants from a size 4 to a size 13 in my closet that fit. Clothing size is rather irrelevant. At this point I'm typically a size 10 but have one pair of size 14 dress pants because the way my shape is. I also have a dress size 3/4 that currently fits. The tag is not relevant but to our egos. Wear what looks good on you and makes you feel good. Tell your boyfriend it just means you have more junk in the trunk, which gives him more to kiss if he wants to act up

Size 20 in the US is size 24 in the UK.
Not that that is relevant.

But I have no idea how women's clothes sizes work.
I know what a typical UK size 8/1012/14 is, as I have had experience of this. My ex-g/f tried to get me to buy her underwear, so she showed me how to measure her chest .. well, it didnt quite work out immediately, but after a while, I saw (and measured ... and then measured again ... and once more to be sure - hey! I like to be sure).
Ok, i still didnt buy her u/w but then I knew what it was all about.

The guy was insensitive and probably didnt realise what he was saying.

Teach him, then he will understand what you ladies have to do to find clothes. After, of course, you explain to him, how much of an inadvertent d1ck he was.

Men have no concept of women's sizing at all.

Maybe if women's sizing had any relevance to waist size, inseam, hip measurements, height, or any other actual mathematics, we'd have a better chance of understanding!!!

I feel your pain. I'm not the type to get embarassed either. One day I was standing in line at the grocery store. I thought I was lookin cute that day with my frilly tanktop and capris. The lady behind me started lifting my laundry soap onto the counter for me while she said "You shouldn't be lifting heavy things. Let me help you." I thanked her and immediately realized she thought I was PREGNANT! I didn't say anything...no need for us both to be embarassed. I cried all the way home.

Don't feel humiliated, try and learn to laugh about that. I am sure he really did not even think about it. to a man who truly loves you and respects you for who you are. They don't see size.... Try to find the positive you worked your butt off so at least he didn't yell 22. Were women and we get to hung up on size's not what we have overcome. YOU GO GIRL

Men have no idea how women's sizes work and frankly they are kind of stupid. Why not just make them like mens, you know the actual inches around? I am sure it has something to do with appearing to be a smaller size than you really are, bullocks. If you have a S/O and they havent left because your fat, be happy because he probably likes your "big *kitten*."

I can't even begin to comprehend how women's sizes work. Men's measurements always seemed much more straightforward. Waist x Length...

That said, I doubt that he meant to hurt your feelings about this, and I hope he's doing everything he can to make you feel better after putting his foot in his mouth.

I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings. He just exclaimed his surprise, thought he should have kept it to himself.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and use that moment as a motivational tool. You'll be okay. Just don't let such a wound cause you to give up. <<<huggs>>>

The implication he made by remarking on size 20 jeans is actually the exact opposite of how you took it. You see, in men's jean sizes, a 20 is considerably smaller than a women's size 0 (size 0 women can wear anywhere from 22-26 in men's jeans). I would be shocked to see a size 20 as well if I were a man and thought women had the same sizing. You'd have to be a kid to fit into them!

This is a good point.

I'm going to bet that your dude had no idea he hurt your feelings and would probably be mortified to know that he made you cry because of some probably-meaningless comment. I'm voting "unintentional."