Question for the ladies

bradp1979
bradp1979 Posts: 154 Member
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So at the gym, there's this really attractive woman who I see glancing at me occasionally when she think I don't notice. So although mid-workout isn't exactly the time and or place to meet someone, I've been considering approaching her. If someone at the gym that you found attractive approached you and said "I generally prefer to get to know someone better before they see me covered in sweat, but I'd love to get to know you in a more appropriate setting. How about coffee sometime?"

I know the ramifications if she isn't interested in me, since we tend to be at the gym at the same time around 4 times a week, but I almost feel like I'll kick myself in the *kitten* if I don't try. Any advice?
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  • RubyRubixcube
    RubyRubixcube Posts: 258 Member
    go for it!
  • seed_of_wonder
    seed_of_wonder Posts: 202 Member
    dooo it!
    theres nothing to lose
  • LittleMissRainey
    LittleMissRainey Posts: 440 Member
    As long as you keep it light and don't seem like you're crowding her like a creeper, I don't see why not!
    If she says no (more fool her!), then just say "Okay, couldn't hurt to try :smile: " and go back to your work out. Try some flexing to make her quibbly, she might change her mind :wink:

    Let us know how it goes!
  • Hichiko
    Hichiko Posts: 97 Member
    Agreed. The worst that could happen is that she says no and you go back to being strangers. What's the harm in asking? :D
  • astina2727
    astina2727 Posts: 149 Member
    Could hurt to ask...the feeling of not asking would eat at you lol...do it!!!
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i wouldnt suggest approaching her like that but that's just me and i tend to be super flirty 99% of the time except for the gym since i'm usually really focused in the gym and dont want to stop and chit chat even if it were idris elba or christian bale :laugh:

    if you see her regularly then next time why not just go up to her and tell her her routine looks interesting (if it actually does look interesting) and ask her what it is.

    spark a conversation first centered around work out stuff and if she's interested she'll respond back. after that the next time you see her you can maybe ask her out for a post workout smoothie on the next workout or something like that.
  • SilverOnTheTree
    SilverOnTheTree Posts: 102 Member
    It's a good line, I'd bite :)

    When will you ask her?

    Whether I said "yes" or "no" I REALLY wouldn't want the guy who just asked to remain directly in view for the rest of my workout. I like to grin foolishly without being observed (and who doesn't grin foolishly when complimented like that?)

    On the other hand, if you asked right at the end of my workout, you'd get a hippopotamus stare and a wheezing "huff huff eh? what? huff huff" so you definitely have to pick the right moment. Good luck!
  • Arexxx
    Arexxx Posts: 486 Member
    Well she'll probably be flattered ;)
    Go for it
  • jackieatx
    jackieatx Posts: 578 Member
    DO IT

    lifes short.
  • Kishafm
    Kishafm Posts: 5 Member
    The pick-up line I find humorous and appropriate for the setting. I will say you have some sexy, or some swagger cause some not women may find the line a bit offensive.
  • D0ry
    D0ry Posts: 59 Member
    Why don't you just say "hi" next time you meet again, as if you already know each other? Seems natural to me if you meet so often there. And then next time again and then that might lead (naturally) to a longer conversation. Asking her out could wait until you're sure, imo.

    I'm greeting a few people in the gym who I meet more often (actually mostly women, as i think about it, but that doesn't really matter - it's just the regular basis we meet that leads to a regular greeting).

    I walk from home to work. There was a guy I met everyday, walking in the opposite direction. One day one of us just smiled (it was kinda funny really) and we just started to say "hello" to eachother. Never stopped to meet and talk, but it's just nice to get a free smile at 7 am. Now I meet one girl everyday on the same way. She's looking too serious and we don't say hello...

    Good luck! :)
  • chrlslove7
    chrlslove7 Posts: 136 Member
    One of the sexiest things about a first approach is CONFIDENCE. Go for it and don't doubt yourself. Good luck.
  • head_in_rainbows
    head_in_rainbows Posts: 290 Member
    Do it. And I like your aproach. You'd definitely get me to agree if you aproached me this way:) Good luck!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    There's no better way to meet someone with common interests than when you are doing something you enjoy.

    Strike up a conversation. Wosrt case scenario is you have a friend at the gym. Best case scenario is you have a partner that likes to join you at the gym.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    There's no better way to meet someone with common interests than when you are doing something you enjoy.

    Strike up a conversation. Wosrt case scenario is you have a friend at the gym. Best case scenario is you have a partner that likes to join you at the gym.

    this.
  • mommy2AR
    mommy2AR Posts: 2,796 Member
    I honestly think you should go for it, personally i would take it as a compliment for sure if all else. It cant hurt to try and you might just form a good friendship if all else fails... Its always nice to have people in your life that are interested in the same things you are. Good Luck!!!
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    You do not know until you try it
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Do it. Your approach isn't the typical sleazy one that might be expected at the gym.


    Women love a confident man. Do it. If she says no, then boo. But I bet she won't.
  • leanne9876
    leanne9876 Posts: 301 Member
    I probably wouldn't go for that pick up line. I'd be a bit worried about some one trying to pick me up at the gym randomly, I'd be thinking I wonder if he tries to chat up all the girls that come here.
    Have you spoke to her at all before?
    Not sure about other girls but for me I need to know someone is not a sleaze looking for a one night stand.
    Maybe next time you see her just say hi and then the next time say hi how are you.
    Start talking to her, get to know her. Take things slow.
    Instead of pick up lines just talk to her, become her friend find out if you have anything in common. Just my opinion, I don't know her so it's hard to give advice on what kind of thing she likes.
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    Do it. Your approach isn't the typical sleazy one that might be expected at the gym.


    Women love a confident man. Do it. If she says no, then boo. But I bet she won't.

    Yep - Go for it! Good luck man!
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    Maybe, just maybe, she's wondering ''why does he keep looking at me?'' Say ''hi'' and see where i takes you!
  • Drunkadelic
    Drunkadelic Posts: 948 Member
    I had a guy, about 20 years older than me, approach me at the gym and say "didn't I see you running the trail this morning?" "No." He walked away. 10 mins later he came back up to me while I was in the middle of a set, wrote his name and number on my workout sheet and proceeded to show me how to do push-ups. Total creep vibe.

    Your plan sounds much better :)
  • Tisha9377
    Tisha9377 Posts: 11 Member
    I say life is WAY too short so give it a go, but I would ease into it! A smile first to make sure you get a smile back, then a hello the next time.. followed by a how ya doin.. Baby steps... I agree that Confidence is Sexy... Be brave and Be bold... Shy guy or girl getcha nowhere!!! Good luck!!!
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    Bring an extra water bottle and offer it up. I'm sure she'll come up to you after the workout and thank you.
  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
    Go for it! Though I would phase into it. The next time you see her at the gym, smile and say hello as you two pass each other. If she gives you a huge smile back and responds the same you know you are golden.. then the next day, make small talk with her asking about her day, then follow up asking if she would like to grab a cup of coffee sometime.

    This gives you a chance to interact a little and give you the opportunity to gauge what her response would be, before asking her out for coffee.

    Good luck!
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Put on your big boy pants and ask her to coffee.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I would be flattered by that approach, even if I wasn't actually interested. But it sounds like she's giving you some signals. I say go for it. If she isn't interested and she's anything but polite in her rejection, she's a jerk. Just don't interrupt her when she's concentrating. Wait until she's between exercises or clearly cooling down.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    As long as you keep it light and don't seem like you're crowding her like a creeper, I don't see why not!
    If she says no (more fool her!), then just say "Okay, couldn't hurt to try :smile: " and go back to your work out. Try some flexing to make her quibbly, she might change her mind :wink: Let us know how it goes!

    Gimme a break, she's the one staring at him. He's not the one who has to worry about being the "creeper".

    She's obviously throwing signals.

    First, make friendly (not staring) eye contact with her, and let her break it. Acknowledge her existence.
    If she breaks it quickly with no expression or blows you off - don't apologize, you then tell her to stop staring at you.
    If she smiles or maintains it for a bit, walk up at some point and say hello.

    From there, she might be attracted, or maybe not... or she might just want to talk about form/technique. But she doesn't get to stare at you, while refusing to talk to you.
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    I CAN TELL YOU THIS- last night I was at the gym and had my head phones in as usual, a guys tried to talk to me, I said I cant hear a word your saying, and I kind of snapped at him lol, then my husband walked up- and i said the same thing the same way lol, then i took em off to talk to my husband-the guy said are you together, and my husband said shes my wife...lol...(wah-wah-wah).:laugh:

    Go for it. YOU NEVER KNOW:bigsmile:
  • Klaks
    Klaks Posts: 37 Member
    Ask her!!! But don't do it when she's ya know... doing something really intense. When I workout really hard I would just want to punch the person who dared talking to me ;)
    Keep it casual and let us please know how it went! :)
    Good luck!

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