How do you react to MFP-friends, who eat way too few

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I usually don't comment unless it looks like they skipped a meal or something. Then I might ask if they're ok - sometimes they've had a rough day and appreciate someone checking on them. Otherwise I just don't leave a comment.

I only give advice to friends regarding their eating/calories/diaries when they specifically post a blog/update requesting input. Really I don't feel that it's my place to (publicly) judge anyone else's choices. What works for one person may be a disaster for another so I keep an open mind and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I just don't feel like it's my responsibility to police anyone else's eating habits, fitness, water intake, etc. aside from my own.

none of my friends here have done that...so I'm not sure what I'd say. I suppose if it was one day now and then, I wouldn't be concerned, everyone has days like that when things just dont go right. If it was every day, I'm not sure.
I do have a couple of friends who are eating the right amount of calories, and exercizing, and losing ok...and who never eat a fruit or vegetable. Like almost never ever. I want to support them, but I can't support day after day of unhealthy eating. I end up saying nothing at all most of the time, and then making a positive comment when I do see something good on there.

I don't understand why some of the posters here are getting so upset about the possibility of someone commenting on their diaries. If it's such a sore spot, why don't you make your food diary private then? That is a sure fire way to not get any comments.

Also, I don't have any friends - at least not that I noticed - that eat under 1200 a day, but if I had any that did that a lot, I would just drop them. The end of story. I want to surround myself with healthy people with healthy brains. I have enough issues of my own to be dealing with someone else's baggage.

Those are my two cents.

PS: You can't save people. They have to want to save themselves. If you notice, it's usually young misguided girls that eat like that ... they'll grow out of it sooner or later. I myself was like that some 5 years ago and I also thought I knew what I was doing and thought everyone else was just a hater or envying me ... now, when I think back, I'm just laughing at my own idiocy. There was no help for me then, I had to arrive to that realization on my own.

Hugs!

I agree with you and I feel if someone has a personal and sensitive comment to make they should send a private message so they arent humiliated infront of everyone since it is a very sensitive subject.

They might be doing intermittent fasting. Or they may have an eating disorder which they're aware of. Or they may have a lot of allergies/sensitivities to food, and thus have difficulty reaching a higher calorie intake. My approach is to get to know the person, to observe the kinds of comments others make and the person's responses. Generally it's not necessary for me to say anything. My friends tend to be quite self-aware.

I do intermittent fasting. I have stated this on my profile, and I post updates about it, so if anyone were to comment 'OMG - you're not eating enough calories!' on a fasting day, I would feel irritated that they hadn't bothered reading the context behind it. But if someone posts advice about my food intake based on the context of what they've read of my updates and profile, then it doesn't bother me at all, whether or not I agree with it, so long as it's done respectfully.

I don't understand why some of the posters here are getting so upset about the possibility of someone commenting on their diaries. If it's such a sore spot, why don't you make your food diary private then? That is a sure fire way to not get any comments.

Because kindly meant or not, it's still passing judgement on someone.

And most people with weight issues, whether too fat or too thin, have had a lifetime of people taking one look at them and judging them.

And because it's hard to change your diet and what I, personally, want from a place like this is support and encouragement, not criticism, especially not from people who don't know me.

And my food diary is private for that reason. My one MFP friend (who I know away from this site) can see it and she can comment on it because she knows me and she understands where I'm coming from. She's not a random stranger shouting "UR DOING IT WRONG!"

If I was at a party, I wouldn't go up to a badly-dressed woman and randomly start dispensing fashion advice. I don't see why it's any different because we're talking about food and we're on the internet.

I see your point, however, I've never known anyone whose health has been adversely affected (creating poor quality of life and eventually hastening death) because they wore clothing/hair that was out of style.

Nothing? Maybe they need a friend to just talk and have fun without being teached all day!

But if they are 18y old girls with one pic of a skinny something and nothing filled out in the profil....ignore them, cause are 50y old fat guys....