Long distance relationships.

MY wife went to School in Pittsburgh, PA and I went to School in NJ, we dated 6 years, been married for 15...together 21.....yes it can work.

Have to be trusting and loose and not controlling for a relationship to work.

When me and my husband met we lived 80 miles apart, which to you people in the USA probably seems like nothing but to me it was long distance because we only really saw each other on weekends as it was a 3 hour round trip do couldn't really be done in the week. Anyway we did that for a year then I moved to his home town and 5 years on from that we are about to celebrate our first wedding anniversary.

Personally I think long distance relationships will only work if you are both committed and with a big of give and take. You always have times when it feels so rubbish you can't see them, or when you start to doubt it but we had way more quality time together than a lot of couples who live close by. Ultimately my relationship lasted because I was willing to move, and I think realistically it will only ever work if one of you is willing to do that. If you both want to stay in your home town, that's when problems arise.

I agree here. You do have to want to eventually be together. One or the other will need to move.
Currently, for my bf and I, I can't move because I need family around to help with my kids (Special needs) and he just seems to want to stay where he is. He says he will move, but It really doesn't seem like it. I am personally losing faith and he seems to want to just brush it off. I am not sure how to approach it any more because of this.

I have been in a long distance relationship I in Michigan and he in Chicago (200 miles). We made it work for 2 years without any problems. Between us driving to see one another, phone calls and the internet. We had a amazing trust and solid communication. It ended shortly after he moved back to South Africa to be with his very ill mother. At the time it would not have been safe for me to move there. After 6 months of not seeing him and a major time difference we decided to end it.

My then boyfriend, now husband, and I lived 4 hours apart. I was in Georgia and he was in South Carolina. We texted regularly and Skyped almost every night : ] We kept things interesting and learned a lot about each other during this time. Yes, sometimes it was really hard to be apart, but I feel like it brought us closer together. About the 3rd year we were together, he moved to Georgia to be closer to me as I finished my senior year of college and he proposed in September of that year (2010). Last December we got married!

I'm currently in one. I live in Norway and he lives in England. At the moment we're trying to find him work here so that we can see each other more often. To be honest long distance relationships are hard and they require a lot of trust, but there are a lot of good things that come out of it. If you're in one the distance can either ruin the relationship or make it even greater. Depends if the person you're with is someone you would actually consider spending the rest of your life with i guess. For me it's made my feelings grow much stronger and even though being apart isn't fun, the joy of seeing them after a few months is amazing.

I've done it a few times. I actually REALLY like it because the visits are freaking awesome because you actually get to miss each other which doesn't really happen when you live close to someone. The first one was my high school boyfriend who went away to college a year before me...didn't work out b/c he was a jerk. Second one was in college and lasted a year and a half, we only broke up because our lives were going in very different directions. Third one...I married almost 7 years ago, and when that one started I was in Pennsylvania and he was in California! It can work!

It can work out. I have friends for whom it has.

I was in one for some time (he was in England, I was here). It ended, though, because he didn't trust *me* and I had (still have) close male friends through the martial arts group I was involved in. He was terrified I was going to dump him for one of them and so decided to dump me first.

If either of you has trust issues, it's a recipe for disaster.

Been there, it was fun and it taught me a lot about patience, commitment and the reality of love.

Want to do it again, with someone but meh, he isnt into them.

I am currently in a LDR, I live in Texas, he is Illinois. Been together for the past 2 and a half years, and it is so freakin hard, we have our up's and downs, but I rather have him than any other man here in Houston. Very expensive too! But he is worth it! Try to communicate on a daily basis, and answer all the questions he asks and make sure you check in with him so he knows you are okay, and we Skype a lot so we can see each other, we text regularly as well. He is my best friend and my confidant... and I trust him. Don't go into a LDR if you can't trust him, and don't let haters get in your ear and put things in your mind. If I have a concern, I tell him and we talk about it so it is not a issue.

I'm about to be - the universities we are going to are 17 hours apart. But we've got something really unique and I know we'll survive. It's just going to hard to miss each other so much. we both are very secure with each other though never had a jealous tendency so I'm not worried about that.

I met my husband while I was vacationing in Turks and Caicos Islands down in the Caribbean. VERY long distance!!! But we made visits, talked everyday, skyped, etc. We did that for 9 months before marrying! We couldn't wait any longer and just eloped lol. We are VERY happy but of course we have our moments, lol But I would rather argue with him than not have him in my life at all (or him back in the islands)

I live in Tulsa, OK and my boyfriend of 4 years lives in Cairo, Egypt. We met in college in Central Texas. He graduated before I did, moved back home to Dallas and then when I moved to Tulsa for a teaching job, he took off to Cairo to go to graduate school. Most of our relationship, we have lived apart. It sucks and I hate every second I am away from him. In the past year, we have seen each other a total of 25 days, not consecutively and usually several months in between. Honestly, the stress of this distance has been a major contribution to my significant weight gain. It's hard. Very, very hard.

As far as tips, like everyone else says, trust. You have to trust what your partner is doing and more importantly, trust their love for you. In my case, I just have to trust that he is safe and okay, which is difficult when the leading cause of death in Cairo is traffic accident and there are violent protests on a regular basis. However, I trust who he is and the choices he makes and even when I feel insecure, I know he absolutely adores me. Long distance relationships take a lot of effort. It means staying up late to Skype due to different time zones. It means missing happy hours to rush home from work to talk. It means essentially living the life of a single person, without the fun of flirting, lol. We get by with as many emails and Skype conversations as we can manage, some solid hobbies, good friends and a lot of wine. If both partners are willing to put in the effort, it can definitely work. True love knows no distance. If it's meant to be, surely it will find a way. Best of luck.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship. I laugh at people who are like "OMG my boyfriend lives 4 hours away! I can only see him like every other week!" Dude...my boyfriend is AUSTRALIAN. I am AMERICAN. I have seen him TWICE in a year and a half lol. Granted one of those times he was with me for 3 months but still lol. Honestly, if you TRULY love someone it will work no matter how far away you are. Don't get me wrong. It is NOT easy. NOT at all. NOT one bit but neither of us can imagine being with anyone else so we're doing what we have to do. I'm probably going to see him next month and I'm hoping for a ring so keep your fingers crossed for me haha.

Ever been in one? How did it work out? How far apart?

I'm talking states. Very new relationship, very excited about it and nervous at the same time. I have jealousy issues that I never knew I had, with him. Tips? tricks? ideas?!

lol HELP!!

I also developed some jealousy issues with my current SO. It's hard but I'm working on it. We are currently 5000miles away. The ONLY reason I decided to go for it is because we had been dating for 8 months before I moved and I am due to move back in January. We have seen each other once in july, once in august and we get to spend all of october together.

I am in Nashville, Tn and he is from Dublin, Ireland. The distance and time difference sucks but we have made it work over a year so far