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Connect back with friends that you may have dodged or missed during the 4 years...
Work out...
Boxing gets a lot of anger out for me... Lifting does too... You realize how truly small you are when you do things like that and it humbles me... but boxing is my ultimate release. You punch and strike until you can no longer do it and the endorphines help...0 -
Listen to the song let yourself go.......go on a run go on a vacation, go on another 5k, go find a different new life, go try a new thing, go hiking
go fishing
go running
go scuba diving
go cave dwelling
go with friend on a cruise
go to a different county
LET YOUR SELF GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0 -
SHOPPING!!!!! lol shoe shopping ALWAYS makes me feel better :-)
Also hang out with family and friends who love you ;-)0 -
You have come so far, you are half way to your goal. Don't stop, don't give up. Go out and spoil yourself. be sad, be angry, be mad at him. It is his loss, not yours. Pamper yourself with a manicure or pedi or massage or GNO or something.
Awe..what great advice. :smooched:0 -
You're gorgeous! Go get yourself something new, play happy music, exercise - the endorphins will make this all easier! Get a night out with your mates... When something really sad happens in my life I give myself a full day to really feel sad about it, I feel just as sad as I can about it for that day, I indulge the feeling and get it out and over with! The next day I just move the hell on x0
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Men suck...sorry guys...most of you do at one time or another. Take care of you girl and get yourself to where YOU want to be...happy with yourself...then you'll find that Mr. Right...0
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Sorry to hear!! What was the reasoning he gave? That's just awful! Maybe it's for the best though! Keep thinking he wasn't the right one and there's someone better out there just for you! Definitely no Ben and Jerry! Though in small amounts wouldn't be too bad. What I do with ice cream, put a tiny bit in a bowl and not eat out of the pint, I'm too lazy to get more :laugh:
I'm happy to hear you didn't go that route, that's totally awesome!!0 -
SO sorry to hear that!! Very unfortunate...
BUT everything happens for some reason whether we can see it at the time or it takes us years to look back and realize. Right now I think it's best that you keep doing positive things for yourself, keep working on your goals. It may sting a lot right now but you are going to look incredible and feel so accomplished once you are able to move on from this.0 -
Congrats on making your first 5k!!!Last weekend was one of the best I ever had. I completed my first 5K, which was first on my bucket list.
Today, I got dumped after being together for 4 years.
Ouch.
The old me would immediately go home, get in my sweats along with my old pals Ben and Jerry and eat myself into a coma.
I will NOT do that this time. I have come too far, worked too hard, accomplished too much to revert back to my old ways and a pint with a spoon.
So....any advice on how to get past this without food? I worked out and that didn't really help. At this point, I am open to any suggestions.
This sucks y'all. :frown:
As far as picking yourself up, good job!! I've been in your situation. Do things you want to do. Do something that will make you feel beautiful (not that you aren't anyway!) and always laugh at yourself :happy: Go out with friends. Do some crafts, writing, reading...etc. I did a lot of writing and reading after being left. It really kept my thoughts away from what I had lost. Keep your mind busy. It can be hard, but make sure to do things for you. Most importantly, if you slip up, don't worry. Keep moving forward.0 -
The fastest way to get over a man, is to get under another one.
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Definitely pamper yourself in other ways! Go shopping, get a new hairstyle, get a mani/pedi, have a night out with friends, go on a nice nature hike! I know it's tough, but keeping busy and doing things you enjoy while staying healthy will make yourself feel better in the long run.0
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Girl,
It's his loss NOT yours. You are beautiful, take care of yourself and I am assuming a good person. Just get yourself all dolled up, grab a few girlfriends, go out and FLIRT with every guy that is in your sight..believe me, they will respond and you will feel better. Go dancing, to a wine tasting, a comedy club..somewhere...and just have fun.
It will take time to get over him. I still hurt from my last break up..but I know he is not what is best for me. So know what you deserve, try not to fret too much.
Though, when you are having those moment where it hurts SOOOO bad you feel like your can't breathe...I cried, cried, cried and cried myself to sleep..then I wasn't eating. Crying can be so tiring and catharticc as well...0 -
My boyfriend of 3.5 yrs on and off broke up with me a month ago... we were trying to stay freinds...and then this weekend he started dating a woman who was a thorn in the relationship a lot of that time...so I had to make the uterally painful choice to completely end even the freindship..and let him learn his lessons on his own. He was my best earthly freind...( in a different way then my bestest sista freind...but you know what i mean..) and it trully sucks.
It is NOT easy...but hold tight to WHY you are on this weight loss journey... it is for YOU...for YOUR HEALTH...and for YOUR PEACE... if you have kids, or are a person of faith, it is for those reasons as well.
The old me would have dove into food as well. The new me, refuses to do that. Don;t bear yourself up if you slip a day or so, but don;t allow a downward spiral to derail all your hard work... you can do this! I have also heard it said, that if something is taken from you, it just means something even more incredible is on the horizon. I ever so TRULY hope that holds truth...as I thought this precious man was my soulmate.
(((((hugs to you)))))
PS~ you have a beautiful light in your eyes. Don't let any man, situation, heartache steal that light! Eyes are the *gateway to the soul* and you can see kindness and love in yours. Some GOOD man will see that in the future..and be captivated!!!!!!0 -
I'll tell you what a good friend of mine told me after a relationship that I was in ended after 5 years. She said, "The best way to get over a guy is to get under another one."
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It's not advice that I took right away, but it did make me smile. Best wishes to you. :flowerforyou:0 -
everytime you reach for the ice cream you need to think about the next time you see him. imagine yourself being fitter, feeling healthier and looking fantastic. NOTHING feels as good as looking amazing in front of your ex
it's a new start for you, all that independance. look at it as a fresh start, hes done you a favour 
chin up and keep going girl he's not worth it anyway. xxx 0 -
The fastest way to get over a man, is to get under another one.
I LOVE what my good friend Dawn said^^^^^ this is a good solution too...
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Also, blare The Muppet Theme song. It is not possible to be sad while hearing it.0
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Don't give anyone the satisfaction, when they see you two years from now, of thinking 'Oh look, she got chunky since we dated!'.
Make dat fool sorry for dumping your hawt *kitten*!!!!!!0 -
Exercise will be your best friend right now! Especially HIIT training, will get the adrenaline going and give you some endorphines... will make you feel a whole lot better! x0
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Hello there.
I recently went through a break up, also. Don't give up darling. I did, and now it's the hardest thing to get motivated anymore. Go for a run, get things off your mind. When you get up set think of motivation, or come on here & we will motivate you. Remember you're doing this for yourself, but then again it doesn't hurt to think you're gonna be sexy as hell by the end.
YOU CAN DO THIS SWEETHEART. Don't let us down!0 -
Last weekend was one of the best I ever had. I completed my first 5K, which was first on my bucket list.
Today, I got dumped after being together for 4 years.
Ouch.
The old me would immediately go home, get in my sweats along with my old pals Ben and Jerry and eat myself into a coma.
I will NOT do that this time. I have come too far, worked too hard, accomplished too much to revert back to my old ways and a pint with a spoon.
So....any advice on how to get past this without food? I worked out and that didn't really help. At this point, I am open to any suggestions.
This sucks y'all. :frown:
Wow...I feel for ya. I, personally, would workout like a mad woman, and then drink myself into oblivion, while spending a *kitten* ton of time with my girl friends. *hugs* Hang in there!!!0 -
You are beautiful... so finding the person you are to be with will not be too challenging. To get through the hurt, try to think you YOUSELF. how will over eating affect you? how will you feel after ben and jerry has left you on the couch? dont invite pity to stay over longer than a day... he will try to get comfortable and take over your life. Shake it off and get going again. Best of luck, Tara0
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Get out there and start training for a 10k. I can't believe how many times I cried through a run while my father was dying. Running allowed me a time to be with my feelings in a positive manner. I can out stronger from it in so many ways.0
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Sorry to hear that.
You need to do other things that you enjoy that don't involve food. Sitting at home moping will encourage you to eat.
Go shopping, treat yourself to a new handbag or a new pair of shoes, immerse yourself in your friends.
Failing that, take up boxing and pretend the punch bag is your ex. Angry workouts burn lots of calories. ;-)0 -
Though, when you are having those moment where it hurts SOOOO bad you feel like your can't breathe...I cried, cried, cried and cried myself to sleep..then I wasn't eating. Crying can be so tiring and catharticc as well...
I totally agree with this. Some people think that they have to be strong and that strong = not crying when sometimes its exactly what you need to release the feelings that would otherwise go into a pint of B&J. If you don't want to 'waste your tears' over this guy then put The Green Mile or Marley and Me or The Notebook on the TV and cry over something else.
In a similar situation I found that at night trying to get to sleep i run conversations through my head that I wanted to have with him and that kept me awake. So I wrote down what I wanted to say in the form of a letter. I'll probably never send it, but it got it out of my head and allowed me to get some sleep!0 -
You did absolutely right to post. All of us have gone through something similar.
The support you have here, as well as from friends and family, will help you get through it.
It's not going to be possible to just shake it off - four years is susbstantial time.
But know that YOU are an awesome child of the universe!
(And your ex doesn't have the rest of us awesome MFPers to keep him company) 0 -
Smart *kitten* answer- I'll be your online sex buddy
Serious answer is not to get bored. Idle time makes you think which brings memories. Join a gym or club. Take some classes. Avoid old stomping grounds for a while.0 -
After a breakup i get a second job... that way im too busy to deal with the drama and i have extra cash.0
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I run when I'm angry. I just think about the thing that is making me angry and it makes me run faster and harder.0
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Omgosh, I am so sorry! I don't really have any advice, just wanted to tell you how sorry I am!0
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