Dumped

lean on your friends and realize that if he would do that to you he is not worth you. you deserve so much more. stay strong. lean on us for support. we are here for you.

Remember that time wounds all heals.
Will Rogers

Sorry to hear that, it's a bad place to be in. My usual response to bad things happening is alcohol rather than food, but's it's as damaging to your diet.

Everyone has made really good suggestions - but I just wanted to say that if you do give in and get a tub of Ben and Jerry's save some for me... I mean don't beat yourself up about it, that'll make it worse. The next day, go for a long run or go to the gym, do something to mitigate the eating you've done. I think it's important to be prepared for that eventuality, but have a recovery plan!

I hope you get through the next couple of weeks okay, they'll be the hardest. I also think that what someone said about having a wardrobe clear out - I had to do that this weekend for totally different reasons, and it's really cathartic. You feel mentally lighter after, if not physically.

Sorry that this happened to you! Men suck!! Ok...women suck sometimes, too, but in this case MEN SUCK! I am going to assume you are very proud of finishing your first 5k, so I would find another one and sign up. Make it a goal to beat your time. Maybe also sign up for a 10k in 4 months or a Half Marathon (if you are so inclined to keep going) in 6 months. I know, for me, having a training schedule that I MUST keep is good for me. I like my long days at the park to just clear my head and then it's harder to indulge in something bad when I know it would negate the good I just did. This way you have time to think and grieve about what happened in a healthy way and when you are done, you are a faster person! Good luck!

I'm sorry It's really difficult, but it gets easier with time. I got dumped really for no good reason (or no good reason he was willing to share with me) so I was really angry. I channeled my anger into running. Every day. I lost a lot of weight and I became a dude magnet! haha. But until that initial pain passed, my mom told me that every time I picked up the phone to call him, call her instead. I took her up on this, and she received many 3am phone calls of me crying hysterically, but it really helped. Maybe your bff or a family member can do this for you?

And book your weekends for like 6 weeks straight. Call up old friends. Family, anybody. Make them hang out with you! After 6 weeks I was exhausted and ready to be alone, and I was fine. I found happiness again after a few months.

You will get through this and come out the other side being stronger and a better person in general. :flowerforyou:

Join a kickboxing class Pretend the bag is him that's always helped me, and besides, it is an amazing workout.

Talk it out... keep a journal, write a blog, find a support group, go to a good dinner with supportive friends.
Work it out - run, walk, swim, SWEAT - every time you want to eat, find something else to do.
Take up a hobby - fill your hands with crafts, books, games, or art instead of food.
Feed your soul - yoga, sleep, therapy (if desired), and church if it's your thing.

Just some thoughts -I've had a rough year with my husband's health and these are some things I do. If you slip and binge, forgive yourself and move on to the next day.

These are all excellent ideas. I was also in a 4 year relationship...while leaving was my choice, it didn't make the pain any less. I can tell you that it does get better--that relationship is 8 years behind me and getting out of it was the right thing to do, so I have no regrets. Anyway, one of the things I did at the time was to start volunteering for several different charities, including an animal shelter and a dog rescue group. If you don't have pets of your own--animals give unconditional love and most shelters/organizations can really use the help.

It will get better!

Best wishes,
Ellen

I have to say I'm so proud that you made the decision not to have a love making session with Ben and Jerry. Their threesomes aren't worth it.

Now, go do something for yourself, hair, nails, massage, pedi, something and than get some friends together and laugh!

Do something special for yourself that doesn't include food. Hair cut, mani/pedi, do something that you really enjoy, call a friend and go out and walk the mall. It won't take away the hurt and rejection but with time and friends you can get thru it. Friend me if you'd like!

I'm soo sorry :sad: There has been some great advice on here like getting a hair cut ( I don't know why but that always seems to make me feel better) Realizing that this too will pass. One other thing I always say to myself may sound juvenile but it really helps
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming"

I'm sorry. I know that the only thing that will make the pain go away is time.
I agree that some pampering is in order. Haircut, mani/pedi, massage, some new clothes or perfume...whatever will remind you that you are beautiful (YOU ARE!)
And maybe next time you go workout, look around and notice the other guys out there who are noticing you. Not to jump back into any sort of relationship so soon, but just to remind yourself that there is a big world of possibilities out there.

THEIR LOSS!

You're fabulous, and deserve better. :flowerforyou:

He dumped you!! is he madd you are beautiful l better off without him stick to your goals his loss Mikee xx

I feel you! All these people here with their wonderful advice. All I can tell you is what not to do...I was really successful with mfp and exercise durring the beginning of the year. I was down 30 lbs in 3 months when my husband left me for another woman and within the last 5 months I've put almost all of it back on. I really tried at first to stay on track but his continual extravagant lies beat me into a pulp and left me unable to function. So here I am back at the beginning of the struggle wishing I hadn't done the back slide. Don't do it! You've come so far already!

Wishing you all the best in your journey!