I want to give up!
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Just remember muscle is denser than fat and if you are working out a lot as it sounds as though you are,
you may not be eating enough. Just be honest and it will come off.
Keep going!!
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Look at your actions as a lifestyle change. Don't consult the scale. My weight fluctuates up to 7 pounds in one day, and sometimes even weigh more in the morning than I did the night before. BUT - I keep working hard, exercising at least 4 times a week, and my clothes feel better, I feel better, and I know it's working.
I couldn't get up at 5 am and expect to stick to that schedule. I go to the gym when my day allows, at whatever time I can, and I don't get upset when I miss a day. That's just life. But, the key is that I have worked out for long enough (9 weeks) that now I miss the gym when I miss a day.
Sometimes I have 15 minutes, so I walk for 15 minutes. Sometimes I have two hours, and I push as hard as I can for 2 hours.
This journey is long and it's progressive. You have the power to make this happen.
Don't give up!
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DON'T GIVE UP!!!
That said - sounds like you may need to add weights to your routine, muscle burns more calories and it will help increase your bone density - which is really important for women as we get older. You will gain muscle, lose fat, burn more calories overall and increase your bone health!0 -
I was just reading this on Jillian Michael's page, "take a minute to think about what the scale is NOT telling you — like what a strong and healthy individual you're becoming. Do you have more endurance? Have you lost inches from your waist? Do you look better in your clothes? Don't be a slave to the scale." Hope it helps!!
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Open that diary!
When you feel like giving up just remember all the reasons you decided to make the change. KEEP doing this. You WILL see results and you will be so damn happy and proud that you perservered when you DO see that initial loss. Trust me. We have ALL felt like giving up-
If you give up what's the alternative- back to where you were before? What sounds worse- going back to your old life, or keeping up the good work? What will be the outcome of each choice?0 -
I changed my diary setting to public.0
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Tweaking your settings and not eating back all the exercise calories might just work for you. Don't give in. Don't give up. This is a long term battle most of us are fighting for all we're worth.
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There are two possible issues. You might not be logging your food intake correctly. Use a scale if you can. It helps take the guess work out. Secondly you could be overestimating calories burned during exercise. I see lots of people do this. They'll work out for 30 minutes and claim they burned 500 calories when they probably only burned 300. If both those are correct and you're absolutely sure about it then you're just consuming too many calories.0
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Oh, have I been there! When this happened to me, I started journalling my thoughts and feelings and writing down inspriational quotes that empowered me. This reduced my stress and changed my focus. I feel strong and accomplished after I work out, that's why I do it. I have to do it in the morning though, it makes me feel strong for the day and motivates me to eat well so I don't blow the calorie loss. I do weigh myself every day, I need to hold myself accountable. I eat well as much as possible, because there are enough times where it is hard (someone else is cooking, parties etc) so the rest of the time I need to be on. Food doesn't control me, I control it. I drink 72-96 ounces of water a day, I exercise for 1 hour every morning (5:30) and set a 10-10:30 lights out curfew - no exceptions.... the kitchen flooor is just fine the way it is! I am starting to realize why I eat through the journalling and its liberating to know its not just willpower, there are deep seeded reasons why we have given up or don't hold ourselves to a higher standard. The brain is the most important weight loss muscle! I also make my breakfast, lunches and snacks for the day the night before so there is no guess work and when you do it after dinner when you are full, you are less likely to put junk in it. I eat 2 eggs for breakfast, 2 low fat yogurts for snacks during the day, tuna wrap or fiesta vegetable soup for lunch, and 1 piece of fruit (no bananas). I often have some fresh veggies as well, and have fall back's if I am still hungry such as a protien shake, nuts and seeds mix or a vitamuffin top if I am still hungry. I am never hungry and even with having a normal dinner (at the whim of my husband), I am still around 1200 calories a day. Make your plan doable. In my first two weeks I have lost 12 pounds - though a bunch i am sure is because I have added a fibre drink once every few days and reduced salt and more water has flushed out toxins. I did some research on breathing as well, and found out that sometimes we don't breath deep enough, which can affect weight loss - they said a pound a day. Don't know if its true, but the deep breathing is rejuvinating and almost like meditating during the day. Stay with us, you are worth the effort and you can only succeed from eating well and exercising.0
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Hey - Don't give up! I felt like you did; I was doing everything "right" - exercise, calories etc, but I also had "mystery pounds" that came and went overnight or over a couple days. I started reading about how foods can cause inflammation in our bodies, but since it is not a recognizable "allergy" with specific symptoms, many people don't realize it. I did a six week elimination diet to find out what my body is sensitive (but not intolerant) to. Some of the biggest are gluten, dairy, legumes (including soy, peanuts and peanut butter, beans) eggs, nitrites (found in processed meats) citrus and a few I can't remember. Once your body is cleared out of the inflammatory food, you will notice a BIG difference, especially in your belly. As long as it is not an allergy, but a sensitivity, you can eventually add a very small amount of the irritants back on a very occasional basis. If you are paying attention, your body will tell you (mystery pounds!)
I did this and it changed my life for the better. I still am working on losing weight, but I don't keep having the same mystery pounds bouncing the scale up and down and I feel a lot better! Remember if there was a silver bullet for all things that ail our bodies, it is exercise! Keep up the good work and know your body is getting healthier!!0 -
Hey, I just joined about a week ago and I can understand your frustration. I have always worked out 3-4 times a week doing spin classes, yoga, swimming and I walk my dog every night for about 20 min. Yet, my weight has been increasing steadily for the past 2 years. I've joined this program in desparation to loose the weight that is gathering around my middle. All I can think of for you is to really watch your sugar intake. It's surprising how quickly the daily goal for sugar is reached just by having some fruit or tomatoes. Luckliy red wine only has 1gm of sugar! My calorie goal is 1200 but with exercise I can usually get it up to around 1500. In the first week I've lost 2 lbs but no inches. Also, check for food additives and try to eat only natural, organic food. Good luck!0
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focus on one thing at a time...losing weight is like 90% what you eat and 10% exercise. Change your diet first then start the exercise routine once you get eating habits down.0
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It takes a lot of time. You have to figure out if you are exercising enough and if you are taking enough food or taking too much food. Also, try doing some cardio workouts.0
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I think you get the picture by now...you wont "see" results in 2 weeks, but you should feel better. Your food intake is just as important as working out. Eat clean and lean and cut out the fats, sugars and "bad" carbs (eat low glycemic fruits!). In another 2 weeks you will have results. Its easier said than done, but its healthy and it works. Everyone is different, but weight loss is science and no going around that. Also, your a woman...our weight fluctuates (water retention) and your most likely replacing the fat with muscle (awesome!). Good luck!! You cant give up on yourself whatever you do.0
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I looked at your diary.
3 things I would tweak are
1. Start tracking your salt and sugar.
2. Your diet has allot of good stuff in there! But cut out some of that processed stuff. Make your own pizza. Ditch the candy and chocolate milk, use rice milk instead. Switch up your snacks to be nuts, fruits, etc instead of processed sugar (empty calories).
3. Eat back fewer exercise calories, and see how you feel in a week.0 -
Trust me, you don't want to give up. If you're truly unhappy with yourself, you CAN'T give up. These changes you want to see won't fall into your lap. No one else can make it happen. Only YOU can make the changes, alright! Don't give up!
Now, give us more details. What are your workouts? How much are you eating? What kind of foods are you eating? Are you only relying on the scale to measure your weight loss?0 -
I agree with the other posters, you have to find something that works for YOU. This is a lifestyle change and if you can't and don't want to workout at 5am DONT DO IT!! I would never do that to myself becuase I hit snooze on the alarm as many times as I can until I am running around the house.
Try working out in the evening... Keep to it, we didn't get this way overnight, and it takes time... and the time is going to pass anyways, so keep at it.0 -
Don't give up! You CAN do this! It takes devotion but it CAN be done!
A big thing you have to try to avoid: STRESS!! especially stress about losing weight, because stress CAUSES weight gain!
You also have to be careful what you're eating, you may be around your calorie goal but what about everything else, carbs, sugars, fats? It's all stuff you have to keep an eye on.
I'm not a professional athelete or anything but I know it can be hard to lose weight and eat properly and work out but if you need a support team, you can always message me. I'm always looking to help others and for some encouragment myself.0 -
How many days are you working out per week? Are you lifting weights, at all? You may be eating too few calories, too.0
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You will get there. It generally takes 6 weeks to see a change but you will and you will be surprised! If you give up you will only feel worse.0
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Do not give up! You have started this journey and you have to finish strong. Now just take this time to start fresh. Reevaluate your cals. Make sure you are eating enough calories because you are exercing alot. Also take your measurememts because muscle ways more than fat. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water. Cut down on sodium. Make sure your measurememts are precise. Its hard and it takes time, but it will all be worth it!0
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I would say rather than give up, let go of your "all or nothing" mentality. You don't HAVE to workout every single day or starve to lose weight. Even a small caloric deficit will add up over time. Work out on the days you feel up to it. Log every single thing you eat even if you go over. Start small and gradually make changes you can live with. Also, you are going to be pretty hungry if you use your calories on cake and chips, etc. Try to avoid these for just a week and get in 5-6 servings of fruits and veggies and plenty of lean protein and then see how you feel. You can do *anything* for a week!0
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Do NOT give up!!!! You can do this! Give your body time to adjust to the changes you are making! Also what is your food intake like!? Try to eliminate as MANY processed foods as you can! That will help alot!
Good luck!!!!
Love and hugs
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First thought that came to mind is that your exercise calories could be severely inflated unless you are using an HRM. So I would take a look at whether you are really burning what you are logging.0
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Don't give up.
This is what your body wants - don't give in to it or be foiled by it. It doesn't want to use up those cherished reserves it has been painstakingly putting aside "just in case" - you simply have to persist until it gets the idea that the rainy day it has been saving for is NOW!
I haven't looked at your diary - I was stuck for a month after losing 10 kilos in 10 days but have started downwards again.
It is frustrating - but what is the alternative?0 -
Oh, have I been there! When this happened to me, I started journalling my thoughts and feelings and writing down inspriational quotes that empowered me. This reduced my stress and changed my focus. I feel strong and accomplished after I work out, that's why I do it. I have to do it in the morning though, it makes me feel strong for the day and motivates me to eat well so I don't blow the calorie loss. I do weigh myself every day, I need to hold myself accountable. I eat well as much as possible, because there are enough times where it is hard (someone else is cooking, parties etc) so the rest of the time I need to be on. Food doesn't control me, I control it. I drink 72-96 ounces of water a day, I exercise for 1 hour every morning (5:30) and set a 10-10:30 lights out curfew - no exceptions.... the kitchen flooor is just fine the way it is! I am starting to realize why I eat through the journalling and its liberating to know its not just willpower, there are deep seeded reasons why we have given up or don't hold ourselves to a higher standard. The brain is the most important weight loss muscle! I also make my breakfast, lunches and snacks for the day the night before so there is no guess work and when you do it after dinner when you are full, you are less likely to put junk in it.
Just wanted to say thanks, I found this response very helpful.0 -
Yes, I use a HRM. I don't work out without it.0
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First, and sorry if this sounds harsh it isn't intended to be, you start out saying you are serious and then want to give up in 2 weeks. If you are truly serious then this should be a lifestyle change that you need to commit to it long term. Take this as a challenge to your body that you will defeat this extra weight, take control back.
Second, you are eating a lot of processed foods that will be very high in sodium. I would recommend tracking your sodium as well and doing what you can to remain below that mark. Sodium will cause you to retain water which will make it more difficult to lose the weight.
Third, there are many posts on here going into the science behind this, but when you first start a new workout routine your body will store water in the muscles to aid in repairing them from the shock you have just put them through. This water storage can last up to 4 weeks, which could easily account for your added weight.
Lastly, don't give up! You obviously weren't happy with where your were/are in your life. Giving up is only going to take you further down that path. Reassess your diet. The goal shouldn't just be lower calories, but healthier better food. Ultimately, you will probably lose the weight working with everything you are currently doing, you are meeting your calorie deficit goals and are working out. However, you will feel better and everything will probably go better if you started eating in a healthier way (I know you are probably really busy with life and that makes doing a whole food diet much more difficult but it is worth it if you can fit it in).0 -
I don't know your weight -- but perhaps you are already where you are supposed to be.
Is it possible that you are at a healthy weight and should just rejoice where you are and just maintain that weight.0 -
On September 10, I started really getting serious with my weight loss goal. I have gotten up at 5am every week day and have worked out. I work out later in the day on Saturday, and Sunday is my rest day. Some days I work out twice, and also get one or two 15 minute walks in durring the work day. I have logged in on MFP, and stayed pretty close to my calorie goal. I gained 2 pounds in the first week. I dropped those 2 mystery pounds, but now exactly where I started 14 days ago. I have no progress. No pounds down, no inches lost. I am not a morning person at all. It is HUGE that I get up at 5am to do these work outs (Hip Hop Abs). I want to quit! I feel like I'm doing all this hard work for nothing.
Don't give up! You just started! What you are doing might not be right for you. You need to find something you actually like and can honestly see yourself doing for the rest of your life.
I have been trying to lose weight for YEARS. I've tried everything and I busted my A** doing things I hated and ate foods I didn't like. I gave up things I loved and wasn't seeing much to any changes. And the things that did work were temporary. The second I took a break I would gain weight back.
I ended up going to the Dr. a couple months ago thinking there was something wrong with me because I was trying so hard and nothing was happening. The Dr. told me to stop trying to lose weight and just focus on getting healthy. That has been my philosophy since I joined MFP and it's working!
My Husband and I got bikes and started going on bike rides with our kids as a family. We recently got a dog and walk her one to two times a day. We live close enough we can walk our kids to school and do that twice a day. I don't stress about what I eat anymore either. I find I'm making smarter choices now but if we want to have a family pizza night we order pizza and I eat it. I'm just not eating as much. And would you believe it, I'm losing weight now! It's been super slooooow but it's been steady!
So don't give up! You just need to try different things and find the one or two things that will work for YOU!0
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