What do you look for in a partner?

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  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    All the usual stuff, plus they MUST be smarter than me. Otherwise, I can tend to be manipulative. Then I lose interest very quickly.
  • FitBeto
    FitBeto Posts: 2,121 Member
    If I can tolerate, i can mate.
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    A great sense of humor, a calm demeanor, a general respect for living things, and a playful, open-minded outlook.

    Oh, and he has to try at least a bite of whatever I cook for him no matter what it is. You cannot say you don't like it until you have tried it.
  • toriaenator
    toriaenator Posts: 423 Member
    Look for? This will probably be just me, but I find this depressing... It's cooler to encounter things you weren't looking for, surprises are good. Plus if you just look for certain things, you get tunnel vision and won't necessarily have a heart open enough to let in someone truly special. I feel like those qualities we can't immediately "see" end up the most valuable.
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
    Look for? This will probably be just me, but I find this depressing... It's cooler to encounter things you weren't looking for, surprises are good. Plus if you just look for certain things, you get tunnel vision and won't necessarily have a heart open enough to let in someone truly special. I feel like those qualities we can't immediately "see" end up the most valuable.

    Ditto
  • acpgee
    acpgee Posts: 7,974 Member
    Matching tolerance level for dirt and untidiness.
  • Candyapplebabe
    Candyapplebabe Posts: 70 Member
    Look for? This will probably be just me, but I find this depressing... It's cooler to encounter things you weren't looking for, surprises are good. Plus if you just look for certain things, you get tunnel vision and won't necessarily have a heart open enough to let in someone truly special. I feel like those qualities we can't immediately "see" end up the most valuable.

    Ditto

    It's just a bit of fun. Most of the people here have found someone they weren't really lookin for. They may not have what they "look for" but are happy just the same. Like me. I just happened upon my husband and I wasn't looking for anything I had listed.
    If that makes any sense... I can't wait to get off shift!
  • A friend suggested creating a pictureboard and putting it out to the 'Universe' what I wanted. She insisted if I did so, believed and waited, then it would be delivered. Having been single for a long time and had some really crappy relationships, I thought 'what the hell, nothing to lose'

    So I created a pictureboard about 'love' last year. Its a small photo frame and inside it I printed off and stuck together all sorts of pictures that signify love and a healthy relationship, from two swans to all sorts of pics of happy couples and beautiful, romantic, lovely things. Around the frame are the words:

    Strong, Honest, Romantic
    Growth, Acceptance, Physical Attraction, Intimacy, Communication, Respect and Freedom

    I then put it out there that was what I wanted from a relationship/man and was happy to wait. Every day I looked at it and imagined having that relationship in my life. Six months later I met said man.

    My partner and I have now been together for over a year and its still absolutely blissful! He is all of the things I asked for and more, our relationship is exactly as desired and its interesting as he would not be a guy I'd normally go for on looks - shaved head, covered in tattoos etc., total opposite of my usual 'type.

    So put out there what you want in a relationship - how you want that relationship to be, rather than looks or how you want a person to be - seems the 'Universe' does deliver, it just doesn't always come in the packaging we expect ;-)
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    At least 2 foreign holidays each year.
    4 wheel drive car.
    Unlimited credit cards.
    Cleaner, Gardener and housekeeper.
    6 bed house.
    Plastic surgery(just in case I ever need it)
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
    Great teeth and a big wang.
  • Easywider
    Easywider Posts: 434 Member
    Self sufficiency. Social mobility. Character. Class. Charisma.
  • FitnFabMichelle
    FitnFabMichelle Posts: 161 Member
    Funny
    Passionate
    Happy / Optimistic
    Trust-worthy
    Intelligent
    Good communicator
    Great smile
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    I agree with the self esteem thing. In general, man or chick, its irritating to deal with whining.

    I thought my hubs was an opposites attract situation, after I got to know him I realized I married a younger male version of myself. Ppl even say we look alike. So I guess I look for me in a partner.

    Butt, I like butts. He has the biggest roundest perkiest butt. He has actually gotten it grabbed randomly while on army base before.
    faces are big on list. Gotta look at them. Eyes and smile.

    Loving, I am not into the cold logical type. I don't care how manly a guy needs top pretend to be to make up for shortcomings. I want a real man, not afraid to be romantic. I want a LOVER.

    I agree with character too. Character and honor.

    And can make me laugh. Thats big.
  • No scrubs. If he's all hanging out the passenger side of his best friend's ride trying to holla at me, then no, that guy that can't get no love from me. Right? Because his game is kinda weak and I know that he cannot approach me. Especially since I'm looking like class and he's looking like trash. I just really can't get with a dead-beat *kitten*.
  • rjcelmer
    rjcelmer Posts: 431 Member
    A strong forehand and the ability to rush the net.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    sexual and emotional compatability
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    "willing"
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    "willing"

    *snort*

    How very modern.
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    "willing"

    *snort*

    How very modern.

    Am I catching a wiff of willingness?!?!
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    Compatible sense of humour.
    Similar morals.
    Some common interests, but they should have interests I don't give a toss about too.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    "willing"

    *snort*

    How very modern.

    Am I catching a wiff of willingness?!?!

    Is this that flirting malarkey I keep hearing so much about?
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    "willing"

    *snort*

    How very modern.

    Am I catching a wiff of willingness?!?!

    Is this that flirting malarkey I keep hearing so much about?

    Could be a low grade form of it. Who knows?
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    The capability of of keeping things interesting - whether it's humor, interests or anything else - a viewpoint and actual actions that keep me intrigued, interested, learning and respectful and hopefully the same quid pro quo (do ut des) for my partner.

    And a very high capacity to communicate becuase I tend to be a river and a sinkhole.
  • shoppingmaniac86
    shoppingmaniac86 Posts: 2,067 Member
    good sense of humor
    determination
    passion
    someone with goals
    a great smile
    someone with similar values and morals
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    good sense of humor
    determination
    passion
    someone with goals
    a great smile
    someone with similar values and morals

    Determined is my name
    my goals are to show you my passion and great smile
    was this humorous?
  • MandaPaigeSparkles88
    MandaPaigeSparkles88 Posts: 1,289 Member
    I have given this a lot of thought. I love a guy with a nice smile and a wonderful personality. I want a gentleman, someone chivalrous. Someone who has a great sense of humor and can make me laugh. Someone who is sexually compatible. There's probably more but this is all I can think of right now.
  • Look for? This will probably be just me, but I find this depressing... It's cooler to encounter things you weren't looking for, surprises are good. Plus if you just look for certain things, you get tunnel vision and won't necessarily have a heart open enough to let in someone truly special. I feel like those qualities we can't immediately "see" end up the most valuable.

    Lightbulb moment for me....time to open the mind and let go of the checklist.
  • melissafaith24
    melissafaith24 Posts: 251 Member
    personality (keeps me laughing, good hearted, sweet but not smuthering)
    looks sure do help but personality goes a long way
    good with kids
    similar interests but with a few differing ones and willing to share each others
    financially responsible
  • ChunkieNuts
    ChunkieNuts Posts: 135 Member
    Compatibility. My opinion, the #1 reason relationships work or fail.
    ^ this, else it goes tits up
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    Compatibility. My opinion, the #1 reason relationships work or fail.
    ^ this, else it goes tits up

    But tits up sure is fun for a bit