Am I the only one?
six1908
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Did anyone go through a time of wanting to rush the weight loss process or feeling guilty when falling off the wagon. I feel like I'm working really hard and being really consistent, but the slightest bit of weakness and I feel like I'm failing. Just being tired of being called "big guy". Anyone have advice on how to keep running the race and finishing strong?
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I have totally wanted to rush my weight loss, and have had more than my fair share of cheat days. But every day is a new day and a chance to start over. I have found my friends on here have been huge motivators. I have finally reached my goal weight after a year and a half. And trust me, that is a long time to lose 18 pounds, but now logging everything has become a habit!! You are on here, that is a big step. Hang in there and don't give up!!0
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Before joining this site, not only did I fall of the wagon, it would back up and run me over. I had zero will power, it is still not great but because of this site it is getting better. Seeing others success motivates me. Knowing I have log in what I eat and come face to face with it, help me make better choices. On Thursday, it will be two weeks since I joined and I can already tell a big change in the way I think about food and exercise. Hang in there, you are among friends now!!!0
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Keep doing the things you like to do as far as exercise goes. Try to weight lift every other day, and do cardio at least an hour every day. If you are watching television, during the commercials you can get up and jog in place, do jumping jacks, push ups, sit ups, whatever that gets you active.
Keep eating what you like, but try to drop the amount down by about 10%.
If you log your meals and exercises into mfp every day, you can see how you are doing, and when you complete your log and the page reloads, mfp will tell you a weight that in 5 weeks you could be at if you keep up the good work you did that day. That right there is the reason that I continue to get onto mfp so much! I love seeing that it thinks I am doing so good that I could possibly lose 15 lbs in the next 5 weeks!
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I'm definitely guilty of wanting to lose weight too fast and rush the process. And I understand completely the feeling of eating more than I should and then being tempted to use that "failure" as an excuse to quit completely. A huge help to me on this journey so far came from comments by other folks on this site and some articles I've read that made clear we can't expect to be perfect. And so there's no reason to get too down or to quit when we're not. The critical thing is to recognize that this is a lifestyle change for the long haul - and no one's lifestyle is perfect every day. But if you use a bad day as motivation to do better the next day, recognizing that the more good days you have the better off you'll be - that's all you need to worry about. I'm finding it very helpful to cut myself enough slack to not use a bad day as an excuse to quit, but not so much slack that I don't fight harder the day after a bad one.0
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I totally agree about falling off the wagon. But the "keep-on-trying" song keeps playing in my head. Im sure there will be easy days and the end result will be worth all the frustration. Like today all I wanted to do was eat. I got on the scale and hadn't lost a single pound. I could feel myself getting a little depressed but I shook it off and said to myself it will get better. And managed to work in a little exercise. The fact that you are making an effort makes a world of difference. Woo! Hooo!0
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You hit when referencing a race and it's a marathon, not a sprint. We all have good and bad days, but every day you work on your goal becomes one more day towards a habit0
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I feel this way right now. I have only been at it for 2 weeks but I am rather discouraged that iv only lost 6.4 pounds
and im with you buddy, im sick of being the, quote "she would be so pretty if she was thin" girl. Seriously, I walked up behind one of my co-workers telling my friend that when she thought I wasnt around. true story lol hang in there man, im sure we will get there eventually....
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You can't rush it. What really keeps me going, even though my weight loss has slowed to a snails pace, if not slower, is how I feel. Instead of concentrating on the weight loss goals, I've been setting fitness goals for myself. Currently I am training for a half marathon.
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When I first started i wanted to have this go ASAP, but I was realistic and knew it would probably take forever to lose weight since it took a long time to gain it. I resolved to commit to doing daily cardio, paying attention to what went in my mouth (yay MFP) and just take it a day at a time. I think we ALL want to have this "hurry up already!" but let me tell you something - after blowing by my "lose 50lbs by Christmas" goal 5 months ago and quickly approaching the "be under 225 by Christmas" replacement goal I just set a month ago, things are going a lot faster than expected and it is going SCARY fast. I have mixed feelings about the speed, grateful, worried, nervous excited, anxious, Im going to be an emotional wreck when I hit my goal weight next year (at this rate anyway!)
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I am sorry people call you "big guy"-Totally not necessary!
As for the sight, I would be eating RIGHT NOW if I didn't log in my food, count my calories and plug it in on the food log. I also would be eating if I didn't have MFP friends that will read my diary and read my comments tomorrow!
I have to lose 20 pounds, I have lost 7 from my highest weight and would like to lose about 10-12 more....
I am hoping to use this sight as my "stop cheating, stop quitting" board.0 -
Extremely guilty Of wanting a quick fix as far as weightloss. In the past I did lose about 30 lbs in a month but that was by taking crazy speed like diet pills from mexico. Boy did I get sick. Never again! Slow and steady is the way to go.0
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I have certainly wanted to rush it. Once I admitted to myself that I was tired of being fat and determined to change, I have been wishing it would happen like right now! But I know that I spent 20 years of not caring, so I have to be patient. I have taken off about four years of fat in the last 12 weeks, so I'm off to a good start. But being patient is hard sometimes.0
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Extremely guilty Of wanting a quick fix as far as weightloss. In the past I did lose about 30 lbs in a month but that was by taking crazy speed like diet pills from mexico. Boy did I get sick. Never again! Slow and steady is the way to go.
Diet pills from Mexico.......when I was doing pills, you could get them right here in the States. :laugh:0 -
I have wanted to rush it since i started... but for the first days i wasn't doing it the right way... i only ate one meal and then vigorusly excersized... now realizing how unhealthy that was i am now eating 2-3 meals a day with small snacks in between0
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I just finished my second week, which was way tougher for me than the first one. Not sure why! Anyhow, this is not my first time trying to shed the excess weight. I too have dealt with guilt feelings. This time around, I set a feasible goal....track everything regardless of whether or not I stay on track. Once I get this down pat, I will set another short term goal. I think short term goals help you to stay focused and not get so lost in the big picture. We didn't gain all this weight over night, and we aren't going to lose it over night! Keep it up!0
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Keep doing the things you like to do as far as exercise goes. Try to weight lift every other day, and do cardio at least an hour every day. If you are watching television, during the commercials you can get up and jog in place, do jumping jacks, push ups, sit ups, whatever that gets you active.
I like the TV commercial idea, but I don't think you need to do cardio for an hour. I have only been doing 30 minutes, two-three days a week. There is some research that suggests that 30 minutes is best for maximum fat burning.0 -
You are far from the only one.
In fact, anyone who says they are patiently following their programme and never feel tempted to stray then either they are under hypnosis, medication or just plain lying.
This food diary helps to keep on the straight and narrow, especially with an open diary.
- and if you fall off, then just back on and adjust -I haven't figured out how to (easily) monitor weekly calories, but in the grand scheme of things it should be possible to compensate for a bad day by harnessing the guilt to have a super-good day the next. - and ignore the MFP Genie when he/she nags you about your low intake.0 -
Nope you sure aren't the only one. I wanted to lose 10lbs just by thinking about losing it. I am almost three weeks in and I too think of food and exercise differently now. At first, the calorie counting/exercise tracking/weight tracking seemed time consuming but it's worth the mere 10min/day I spend inputing my information. My problem was mainly that I ate whatever I wanted in outrageous portions. I was under the misconception that I would lose weight because I work out regularly. Dispite the occasional leap over the portion control ledge, I am making progress. 0
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I too am guilty of this. This is what I tell myself when I am anxious to get to the finish line
- Good things take time, doing it slow will help me feel healthier and happier (not starving) and will become a permanent lifestyle change
- Progress is progress even if it is small. Celebrate every win! I think of how it will add up over the long run and I know it will be worth all my hard work
- There is more to this than just weightloss. I focus on how great I feel after a work out, on how much I enjoy getting outside and being active, especially with my puppy I remind myself of all the side benefits of the changes I am making including less stress, sleeping better, reducing my asthma, more confidence, support and encouragement from friends and family, trying new healthy foods, overall new experiences, ... really the list is quite long.
Losing weight might be my primary motivation but it is important to think about why you want to lose weight and all the other positive impacts this journey is going to give you!0 -
I am so proud of you! I just started on this site today an dI need to lose more than 100 pounds. I'm excited about this journey but scared to death that I can't do it. You are encouraging.0
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No I don't think you are the only one. I too get P O'd when I'm not loosing the weight fast enough. No matter what I do.I get frustrated every day with something.0
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Well....I ALWAYS want to rush my weight loss....and pretty much everything else I attempt to do. I want it done right, and I want it done now;) I have decided that I am in this for the long haul and realize its gonna take a while to lose all the weight I have gained. And also realize that I have to stick to watching what I eat once I lose the weight too; in other words, this is a lifestyle change this time, not just a diet. So far I have not had any setbacks thus time around, but I'm know they will come eventually. My plan is to be determined and push through, and *try* not to beat myself up (a habit of mine as a perfectionist!). Also, if I get derailed, I will determine to get right back on track and not let it drag on for days and u do some of my valuable progress. All the best to you...you can do it!0
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I too get frustrated how slow the losing process is. I keep telling myself I did not gain it in a day, a week, or even a year. I can't expect to lose it that fast. I worked with someone that was always whining that she couldn't gain any weight. I will admit I hated her . I felt like she was just rubbing being thin in my face. Not proud of those feelings. I know it was my own insecurities.
Don't beat yourself up for "falling off the wagon". I had a trainer for awhile and she told me once a week I should have a free day. No exercise ( I do enjoy a relaxing walk or bike ride sometimes but nothing vigorous), and eat whatever you want. This method has worked great for me. If I start craving something I just tell myself I can have that on my free day. It gets rid of guilt feelings and she said it also helps keep your metabolism up.0 -
I know this feeling too well! I used to skip meals as often as I could and not eat. You just have to tell yourself when it comes to losing weight, it's worth the wait. 0
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I feel this way right now. I have only been at it for 2 weeks but I am rather discouraged that iv only lost 6.4 pounds and im with you buddy, im sick of being the, quote "she would be so pretty if she was thin" girl. Seriously, I walked up behind one of my co-workers telling my friend that when she thought I wasnt around. true story lol hang in there man, im sure we will get there eventually....
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Only 6.4lb?? 6.4lb is great!0 -
I think we've all wanted to rush it and ultimately set ourselves up for failure before. Most of us multiple times. I like to think I'm getting it right this time, but only time will tell really.0
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6.4lbs is nearly half a stone - no shabby effort0
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Just make up your mind to keep going. The race is not always given to swift, but to those that can endure to the end. You didn't put in on overnight and you won't take it off the same. Just don't give up.0
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I think we've all been there... Just remember you will get there if you keep going forward. It's not the one cheat meal it's the others that follow it -- so just refocus....
I think different people have different "vices" - for me it's sugar and when I go 'off' I have to be a little extra vigilant the next day or even at the moment to stop at one serving, because it really is like a drug for me. I find that 24 hours later if I have not cheated again and gotten some exercise in, then I am back on track mentally -
You will get there if you stick with it! Good luck.0 -
If you fall off in the evenings try rolling the excess calories into the next day and shoot for a better tomorrow. If you fall off again the next day…. Yeah you should feel bad.0
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