Is it so much to ask

I know where you are coming from. My ex husband did the same thing to me. I tried so hard to get healthy but it is terrible trying to eat a salad when you look over and your significant other is stuffing them self with a whole pizza.

If you cook the food in the house, I told my ex that I was only cooking healthy meals and if he doesn't want to eat what I was cooking, then he can go find something else to eat. Have your kids eat what you eat....make it a healthy lifestyle change for all of you. You can do that to your kids, but you can't make him change.

I support you! You have to do this for yourself!

I am sorry your husband is not supporting you. It is ashamed that when you try to do something good for yourself that it somehow intimidates him or makes him feel inferior so that he has to mock you. I agree with the above poster. Make it a lifestyle change for the whole family and if he does not want to eat what you cook then too bad. Your kids need to learn about what is healthy and eating in moderation too.

Friend me. I'll support you.

If your husband mocks and ridicules you, there are bigger problems going on than just him being unsupportive of you diet! I think a sit down, serious talk, is in order.

I already told him I'm not cooking for him anymore and he can keep blowing money on junk food instead of paying bills like we should. I don't really care what he does anymore so long as he pays rent.

You sound unhappy. Make yourself happy. Don't subject yourself to a jerk everyday.

Leave him and find someone who will support you.

If your husband mocks and ridicules you, there are bigger problems going on than just him being unsupportive of you diet! I think a sit down, serious talk, is in order.

I agree with this. You guys have bigger issues than just what to eat at mealtime. I've been through a verbally abusive marriage and after considerable thought I decided that in order for me to be happy I had to make a tough choice and file for divorce. To every one who says "just leave him", really, you think that is supportive? It's not that easy, especially since children are involved.

Sending you a big hug :flowerforyou: . Please talk to your husband about this and if he is still resistant suggest that you go to counseling. If he won't go, go by yourself!!! You deserve to be happy, whatever that entails!

He should support you, for better or for worse. I am sorry you are encountering such a situation.

I read an article on this very thing the other day. It was talking about how if you're in a relationship and one person changes their habits the other person can (not always, but often) become so insecure that they try to belittle the person who is making the changes. I know my son's dad (we don't live together) gets very jealous and upset with my changes and the amount I go to the gym. I told him just to deal with it. I fix healthy foods for dinner and if he wants to come over he can eat it....or not. No skin off my nose! The other night he brought pizza over for him and the kiddo so I had my dinner before he came over. Oooooh was he mad. You just have to do what is good for you. You go and fix your healthy meals for you and the kids and if he doesn't want to eat it, fine. He can fix his own meal. He needs to support you, he made a vow to do so and he's not holding up his end of the deal. We're all here to support you!!!!! Hang in there! Hopefully he'll start to understand that this is for the health of you AND your family and maybe he'll get on board.

Sounds like your husband is a real keeper. :-/

If you want to friend me I will be glad to support you in your efforts. Might want to see a therapist, too, on your own, so you can think through things and decide what changes need to be made so you and your kids can be happy and healthy.

Ask yourself if this is really the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

I have had a talk with my husband about stuff like this. He thinks me losing weight will make me stop loving him. Which isnt true. Maybe have a sit down heart to heart. How it hurts your feelings when he does this. Tell him why you trying to get health. To live longer for him and the kids. I told my husband I love him anf that is why he needs to join the journey with me. But wish the best of luck relationships have there ups and downs. It just know if you love each other enough to work through it.

Not too much to ask. That is difficult! I don't have an answer, but that does suck.

Yes, he should be supporting you that would certainly be ideal. I am so sorry you feel he is not. However, I passionately disagree with all of the advice on just leaving him. Marriage is FAR FAR too precious.

If a marriage is going to surive, there needs to be a lot more selflessness and a lot less of self. (not saying you personally are selfish, but it is a general thing most people struggle with on some level) Also, I am not saying a person doesn't ever have to consider their own well being. Of course they do.

However, just as ANY person would hope the one they love would forgive their shortcomings....forgive his. We have ALL acted like total stinkerpots at one point in our life, and fortunately some folks are kind enough to forgive it.

Talk to him. Sincerely go to him, not in anger, but in truth and simply tell him how he is making you feel. Likely as not he might be feeling insecure from the changes. Often when one spouse begins changing to healthy habits and eating the other is suddenly feeling guilty of their own lack of change or various other emotions.

Have patience and forgiveness with him. Finally keep up the good changes, they are certainly an awesome thing. Don't be discouraged at all, you can totally do it. Hopefully he will come around in time.

I kinda have that with my husband, but he knows that i am not going back as far as eating out and not buying fresh stuff, so he buys his own junk, and while there is some junk food in our house, i actually measure out and weigh out everything to make sure its one serving. With that being said, he should be more supportive, and my husband and i we talk about why he does what he does and why i am doing what i am doing, and it has worked out well so far.

I don't think it is right or helpful for people to tell someone they don't know to leave a spouse. A marriage should not be disposable.

It is not right that he is not supportive of you. If you asked him why he isn't supportive of you what might he say? He might be intimidated by you changing and therefore attempting to sabbotage you. Or he might just be a jerk. Was he always a jerk or did things change at some point?

I have noticed since I have been married that men absolutely hate being told what to do. He may see your positive changes as conviction of his own lifestyle and even if you're not pointing a finger at him he may feel it nonetheless.

I always remind people that you can't change others, you can only change yourself. Figure out your part of this situation (every relationship is 50/50) and make the positive changes for your marriage that you can. If you are being a blessing to him then maybe he'll come along more quickly. One way to do that is to ask him how you might be supportive of something in his life. He might not know, but put it out there.

God bless you! I pray things improve soon, but stay the course and do your best. You're already improving your life.