Here again...will fail again...
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best thing anyone ever said to me, (even though I didn't want to hear it at the time):
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
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"Where you are today is where your mind put you. Where you are tomorrow is where your mind put you".
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Whether you think you will succeed or you think you will fail, you are right. Why are you even here if you think you're going to fail? First step is to change that attitude, only then can you ever actually succeed.0
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I'm starting again tomorrow and feel like you. It's just so hard, isn't it? However, self-fulfilling prophecies mean that if we believe we will fail then we most likely will. How about we both try and be more positive. The incredible stories on this supportive site show that thousands of people can and do lose weight, so why shouldn't we be one of them? Do send me a friend request of you would like to try and be an encouragement to one another.
I will be thinking of you this week. Come on, let's try really hard, taking one day at a time.
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how about shorter short term goals? some friends & I recently joined & we have 5 wk goals of :
diarying food daily, & we find that motivates us & increasing our activity level, even if sometimes its ony a 12 minute walk to AT least several times & week but diarying every day. try that.
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Start out small. My heart used to race as well and I was actually on meds for awhile for it but got to stop them after I lost weight. I started out by just walking up and down my driveway for 10 min. then moved to 15 min. and so on till I was doing an hour. Drink lots of water and cut out cold drinks. I use a small child size plate to help with portion control. The little things will add up. Also, MFP friends are a big Key to success. I love my friends so much as they cheer me on daily. Good Luck and I hope you get lots of advice to get your attitude turned toward meeting your goals. Set some goals and put them on your profile. That helps me bunches. You can add me as a friend if you would like. :flowerforyou:0
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wow all of you, thanks. I will try to walk when my feet are better, still in boots for the fractures. I think salt is one of my problems I never really thought about sodium.
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Make your goals small and very attainable. To keep yourself on track start with a three part plan:
1. Measure all your food and log all your meals. This is the most important part of getting to a healthy weight. Of all the people who successfully lose weight, some crazy high number, like 95%, keep an accurate food diary.
2. Take some before pictures for yourself and for the website. I recommend taking some swimsuit or underwear shots of yourself. If you don't have a full length mirror, just go to a clothing store and take a photo in the fitting room mirrors. Post those photos someplace you will see them everyday. I have mine at the top of my incoming emails, so that I have to see myself at the place I started every time I check my email (several times a day). Photos are how you face up to the harsh truth. It is also how you stay on track for the long run.
3. Lastly, weigh, measure and if you have it available, measure your body fat percentage.
Putting these three elements together will give you a starting point. If you don't know where you are, how can you figure out where you want to go from here?0 -
I can't comment too much on the other stuff but on the heart rate I can. First of all, go get that checked out by a doc. Then cut out all stimulants in your life such as caffeine. Start with light exercise and work your way up. The healthier you get the lower that heart rate will get.
A year ago I had a resting heart rate of 110 bpm. That with a ton of anxiety and depression. Since I started aerobic exercise my resting heart rate is between the 60's and 80's. I also don't suffer from near the anxiety and depression that I used to. You will find the more you do the more you want to do.
Good luck to you. Don't let a fast heart rate stop you from getting healthy. Check it out with a doc first and then whip that thing into shape 0 -
You think you have problems?
Kick that whiny voice to the curb girl and get on with working towards a healthy life.
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Hey... not the way to start. Say you are here and you are going to do this. I know you don't think you will but as people befriend you, there is support..Read a blog everyday about how someone has done this. READ self motivation articles. Buy some of those fitness magazines and read the articles. One thing I read today was make a board for yourself. Me.. I just had to go buy new jeans.. Seems last years model was getting ready to fall off. Learn to like yourself. Let us help you do this.. be accountabe to someone else.0
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Wow, now that's an inspiring picture and makes me feel really guilty!0
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Stop perpetuating that negative self talk. Yes you will fail again if you keep telling yourself you will. You just have to work a bit harder than everybody else to get what you want. You will not fail if you choose not to.0
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You've got a really negative mindset. Keep thinking like that, and you're 100% right. You will fail, and probably epically. A positive attitude will make life a lot easier for you.
Get some friends involved in your weight loss
Find an activity you love or enjoy or tolerate at the very least
Make small, reachable goals rather than HUGE long-term ones
Don't cut things out, moderate them. (And don't give me this "I can't moderate" malarky. EVERYONE can, unless you have some sort of diagnosed condition from your GP. It's just laziness otherwise.)
Remember how you felt when you first failed. Gutted, right? Low, sluggish, a quitter... imagine how you COULD feel once you reached your goals? Put yourself in your potential self's shoes and embrace it. Keep that feeling, and let it keep you going.
And most importantly, DO IT FOR YOURSELF. At the end of the day, everybody only really prioritises how they look themselves or their own health or their own lives, and you should do the same.
Any little helps. 0 -
What is PCOS?0
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I am trying this again but I have no motivation. I will fail yet again...
I'm not depressed, I just know me. I was always fit and lean until I got married and had a few medical setbacks, diagnosed with PCOS and all that comes with that.
I was shocked when I gained 80 lbs in one year and then 30 the next. I have not gained any more weight and I was able to lose 25 but I still see my self thin even though I do in pics see myself as two ton tilly!!!
I'ts not my fault for gaining the weight but it defiantly is my fault for not loosing it.
I have very small bones and well, I fractured my bones in my feet yet again from the weight. You think I would learn but nope!
I wish I had someone to give me my food and help me exercise but I don't and I don't want to be on a TV weight-loss show...
I'm not a junk food person, I don't like ice-cream and cakes or any sweats, I never have, not even when I was little, I even have to put water in Crystal light because it taste to sweat for me...not even half and half... more water that CL. I love veggies and chicken and all kinds of fish so eating right is not hard for me. My downfall is pasta and exercise....Pasta I will have once a week but always an organic kind like Fiber Gourmet and Miracle Noodles. As far as exercise, I have an extremely high heart rate when resting 105 to 110 and I am scared to push myself for fear of having a stroke or heart attack.
Any who, I am back and we will see what happens....
With a negative attitude like that you most ceratainly will fail. I wish you a better attitude and best of luck with your attempt.0 -
I am trying this again but I have no motivation. I will fail yet again...
Guaranteed to if you've given up before the game even starts.
Attitude is everything, if you expect failure that's what you'll get; approach this with a positive attitude, an expectation of good results and the resolve to make it happen and it will.
This. Your mindset is crucial. I started my journey at 450 pounds. I could barley walk from my bedroom to the bathroom. I got tired going grocery shopping. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I changed my mind. I've lost 50 pounds. I know I can do this. I AM doing this. You can too. Start researching. Find a water aerobics class. Just move a little more each time. Change YOUR mind. It can be done. I'm living proof.0 -
What is PCOS?
polycystic ovarian syndrom0 -
Thank you every one...Attitude is key and mine stinks!!! I think it is because I have a headache and my feet hurt..
My short term goal is March, lose ever how much I can lose and go with it.
I think you need to set yourself weekly targets for exercise and weight loss rather than a 'short term goal in March'. PCOS is not a weight sentence, it is very possible to lose large amounts of weight with this. Key factor is upping protein over carbs. Good luck, if you need a friend add me.0 -
OK if that is not motivation...I can do it... I can not believe that every ones words really do help me change my attitude, I was about to hobble in the kitchen and get a snack and I realized....if you don't eat enough can that keep you from losing?0
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I'm normally a super supportive person and will give crazy pep talks when people need it, but I'm also a tough love and blunt mofo as well and I'm just coming right out and saying it, if you go looking for something you don't want to find, you're going to find it eventually and in the end, only have yourself to blame.
YOU are a result of YOUR thoughts, or YOUR expectations, and "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right."
So cut the crap. You're here. Somewhere deep down inside, you came here because You DO have faith that it will happen, that you WILL get there, because the REAL truth is, if you truly didn't believe at all, you wouldn't have taken ANY action to begin with. So strike that IRON, instead of the anchor's worth that you're letting drag you down by refusing to simply cut ties with it.0 -
I'm a member of a PCOS group here, it was just formed a few days ago. (There are probably others, but it's easy to join groups when they are formed because they pop up as Most Recent Groups or similar.) Anyway, you should join us! It will be a good place to get support from women who also have an extra-hard time shedding the pounds and cannot just focus on calories in, calories out like most people on MFP can.0
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Firstly, I do know what you mean. I've lost several stone, several times, and always put it back on. So I did have a moment where I thought "why am I doing this, I'll only be back here in 3 years". But then I realised the reason I put the weight back on was I got complacent. So this time, I'm planning just not to stop, even when I reach my goal weight, I'll stay on here and log my calories to maintain my new fabulous weight!
Secondly, like others have suggested, I'm all about the mini-goals. Once you meet your first mini-goal, you'll know that you CAN do it! Good luck!0 -
Hi, I joined a couple of days ago. I must say that I feel you are setting yourself up to fail by telling yourself you will before you really start. Everyone has the ability to lose weight if they really want to and as you have decided to start again I see that as a huge POSITIVE,
Be the courageous person who's inside and really go for it, I'll be happy to be your friend if you like.
I've been on every diet there is, but in the last 10 years I have gone from 122 kilos to 88 kilos and I'm still going for it.
You CAN do it. And there is soooooo much support on here, so much inspiration. Go for it.......I am. X0 -
There are two kinds of people on MFP...Those who reach their goals and lose the weight...and those who don't.:brokenheart:
o god .. I just had a light bulb moment. :bigsmile:0 -
That attitude is exactly why you WILL fail again. You have no faith in yourself! Every day look in the mirror and say something you love about yourself and one thing you don't like. After that....work it out. 9/10 when you look in the mirror after working out you will be so proud of yourself for pushing through 30-40 minutes of exercise you'd have forgotten what you don't like. Do it every day! I started and am still doing my journey with no friends to talk to and support me. I just don't feel comfortable discussing it with them. In the beginning that's why I struggled but then I realized...I'm doing this for ME! Who cares of no one supports me and I don't have 3957025 people patting me on my back. It's all a mind game and you have to change your mind and get rid of those demons in your conscience that's telling you can't do it...BECAUSE YOU CAN!
MFP is full of supportive people. WE are here for you. Every step you take.....guess who's there? Your fitness pals. Don't give up 0 -
The mini goals thing is definitely a good way to try to keep yourself motivated. Try some of the daily exercise challenges, or the monthly weight loss challenges (5lb in October/15lb by Christmas etc).0
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Having PCOS your health is at risk. I also have PCOS and kind of freaked out what I learned about health risk factors. I knew I did not want to die from those issues. You owe it to yourself to do this for you. If you fail one day so what ! Brush yourself off and pick yourself up and try again. As long as your breathing and keep on starting over you didn't fail. Its when you die thats its to late and then you fail.
Don't give up keep pushig through daily. You will make it.0 -
"As far as exercise, I have an extremely high heart rate when resting 105 to 110 and I am scared to push myself for fear of having a stroke or heart attack".
You don't have to do to an extreme workout to lose weight. Start with walking, I recommend Leslie Sanson. Check out her site at www.walkathome.com. Most people think that you have to get your heart rate up high to burn a lot of calories and this is just not true, all you have to do is move. Start slow and work your way up. Once you start to get fit you will see your resting heart rate go down and you can slowly increase your workout level. You have to get your mind right first though. You can do this if you don't start out like a banshee and take it slow!
Good luck to you.
Diana0
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