Starting weight, or starting weight since joining MFP?

I have had several people ask how much weight i have lost.....

Well, My ticker says what I have lost since joining MFP, but when i have told a larger number than that... I was told I am a lier....

No, i dont care at ALL what people think of me, but damn, ya know?

So I guess my question is.. When people (who obviously cant see my MFP ticker.. ) ask How much i have lost.. do i tell them from my heaviest weight? or from when i *truly* started trying to lose weight?

Thoughts?

I'm in the same boat as you. When I first started losing weight a year and a half ago I was 165 and got down to 133. I've put some back on due to thyroid, but am working to fix that and start losing again. I don't feel right claiming I've lost all this weight this time when I'm starting again in my mind.

Maybe I'm doing it because I feel like I'm cheating myself on new goals and accomplishments. I don't want to live on past success. I want to thrive on new ones

^^ THIS!! I didnt think like this before.. because i kind of "teeter tottered" with those first 20 pounds.. but see, i didnt "start" fat. I was a skinny girl, and always was.. it wasnt until i had two strokes and was bedridden and had health issues that i became overweight.. not that that matters.. i was still FAT. but, what im getting at is that exactly how she feels.. why claim a success.. when you failed? when you put the weight back on? I want to be able to say.. I LOST IT AND KEPT IT OFF! I dont want to say.. well, i lost 10 pounds, and then put on 12.. and 4 years later i lost 18 pounds.. but 6 years later i found myself at 244.. then 3 years later.............. ya follow?

I guess maybe i just found my answer.. LOL! I want.. and i need to be able to say.. While i might have been my heaviest at 246 pounds, i didnt try to lose weight until June 28, 2012 and i weighed 233 when i stepped on that scale. From that day, i dedicated my life to losing weight and getting healthy, and I DID NOT FAIL MYSELF. Because of that, i am now, at this day.. 205 pounds and have gone from a tight size 20 to a size 14!! in Just over 90 days!! (of course, i hope my numbers are much lower.. thats just where they are now! lol)

Thanks guys Sometimes just some out-loud thinkin is all ya need!! You guys rock!

I also hate it when people who know you have lost, say they can see you have lost more every time they see you even when you haven't. It makes me feel judged and I hate that feeling.

aint that the truth!! I had a friend, who apparently at this point and time was more self concious about my weight that i was.. she was about 90 pounds pregnant... and i was probably 250... when she saw me taking out the trash.. in sweats, VERY oversized t-shirt, hair pulled up in a knot on top of my head, no makeup, lookin like hell... she would make a point to come out in her teeny tiny shorts and tank, hair perfect and tanned legs, makeup and baby on her hip and say...

"good grief woman, how much weight you lost?" and i would always say some crazy something like.. "oh about 30 pounds!" and she would reply something worse like.. "you can sure tell it! I hardly recognized you!" which simply made me walk into the house and shove food into my face. Boy that helped...........


People dont realize that being a friend... sometimes it means brutal honesty and other times it just means not lying....

Why cant you say.. "hey why dont you come over for lunch today & we will catch up?!" then have a fruit salad, some lean meats and cook a low calorie dessert. if the "invited" loves it and asks for the recipe, hand it over.. no need to point out its low cal.. they will find that out on its own. if they refuse it saying "i cant, or i shouldnt" hand them the recipe card and say.. oh honey, yes you can!" and drop it.

People are SUCH *kitten* sometimes, and they dont even realize it. I am SO with you... why cant they just be happy for you?

my mother ruined me from all compliments since she uses compliments to manipulate people. I can't trust anyone now. I rememeber when I lost weight as a kid, she would open her big mouth to a neighbor that was driving by just saying hi, that I was in a size 12 yippeeee. I am the healthiest I have ever been now because I removed her from my life, sad I know. She had weight issues just like me, buuuuut somehow all her energy was spent trying to make me do what she wanted but couldn't do for herself. Totally backfired!!

I never had weight issues as a child, or as an adult either really until i got sick, but ihave also removed family, including my mother from my life (only having to be around her for my children about once every few months or so) and it has made the BEST difference in my life.. its when i actually got the willpower to stop smoking and lose weight. lol Not sad at all.. STRONG!