Reaching out!! I need some advice men and women!

I agree with most of the comments.
Iven if he DOES have PTSD, that is still not an excuse.
Tens of thousands of Soldiers live with PTSD every day.

You are making excuses for not leaving.
The house? Yeah, it should really be valuable when it has YOUR blood stains in the carpet.

You said he was a Marine? It is time he started acting like a Marine and not some street thug.
There is no shame in going to the VA to get some help to control anger. many of us have had to do it.
Get him to the VA and if he is too much of a wuss to admit he has a problem, pack his bags for him and tell him good luck.

Agreed... Pack his bags... And tell him his behavior is not acceptable. Look for new roomate to help with house expenses.. Maybe one who has a black belt would be wise. Please get pepper spray, and keep it close but hidden until then. And Don't let me hear about you on the news. Take the right steps for a happier future. And don't think your helpless to take those steps. Don't procrastinate (sp) Just do it. Like Nike.

He sounds out of freaking control. You need to be centered, smart and very careful on this.

You got to know your self-worth is more than this. You nor anyone else don't deserve to be treated this way. If and when you get out of this relationship you need to take some time and fine yourself. Learn who you are and focus on loving yourself.

NEVER!!! Think of yourself as not deserving love or happiness. There is nothing wrong with you what others choose to do or the actions they take are completely on them not you. This guy sounds like he has issues and it's not right to take them out on you. This doesn't sound like a healthy situation to stay in, a house is just a a building your health and happiness comes first. Your still so very young that anything could happen.

Who knows MR RIGHT could be around the corner and you may miss him because you stayed in something out of fear. Maybe you can work a way out to still see his son if you want but I think the best thing is for you to do what's right by you. Move on and find your own path without him.

No one can predict the future but to not move on out of fear is not going to make you happy. Move on and find happiness. I am sure love will come again but don't let your belief in it be ruined due 2 what 2 jerks did. There just small fish in a very very large pond.

I wish you all the best.

Get. The. Hell. Out. Now.

While you still can.

Married or not, pack your bags secretly and get out of there as fast as possible and don't look back. No announcements, no fights. Just drop a quick note on the table when he's not home and leave, calmly stating the reasons why it's over. Then go get a restraining order. Then go sign up for counseling because your low self-esteem and challenged upbringing causes you to choose men who abuse you. That can be fixed, but you need some serious time by yourself to redefine who you are. And even if you don't love yourself enough yet to choose people who treat you well, love your theoretical future children enough to not bring kids into a messed up environment. There are a million people with bad childhoods that negatively impact who they are and their success and happiness in life--don't add to that pile. It's totally on you. If you want to be a responsible parent, figure out who you are first and get strong, and then be more selective when choosing a mate. Accept nothing less than a responsible, loving mate without substance abuse and anger management issues. Also, don't live with anybody until you've known them for a long time. Playing house with the wrong mate is a bad scene, as you know. And what kind of man lets his woman bear all of the risk on paper? Not cool. Build a real one on a solid foundation of love and trust that comes with time. Part-time affection, with or without violence in word or action, is not a relationship--it's a codependency, and you and your children will pay for it dearly. Break from the past and make the right choice. Total health goes way further than looking good to keep a man. And, if you truly care about his child, adopt it legally and still leave. Otherwise, go now.

First of all, you are meant to be loved and respected. Don't compare yourself to others and their relationships. There is no time line.

That. My sister was in a terrible relationship. For 15 years. She finally got the nerve to divorce him at age 33. At 37, she found and married an awesome guy that adores her and treats her like a queen.

Also, you're 24. Have some damn fun for cripes sake. You don't NEED to be in a relationship. Enjoy life and take your time about finding the RIGHT guy, not the first one that comes along.

first off you dont need a man like this i put up with it, my ex was like this today he even dropped my daughter of and kicked me so hard I have already bruised and I am struggling to walk. I love my little girl immensly but everytime his behaviour worsen and he does something like this I regret so badly he is my daughters Dad. Get rid before its to late. Men like this dont change.

Secondly learn to love yourself. You dont need a man in your life, work on you. you will get there and when your not looking Mr right will be there! feel free to add me hun x

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What everyone else said.

1 yr before we started dating he got a divorce ( not the mother of his son) they divored because he said that all they did was fight and she was abusive. He went to counseling to try and fix his marriage and he said it did nothing for him and he won't go back. I am just really wore out I have been taking hits like this for the past year and it just keeps getting worse.

Big, Big, BIG red flag here. If he's had at least two prior, *serious* relationships that have failed, and he admits that there was abuse in the most recent relationship (even if he won't own his part of it), get out now. He may have been a charmer and a sweetheart before you moved in together, but that's very much the pattern: Get 'em hooked, THEN show your true colors.

Be strong. Get out.