Disappointed and disheartened

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  • brandijaye
    brandijaye Posts: 8 Member
    I know the feeling. You look beautiful in your picture. Try to think positive it'll make all the difference in the world on how you feel. You can do this ! Positive talk . Make your internal voice talk to you like you would a close friend in the same situation . Start small so it's not overwhelming. Cut out fried foods and eat small meals every 3 hours. Make small goals,they'll turn into bigger ones. You deserve to feel good and love yourself .
  • Verity1111
    Verity1111 Posts: 3,309 Member
    I have been right where you are! You can and will make the changes in your life. Start small and push yourself. It is going to suck for quite a while but once you get in the routine of eating better and exercising (Running and Walking are excellent, and you get outside), you will find your body craving it like it used to crave doughnuts and pizza (not that you can't eat those anymore, just make them a VERY special treat).

    Another good idea is signing up for something (race, event, etc) that gives you a purpose for exercising. Your friend loves to bike. Maybe you sign up for a bike ride or if you love to run/walk try a half or full marathon. There are lots of training programs that can help you.

    I did TEAM in TRAINING and completed my first marathon last year. Now I run 4-6 times a week and have maintained my weight loss.

    AGAIN YOU CAN DO IT!!
    I second the donut comment, but I disagree about the pizza! LOL It is all about the type of pizza and how much, but some pizza has a lot of protein (cheese and eggs in the crust or if you eat meat unlike me) plus if you add veggies and the tomato sauce if its fresh can be a nice dinner. :]
  • shoris609
    shoris609 Posts: 2
    Hi

    My name is sunil. I have recently joined this website. I would just liike to say that reading your mail did not suprise me. Unfortunately your pattern could apply to almost anyone including myself. The fact that you acknowledge that you have a issue is a step in the right direction. However I have reliabily been informed that going to the gym is a very small part. The main part is to change your eating habits. As I am now finding out, that the changes that are required are small but intially dificult. Just look at what your are eating and simply reduce the amounts. Believe me slowly but surely it will make a lot of difference. Just to encourage you witin last three weeks or so I have lost eight pounds. Ihope this helps. Good luck

    Shoris609
  • KaseyC0711
    KaseyC0711 Posts: 18
    Hi Giovanna and very good luck to you. I think you've taken a BIG step forward in really identifying the situation you are in, and identified why. Don't blame yourself entirely. That one line "I am broke" tells me some of why you may have gained: Fast food, cheaper foods are WAY, WAY more fattening than the healthier stuff. And more emotionally satisfying too. Even eating at home, lots of the things that are least expensive at the stores are the most fattening. So, find a copy of EAT THIS NOT THAT (seriously, I keep a copy in my car), and make the wiser choices in selecting food. No matter whether you are cooking at home or at fast food, there are some healthy options. Also, be sure to log EVERYTHING you eat into your myfitnesspal log. People who log all their food are less likely to eat too much.

    I'm not even sure you need a gym. I used to be a gym rat and it didn't really do much but make me hungrier. I have a recumbant bicycle at home and I do that, log that. Also, you can just make sure you take a 30 to 60 minute walk daily that gets you up to a nice "sweat level." I find this is better to do alone, or with an mp3, than with a friend. When I do it with friends, I go slower and we slow down to talk.

    As for clothes. When trying to lose, GoodWill and other thrift stores can be your best friend on a budget. You'll see lots of shoppers there driving new Mercedes and Jags, it is said "the best dressed people buy at GW" and I believe that. You can get like-new jeans for $5 or even less on 1/2 priced days. As you drop weight, you can buy the "in between" sizes there and then just donate them back when you move to lower sizes. No need to spend $35 to $225 for a pair of jeans. You'll find the same brands and sizes at GW. Lots of tops and other stuff there too. I was in line to a special event and had to ask one young lady where she'd gotten this gorgeous grey business look dress ... she told me Goodwill, $5. Hope you have a good one near you.

    Lots of WATER ... that is free. Drink 20 oz when you get up in the morning, and have an apple right after that. Then drink 20 oz before every meal, another 20 oz before you shower or tub it, and 20 oz before going to bed. You'll be surprised at how much difference that will make.

    Good luck. You've made a GREAT start by outlining where you are and why!

    Perhaps you may not need a gym, however, be sure that you have other options outside of just walking... Although you can achieve success with walking, you will need something else to push your cardiovascular health to the next level. Walking is very good to help maintain weight, but if you're seriously trying to shed pounds, you will need to lift light weights AND do cardio exercises. If a gym isn't an option for you at this point, google search "free cardio activities" and make yourself a list.
    You can also pick up small hand weights online or at sports stores for a very reasonable price. Here's the catch though: For some people, trying to motivate yourself to workout at home can be much harder than you think. If you have the means necessary to use a gym for a few months, I'd make the sacrifice. I promise you, it will be worth it. At least get yourself to a point in your weight loss journey, that once you quit the gym, you won't have any issues motivating yourself at home.

    The book she suggested was a great option, and you should also read "You are what you eat"... That book changed my entire perspective on foods, and how they affect your body both internally and externally. It's a great read!!

    And honestly, you will really want to avoid fast good at all costs. If you're reluctant, check out the nutritional information, as well as, ingredients list on foods you typically eat at a fast food place. I.E. - McDonald's chicken nuggets, or yogurt parfait, or chicken salads... They may sound somewhat nutritional ,but in essence they aren't. In order to TRULY lose weight, you have to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, and don't look back!! No matter how hard it gets!! Use MFP for those weak moments, and I promise you, you will perservere. I understand that there are times when a home cooked meal just isn't a option, but if you want to really lose the weight, plan ahead, make meals in advance, buy yourself a gift for the "NEW YOU" and get a bigger purse and fill that thing with almonds, peanut butter, banana, string cheese, boiled eggs, hummus, etc. Keep the perishable items in your work fridge or in an insulated lunch bag, so your choices are simple and nutritional. It's tough work, but the end result is totally worth it!!
  • parissimone72
    parissimone72 Posts: 7 Member
    It can be disappointing to look at the scale. Make a choice today to say......I'm going to do this. Start by at least counting your calories then you'll find yourself searching for healthier items to put in your body. Start by going for a light walk ....niike running app is good it lets you know how many miles you have walked.

    Don't beat yourself up.....But make the decision to do something about...lick your wounds and get started
  • dietpepsi100
    dietpepsi100 Posts: 76 Member
    Track your food everything you put in your mouth! My fitnesspal works! I started April 4th exercising and changed my eating habits. I go to the gym everyday and have lost 82 pounds! Hard work pays off. I have lost half the weight. Yes I still have 80 pounds to go. But I know I can do it. Stop thinking negative thoughts and do this for YOU. Your worth it! Best wishes
  • cecyvaquero
    cecyvaquero Posts: 154 Member
    Don't give up on yourself. You have achieved alot so far and now you are on MFP and you will meet lots of freinds that will help you through this. You can friend me and you can count on me to motivate you and give you words of support. If you feel down then let us know. We are here for each other. Take it one day at a time. Don't worry about tomorrow lets work on today. Start today by replacing 1 unhealthy meal with a healthy meal. Exercies 10 minutes longer. You might not see results yet but if you continue to work out and eat healthier you will get there. You will fall but you can definitley count on your friends here at MFP to help you get back up. Things will get better. After every storm the sun shines. Never give up!!!
  • goldenday
    goldenday Posts: 204 Member
    The best quote I found in a running magazine was "it wasn't a miracle that I finished, it was a miracle that I had the idea to start". Which I think can be applied to many things. Your being too hard yourself right now, think about the reasons why you want to lose weight and takes things in small steps. You realise things need to change and they will. Track everything you're eating even though it can be hard and you will be able to see first hand where you can make changes in terms of your diet.

    Hope your feeling better soon.

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