In need of motivation after miscarrage

I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriages, I know how horrible it is. You may be feeling a bit depressed just now and maybe seeing a councilor to talk things over would help. I know it did me the world or good just talking to someone you don't know and getting everything off your chest (sometimes you feel like you don't want to burden family all the time).

With the exercise you could start slowly with walks and things and it might give you a better frame of mind and more energy to think about doing a bit more. You could just start logging again just to give yourself an idea what you are eating and it might give you some ideas where you could tweak things a little to make it healthier again.

Take things slowly and take care of yourself is the most important thing :flowerforyou:

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And good luck x

Three weeks ago is really recent. Give yourself time to grieve. I think it's good that you are already looking to the positive side of things - the child you do have, getting in shape, etc. Probably one of the best things you can do is set some new exciting goals for the future. Get back into exercise as soon as you are able. It will really help to lift those low spirits. I know the lack of energy makes you feel like not doing anything, but it's a vicious cycle. Feeling tired leads to inactivity which leads to feeling even worse and making you even less likely to exercise.

Start small with simple goals that are easily achievable and then build from there. Don't try to do everything at once. It's just too overwhelming. Maybe try a group fitness class - I like yoga myself. And if you think it would help, therapy might be an option for you, too. :flowerforyou:

I was really touched by your message and I wish you all the happiness in the world. I can't even imagine what you've been through. It looks as though you are now looking to the future, which is amazing.

Perhaps go for walks, hand in hand with your husband? I do that twice a week and the walks get longer and longer. It's not only a lovely way to spend time together but you will not believe how the calories will just burn and burn...Been doing this for a couple of months and it's something we do at least once a week, almost like a date. It's lovely!

I also pay for the gym but find it really boring so I'm waiting for my contract to end, while still keeping fit with walks. Most importantly...enjoy it. Don't stress about doing long hard workouts, they take their toll.

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xx

That sucks. Something that works when I'm feeling especially down is to go outside for a walk. The exercise and the fresh air help me tackle my feelings with a clearer head.

I guess my question to be is "what do you expect of yourself", you lost a child, your going to be depressed, YOUR NORMAL. Here is the thing to focus on. You cannot change the past, you have a husband and child that need you healthy. I am not scolding you in anyway, I just don't want you to think there is something wrong with you. Dec 8th 2011 I lost my best friend. Thirty five years we talked on the phone everyday. My other close friend Becky kept telling me the same thing, you will get through this. On February 22 she was on her way to my home, I talked to her a 4:00pm and a 5:00 pm she suffered a brain aneurysm and passed away. I sank into a depression that I believed (as did my husband) that I would never come out of. One day he said to me "either get on a medication or get off your butt and start moving around" I was so angry with him I stormed out of the house and walked two miles. That afternoon I realized that the depression was better, so I walked that evening and the next morning and after about two weeks I actually started to feel human again. Try to get some form of exercise every day, does not have to be much, just something. Talk about it, make sure that those close know what is going on in your head, very important. If you need someone to talk to, message me and I would be happy to listen to you. I am so sorry for your loss. Time really does heal. Colleen

You will survive this, I promise. Let me know what I can do to help.