What's the meanest thing someone said to you?

I feel so sorry for everyone here who has been hurt by all those meanness. And I am proud of you for bearing it, especially those of you who could use it as a motivator and/or forgive it.
I have never been generous or noble enough to do so, I only keep disliking people in general and avoid them more and more with every mean comment..

Here are my two highlights:

The boyfriend I had when I was 15 said "Your face is quite allright. And your boobs are perfect. If you could only lose that fat on your belly.. Maybe then you could make up for your personality." Personally, I don't think that I have a horrible personality, but nevertheless note that I was 167cm (5'6ft) and weighed 51kg (112lbs) back then. I was clearly below what is a normal or healthy weight for my height, also I had a flat belly. This led to many years of trying to lose weight the unhealthy way, disordered eating and self issues I'm still struggeling with.

I know my dad loves me, but he has always made hurtful comments about my weight, bodyshape, eating habits and everything else. There is one that I will never forget for sure : He told me to be happy that I am 'not that pretty', because boys would be too intimidated by beautiful women to talk to them. When I pointed out that he, as my father, should love me unconditionally and therefore be the one person to think of me as beautiful (which was the first time I ever spoke up against his many hurtful comments) he only laughed and started making fun of me. At this moment I decided that if I ever had kids I'd tell them how beautiful and special they are every day.

I knew you were going to fold, you play poker like a frightened rabbit.

The most hurtful thing ever said to me...I was 10-11 and had come home again from another doctor visit relating to my Scoliosis.

"You are broken. You are a mistake, an accident."

Yeap, good old mom - thanks for keeping us (me & the sisters), it gave you something to abuse, torture and laugh at for twenty years.

About 7 years ago, I had been leaving the gym with a friend and I crossed the road and a man in his early 20's shouted out 'Fatty! Why don't you lose some weight'. I don't know if this was the meanest thing but it is something that sticks in my memory. I remember trying not to cry and putting a brave face on infront of my friend but I was thinking about the comment for a long time after.

Nothing like being mistaken for being pregnant. Even better after you let them know you aren't, and they proceed to explain all the reasons why they had thought I was pregnant. :grumble:

Not the meanist thing even said (thank-you-f*uped-family!), but perhaps the most facepalm worthy, lol

I feel so sorry for everyone here who has been hurt by all those meanness. And I am proud of you for bearing it, especially those of you who could use it as a motivator and/or forgive it.
I have never been generous or noble enough to do so, I only keep disliking people in general and avoid them more and more with every mean comment..

Here are my two highlights:

The boyfriend I had when I was 15 said "Your face is quite allright. And your boobs are perfect. If you could only lose that fat on your belly.. Maybe then you could make up for your personality." Personally, I don't think that I have a horrible personality, but nevertheless note that I was 167cm (5'6ft) and weighed 51kg (112lbs) back then. I was clearly below what is a normal or healthy weight for my height, also I had a flat belly. This led to many years of trying to lose weight the unhealthy way, disordered eating and self issues I'm still struggeling with.

I know my dad loves me, but he has always made hurtful comments about my weight, bodyshape, eating habits and everything else. There is one that I will never forget for sure : He told me to be happy that I am 'not that pretty', because boys would be too intimidated by beautiful women to talk to them. When I pointed out that he, as my father, should love me unconditionally and therefore be the one person to think of me as beautiful (which was the first time I ever spoke up against his many hurtful comments) he only laughed and started making fun of me. At this moment I decided that if I ever had kids I'd tell them how beautiful and special they are every day.

a) your dad is a ****
b) you do have an attractive face

here's something you should know about some guys. some guys are like predators. in fact, they are like great white sharks. a great white shark will attack a seal, bite it, and then leave it to struggle and die. then they'll swoop in and eat the carcass. this prevents them from getting injured by the struggling seal. well, some guys know that girls with low self-esteem are easy pickings. they will say things to hurt you to lower your self-esteem. when you are low enough for them, they will use/abuse you (sexually, physically, monetarily, emotionally, etc.) until they find someone else who they fancy. i consider these guys to be sociopaths. not sure if a psychiatrist would agree, but that's how i view them. there are alot of them out there. so be aware and steer clear of them. to them, you're not really a person with feelings. all you are is something for their enjoyment/amusement. it sounds to me like you've already had dealings with guys like this.

I'd had a miscarriage, and had just gotten out of the hospital from a D&C that was gutwrenching. My son came home from a boyscout trip and climbed into my lap, then put his head on my chest.

My then MIL took one look and said to me: "It's a good thing that baby died". When I looked at her she made the comment again and said how I couldn't possibly have time for another child when I spoiled the ones I had like that.

Your MIL is an evil witch.

Don't insult witches. That woman is Satan's bride.:devil:

oh she'd terrify satan. And when he stood up for her and said I was being too "sensitive"...well suffice to say this is why he's my ex husband. So glad I never have to see her again.

The most hurtful thing ever said to me...I was 10-11 and had come home again from another doctor visit relating to my Scoliosis.

"You are broken. You are a mistake, an accident."

Yeap, good old mom - thanks for keeping us (me & the sisters), it gave you something to abuse, torture and laugh at for twenty years.

My mom was a real ***** too. She never told me I was an accident to hurt me, though she was honest about how none of us were planned. It was meant to be funny, not hurtful. But she did shelack make-up on me when I was five to make me prettier and dye my hair. When I was twelve she called me into her room to pinch my thighs and then declared that if I, a super scrawny child, had cellulite on my legs than it was okay if she did. There were other things, like telling my boyfriend (and father of my child) my first day home from the hospital that her boobs were nicer than mine because of her boob job and that mine were sagging from having a baby. But the worst was probably when she came in my room when I was dressing for school in a sleeveless shirt; she said she knew what I was trying to do, that I was just trying to get my father's attention, and that I would never be better than her.

Sorry that you grew up with a crazy mom. :frown:
Newsflash - you're TOTALLY better than her!

She called me one day when I was working out, and I answered out of breath. She asked what I was doing and when I told her I was working out she said, "Good for you! You get that from me, you know?!" I said, "Intense self-hatred? Yes, I know I got that from you, but that's nothing to brag about."

Remember this is coming from a 5'10" guy who weighed 320lbs.....If you are fat you are fat! I tell people i went from a fat pig to just fat and will soon be normal sized.`

All the crap fat people say, even me in the past, about being comfortable with their wieght, or this is who I am; know deep down they are kidding themselves.

The best thing my doctor said to me is you MUST lose some weight, you are way to heavy.

I am now down alomost 55 lbs and feel so much better.

If you don't like what people say then change your lifestyle to a more healthy one and lose the weight.

Agreed, but that doesn't give people the right to be assh@les to others.
And a lot of comments seem to come from people who are even fatter than the person they're tormenting. People need to shut it.

mum, when she 'caught' me eating a bag of tortilla chips after i'd been on an hour long bike ride - which i did EVERY DAY at the time (and was also, incidentally, the slimmest then that I had ever been) - 'DONT YOU THINK YOU'RE FAT ENOUGH?!"

mum, age ten, when i weighed 8st, taking me to weight loss group that was supposed to be only for adults.

the funny thing is she can't remember all the comments she's made to me.