Has anyone ever eloped?

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  • jess7386
    jess7386 Posts: 477 Member
    If I had a son or daughter who felt they had to do that I'd be absolutely gutted!

    If you and your parents are all happy about it then why make them miss out on it? Seems a bit thoughtless and selfish to me...

    I don't get where exactly the entitlement to have your child's wedding as YOU want it comes in. If I'm the one getting married, I am the one who is planning on paying and making the decisions for it, as it is MY marriage. I think if your child decides to get married and invites you, you should be appreciative of the invitation - rather than just expect it... Didn't you get to do what you want for your wedding? If not, don't you wish that you did?

    For the record, if I get married it will be somewhere on the beach with anywhere from 2-20 people :-D Someone's feelings inevitably will get hurt - that won't be a function of my selfishness because this is how I'VE chosen to start MY marriage, but a result of other people's expectations.

    I wouldn't have kids according to someone else's schedule, so why would I allow how I get married to be dictated by others?
  • Allison22451
    Allison22451 Posts: 686 Member
    I eloped in Vegas.
    It was fun & very exciting.
    the limo, the marriage certificate, the chapel, the minister, the pianist, the unity candles, the ceremony, the photos and the witness all for $186.00. =)
    our parents were surprised and a little disappointed not sharing in the main event... but pleased with the union and celebrated with us later.
    we had a total of 3 post-elopement parties hosted by family and friends. we all had a blast.
  • MelissR75
    MelissR75 Posts: 735 Member
    I eloped in Vegas.
    It was fun & very exciting.
    the limo, the marriage certificate, the chapel, the minister, the pianist, the unity candles, the ceremony, the photos and the witness all for $186.00. =)
    our parents were surprised and a little disappointed not sharing in the main event... but pleased with the union and celebrated with us later.
    we had a total of 3 post-elopement parties hosted by family and friends. we all had a blast.
    I would do that in a second! I want Elvis to marry us; but first I need to find a husband! lol
  • crabbyab90
    crabbyab90 Posts: 111 Member
    We did! We didn't even tell our parents until after :) we just didn't want to wait for a big wedding and such so we eloped mothers day weekend 2010. It costed us $200 for the JP,the license, and dinner afterwards :) we are planning a vow renewal ceremony that will have a reception but we don't really care.
  • Adina81
    Adina81 Posts: 252 Member
    To this day we wish we did.

    There was soooo much drama on one side of the family that the planning and the wedding DAY was stressful as hell.
    If we could go back we would take off to Belize and get married there...Come back and have huge celebration with everyone.

    remember its YOUR DAY!!
    However YOU want to do it is YOUR decision.

    If we weren't so hooked up on how everyone would feel we would have had a beautiful beautiful INTIMATE ceremony on a beach in heaven....and came back to hell.
  • swarovski75
    swarovski75 Posts: 195 Member
    I sort of did...we had our entire wedding planned, venue booked, invitations printed, etc. etc. but then we went to a string of big, formal weddings, and decided it just wasn't our thing. And to be honest, my MIL was being a distruptive b*tch and I was sick of dealing with it. So we decided on a Monday to get married that Friday, but since my husband is an only child, he felt like he had to tell his Dad...who was disappointed...so we ended up flying in all of our parents, inviting a few local friends, getting married at a cute little chapel and having a nice dinner in a pretty swank restaurant (financed by my sweet Dad) and inviting all 10 guests up to the presidential suite for drinks, etc. after. It was pretty awesome - no regrets - although it would have been nice to have had my brother and sisters there. But I think it was totally, totally worth it - absolutely zero stress.
  • linz1125
    linz1125 Posts: 441 Member
    We didn't elope, but we had a very small ceremony at a little chapel. There were 5 guests, my parents and brother, and his dad and sister( his mom passed away). After we went out for Mexican all together, and once we got back home - the ceremony site was about an hour and a half away- we went to out fav restaurant, the melting pot. It was amazing and I don't regret it. I had no desire to plan a big wedding. It kinda makes my eye twitch thinking about planning one lol.
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
    If I had a son or daughter who felt they had to do that I'd be absolutely gutted!

    If you and your parents are all happy about it then why make them miss out on it? Seems a bit thoughtless and selfish to me...

    I don't get where exactly the entitlement to have your child's wedding as YOU want it comes in. If I'm the one getting married, I am the one who is planning on paying and making the decisions for it, as it is MY marriage. I think if your child decides to get married and invites you, you should be appreciative of the invitation - rather than just expect it... Didn't you get to do what you want for your wedding? If not, don't you wish that you did?

    For the record, if I get married it will be somewhere on the beach with anywhere from 2-20 people :-D Someone's feelings inevitably will get hurt - that won't be a function of my selfishness because this is how I'VE chosen to start MY marriage, but a result of other people's expectations.

    I wouldn't have kids according to someone else's schedule, so why would I allow how I get married to be dictated by others?

    I think you missed the point there...

    I didn't say it would need to be on my schedule. It would upset me if my kids decided that what THEY wanted was for me not to be there.

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