Ever get embarrassed about weight loss?!

Hi there,

I am the same... People will give me a compliment or make a statement and it's not that I am getting embarrassed, it is more that I don't know how to respond to it!

For example on Sunday we had an extended family birthday BBQ and my aunt said to me as it was finishing up "Good bye, Ash, so great to see you again *hug* - Now, you're soooo skinny! You can stop now!" Shouts out to my partner "Nick, give this girl a hamburger!!" Says to me "Every time I see you you're skinner than the last time, and this is a problem because if you're getting skinner and I stand next to you I keep looking fatter and fatter!!!" ---- like seriously what do you respond with to that? It's a compliment in itself, but it's awkward and it was said loudly and drew awkward attention to myself! And yes that side of my family is constantly trying to lose a few kilos (they're not big at all, they actually are all looking very good) and love to make everything about themselves.

My grandad a few months ago said "Wow Ash, where's the other half of you!? You keep disappearing!!" Or another friend said "Hey Ash, where's the rest of ya!?" or they lift me up in the air whilst in a 'hello hug' or whatever!

Don't get me wrong, I love it and makes me feel good, it's just sometimes hard to know what to say back when on the spot like that!

In the beginning I did, especially because it was other people who noticed before me! But now absolutely not. I'm proud. I've lost over 25kg, and I want to encourage others to do the same.

I can understand it, I liked the "working hard on my fitness" answer- *stores for future reference

I get embarrassed when it is all someone talks about. One compliment is fine but I hate when people make a spectacle of it. Makes me feel extremely embarrassed that I was as large as I was.

This has been happening to me at work recently and I hate it.

I thought I was the only one! I've had a few people compliment me on my loss so far and I generally have no clue what to say back, I end up looking awkward and stammering 'thanks'. :blushing:

If someone I know pretty well says something about my weight loss like "Wow, you look good!" Or "Looking sexy!" (The sexy remark is something I've noticed thrown around a lot in the Filipino community no matter what) I'll come back with "What?! Are you saying I looked like crap before?! I wasn't sexy then? I'm just a smaller sexier version of myself now." I always throw a joke at them and the reaction I get is priceless! I say it with a serious face and tone (I love to joke around). Almost always I am taken serious. But yeah, it does get annoying at times.

I did at first, but now I don't mind it as much. However I have a new issue with the compliments : Is it that people think I look good and healthy or is it more along the lines of "you used to be fat and now your not as fat, good job" Like if they didn't know me before would they still say/think I look good?

i know how you feel, i am awkward with compliments... i never know how to react properly other than many thanks! haha

forgot the quote..

I'm not embarrassed about my weight loss, but I do get embarrassed when I get introduced to people who never knew me when I was fat as "This is my daughter, a year ago she weighed 300 pounds"... I mean... Really???

*sigh*

I just suck it up and gripe about it when I get away from her...

This issue is hard for me too. It's not that I am ebarrassed or can't take a compliment. If someone gives me a compliment such as "You look great," I say thank you. It's when the praise gets overly effusive or I feel like they are looking me up and down that I feel very, very uncomfortable. And being asked how much you lost is tricky. I think all people carry weight differently so you could throw out any number and no one would know if that's true or not. I think people assume you'd want to brag about your weight loss so they dont' even realize the questions are intrusive.

Mostly, I just try to remember that people usually have good intentions and are genuinely happy for my success and just not very good at expressing it.

I get embarrassed all the time, particularly when people make a fuss. I think it's because I realise how bad I must have look before.

Right now I am really keen to get compliments, but haven't gotten any at all. I have only just lost 4.5kg and I was only a bit heavier than that when I stopped doing MFP 5 months ago. So I guess people still remember me being about this size. Although, I know my cloths are fitting much better. I could only just wear a good pair of pants which now are perfect on me.

Biggest thing that annoyed me was last night; I went out to the pub and was drinking water. People ask why I'm not 'drinking' and when I say, I'm trying to be healthy, they always give me this disapproving look. Like "why would you come out to the pub and not drink". If I ever find anyone else in the same situation, I will tell them "great work and it is awesome to see some great willpower".

You know what drives me crazy?! When I'm out to eat with a group of people and I order something "healthy" and they make the comment "Oh, you're on a diet?" I'm like "No, I just eat healthy. Today isn't my cheat day."

I get that a lot at work lately. I've dropped a huge amount of weight, particularly in the last 4 months and get comments like "here comes skinny!" To be honest with myself, as proud as I am about what I've achieved, I think I get embarrassed about it because I don't feel like I've lost all that much weight and I'm still very self-conscious about it.