Anyone annoyed with ppl asking you to eat out?
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People ask all the time especially my boyfriend but I just say no. At first I got annoyed at work because at potlucks it was hard to say no but instead i found healthy recipes to bring to work and they love it.. It's hard to find them but when I do I figure I am doing them a favor when they ask for the recipe. Maybe you should make it a game, find out what the healthiest meal is in every restaurant and post it on FB. It will help everybody in the end.
Anyway, I just told my BF that I am not going out to eat anymore he will just have to have a healthy hot meal at home that I will cook cause I love to save money anyway.0 -
Yes, I too have the same problem. Maybe not Ice cream, but fast food places, sub shops, and places that are filled with bad food choices. I always struggle with what to do. Bring my own lunch and not go out?? Eat my lunch first, then go for the company and just get a drink? Or, go to lunch alone (never fun). What do you think??0
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Kind of! It's fun to eat out.... but it's way too hard to try and be good when eating out because honestly who orders the veggies instead of fries?0
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Meh. It doesn't annoy me. I just politely decline and go about my business. It's not anyone elses responsibility to make sure that I make good food choices, so why blame them for asking? If you say no enough times, they will get the hint and stop.
Just as a side note... I'm not sure how far you are into your journey, but you should know that there will probably be times when you WILL have to eat out. It's pretty much inevitable. It took me a while to realize that eating out is not the enemy nor is it going to undo all progress. You just have to manipulate menus and make good, sensible choices. It CAN be done!
Good luck to you!
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Could be innocent; it could be that they don't understand how bad cheeseburgers and ice cream are for them/you. But it is also absolutely possible that they are (consciously or subconsciously) trying to sabotage your efforts. If you eat junk with them, then it is acceptable for them to continue with their unhealthy lifestyles. If you are eating differently, you bring light to the dissonance between what they are doing and what they believe they should be doing. That means they either have to change how they eat or change how they think. Of course, if you happen to eat junk with them, that's not something they have to acknowledge. I'm not saying it's DELIBERATE, but it is possible. If you tell them it bothers you that they are food-pushing, maybe they will realize they are hindering your progress and be more supportive.
This. My husband is a big one for eating out and I am not. When I am at a football game or event I try and bring my own food or try and just not eat what they are serving (not all the time do you know what is in press box food) or eat dinner before hand. Its okay to decline or maybe just get a healthier option while eating out, it could be they wanna socialize and sadly food is part of it.0 -
I don't get annoyed by the asking me to eat out, but more irritated by how my friend (or at least, a certain friend) acts when we do. I have a flatmate who is a close friend and I love him to pieces, but he's been blessed with a super fast metabolism and a skinny little frame, even though he eats like absolute crap.
Just tonight we went out to a chain pub to eat - I pretty much planned what I would have so I could keep the calories down and still enjoy the meal out (my friends and I like to eat out - that's how we socialise) but my friend has absolutely no interest in calories, healthy eating or even in my attempt to lose weight (not maliciously... he's just, not bothered).
So instead of my relatively low-calorie option, he went on and on until I ordered a gammon steak because it was cheap steak night. I tried to offer him my fries but he wouldn't take them and having them on my plate was too much and I ate them all. I'd planned to stop there, and I've been very good at avoiding desserts but he basically guilt tripped me into it by saying he'd really been looking forward to dessert but wouldn't eat it without me. Thankfully another friend was there and we split a dessert so I only ate about a quarter.
I know, I KNOW it's my own fault that I give into him. But it's so frustrating to live with someone who encourages me NOT to eat healthily. He's always trying to persuade me to eat the pizza he gets delivered weekly or have desserts etc etc. I think I bore him with my calorie-counting.0 -
Taco night is awesome!0
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personally, i love eating out. i could eat out all day.
wait... oh, restaurants!!
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ZINGMy girlfriend asks me to eat out every night.0 -
One of my very best friends came into town about a month ago and wanted to hit her old favorite restaurants. She is pretty naturally thin and I have made it known that I am eating good and working out-- Do I get upset when she asks me to go to the Chinese buffet, the pizza buffet, the barbecue joint, out for ice cream?
Nope. I am a big girl and I want her company.
At the Chinese place I got the hibachi with no rice and lot of shrimp and veggies. It was DELICIOUS and I still ate well out.
The pizza buffet had a salad bar, and I used self control and had ONE slice of pizza.
The barbecue joint, I ordered a BBQ sandwich and got rid of the bun. Problem solved.
At the ice cream place I got a kid sized cone.
I can still indulge and go to my favorite places. It's a lifestyle change, not me focusing solely on one aspect of my life obsessively and being upset when people want to include me. Often times it opens up conversation as to my changed habits-- a lot of people don't know a whole lot about healthy eating. Be an example and LIVE A LITTLE.
And maybe unclench your cheeks every once in a while.0 -
I'm always happy when the people I'm around want to spend time with me. The people I work with invite me to walk with them for ice cream all the time. We walk, the buy, they eat, we walk back. Its nice to be able to walk away for a little. I'm sorry, I just don't see an issue, just because I changes my life doesn't mean that everyone has to, part of making this work for me is incorporating this into my lifestyle and just making smarter decisions b0
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You are going to have to put your foot down with this person. He is controlling and here's the problem, he is use to harassing you to the point where you give in. The 1st time you stand up and really dig your heels in will be the worst.
At the restaurant, turn the tables on him. You prob feel like the situation is making a scene. Remember that it is HE that is making the scene. The second time he tries to get you to change your order, be firm. Say I have chosen what I will have, you are being kind of rude. The third time, "I already said what I am ordering, do not mention my order again. He will put up the biggest fight the first time you stand up and won't back down. This is to be expected.I don't get annoyed by the asking me to eat out, but more irritated by how my friend (or at least, a certain friend) acts when we do. I have a flatmate who is a close friend and I love him to pieces, but he's been blessed with a super fast metabolism and a skinny little frame, even though he eats like absolute crap.
Just tonight we went out to a chain pub to eat - I pretty much planned what I would have so I could keep the calories down and still enjoy the meal out (my friends and I like to eat out - that's how we socialise) but my friend has absolutely no interest in calories, healthy eating or even in my attempt to lose weight (not maliciously... he's just, not bothered).
So instead of my relatively low-calorie option, he went on and on until I ordered a gammon steak because it was cheap steak night. I tried to offer him my fries but he wouldn't take them and having them on my plate was too much and I ate them all. I'd planned to stop there, and I've been very good at avoiding desserts but he basically guilt tripped me into it by saying he'd really been looking forward to dessert but wouldn't eat it without me. Thankfully another friend was there and we split a dessert so I only ate about a quarter.
I know, I KNOW it's my own fault that I give into him. But it's so frustrating to live with someone who encourages me NOT to eat healthily. He's always trying to persuade me to eat the pizza he gets delivered weekly or have desserts etc etc. I think I bore him with my calorie-counting.0 -
My husband has never had to worry about what he eats and forgets all the time that I can't eat like he does. He's not trying to be rude, he's just hungry and offering to take me out instead of asking me to make him dinner.0
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Could be innocent; it could be that they don't understand how bad cheeseburgers and ice cream are for them/you. But it is also absolutely possible that they are (consciously or subconsciously) trying to sabotage your efforts. If you eat junk with them, then it is acceptable for them to continue with their unhealthy lifestyles. If you are eating differently, you bring light to the dissonance between what they are doing and what they believe they should be doing. That means they either have to change how they eat or change how they think. Of course, if you happen to eat junk with them, that's not something they have to acknowledge. I'm not saying it's DELIBERATE, but it is possible. If you tell them it bothers you that they are food-pushing, maybe they will realize they are hindering your progress and be more supportive.
This.
While I don't think they are out and out trying to sabotage my healthy efforts, I think that when someone around you all of a sudden is bringing to light how unhealthy certain things are, like eating out on a daily basis, drinking pop all day long, etc. they all of a sudden don't like that. And I don't mean, I'm walking around telling people that everything they put in their mouth is bad for them, I think it's just noticed that I'm losing weight, I'm eating right, I'm working out...andddd they aren't. So, in a sense, it's like they wanna bring you back down.
To be honest, not sure if it's where I live or what, but it's quite apparent that when someone is doing well for themselves, happy, enjoying a healthy lifestyle, people don't like that and try to bring you down. It makes them look at their own life and think about the bad.
So, if everyone else around them is drinking a 12 pack of beer a night or eating McDonalds every week for dinner, they can't feel too bad for themselves.0 -
Just cause you are eating different doesn't mean you have to be a social outcast. If you have weak will power then saying thank you and not going might be your best option. I personally tag along to bars or icecream parlors all the time, I just get nothing if it doesn't fit my calories for the day.0
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People should really read the rest of responses before responding.
I eat out, I have a cheat day every week, some days more than one. I have no problem with that. I also have no problem with choosing healthy options if I am forced to eat out or decide to eat out.
I do have a problem with saying no every single day for 3 months and still being asked the same question, every single day. It's not even that I don't want to grab food out, it's that I spent $200 on groceries to bring my lunch in to save me from spending $10 a day on a fast food lunch so I'm not going to fore-go the food in the fridge I brought in and go spend MORE money when I already have something to eat.
You wouldn't keep asking a recovering crack addict if they want to go smoke some crack every day for months after they told you no, every day.
Also, when someone asks me to grab something out at lunch. It's not socializing, it's walking downstairs, grabbing something from the food court, walking back upstairs to our desks, going to our respective desks and eating alone.
While it's nice, I'm just annoyed with having to say no to the same question for what seems like ages now.0 -
Also, thumbs up to all the guys with the 'eating out' responses. LOL0
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People should really read the rest of responses before responding.
I eat out, I have a cheat day every week, some days more than one. I have no problem with that. I also have no problem with choosing healthy options if I am forced to eat out or decide to eat out.
I do have a problem with saying no every single day for 3 months and still being asked the same question, every single day. It's not even that I don't want to grab food out, it's that I spent $200 on groceries to bring my lunch in to save me from spending $10 a day on a fast food lunch so I'm not going to fore-go the food in the fridge I brought in and go spend MORE money when I already have something to eat.
You wouldn't keep asking a recovering crack addict if they want to go smoke some crack every day for months after they told you no, every day.
Also, when someone asks me to grab something out at lunch. It's not socializing, it's walking downstairs, grabbing something from the food court, walking back upstairs to our desks, going to our respective desks and eating alone.
While it's nice, I'm just annoyed with having to say no to the same question for what seems like ages now.
Why don't you go with them, just to take a walk? I pack my lunch everyday, but I'll still accompany my co-workers when they go out to buy their lunches. Then we walk back to the office and eat there. You need to get up and stretch every so often!0
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