Anyone annoyed with ppl asking you to eat out?

I do get what you're saying but I don't consider it rude. It's life. It's ingrained in most of us to associate social gatherings with food. Doesn't mean you have to go, or you could go and get tea or water. More than likely they just want your company, they don't care if you eat or not. Don't expect them to change their lives because you did.

^This. Would you rather they STOP asking, ultimately excluding you altogether? I think I'd be heartbroken if my friends stopped including me when getting together for any reason.

Despite knowing what I'm doing, my friend brought me a 100g bar of chocolate today, trying to be 'nice'.

Stupidly I accepted; ended up eating it all (was damn good, to be fair) despite intending to only have two squares.

I still don't think it was malicious. I bought her some quorn chicken nugget thingies she liked the other week as saw them in the shop, so she was presumably trying to repay the favour.

Will try and make a point to refuse in future as was over calories already and I have lectured on how important it is.

Always get asked by housemates if I want to get an order from the takeaway. They're not being nasty, just friendly and don't really 'understand' what it's like to be weak willed in relation to food and how hard it can be for some people such as myself to resist tasty food.

Overall, yes I still work in some fast food - even icecream etc to my routine.
For instance house mate offered me a cornetto the other day. 185 calories and I was just setting off on a 40 minute each way bike ride - so that'll do nicely to give me some energy to keep going, ta .

Being asked...doesn't bother me.

When my dad knows that I'm putting forth effort to be healthier or even skinny (he's told me I'll never be skinny) and he wasn't being mean.

He likes to taunt me with food, or even shove it in my mouth <

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this this bothers me...a lot! He thinks its funny..=\ and tells me that I'm a good size...

I assume it would be annoying if you aren any good at it.

Feel honored that they want to spend some time with you. I would go out to eat with co-workers but bring my packed lunch and eat that while they ordered. They didn't care. The point was to spend time together.

Yes, I too have the same problem. Maybe not Ice cream, but fast food places, sub shops, and places that are filled with bad food choices. I always struggle with what to do. Bring my own lunch and not go out?? Eat my lunch first, then go for the company and just get a drink? Or, go to lunch alone (never fun). What do you think??

Meh. It doesn't annoy me. I just politely decline and go about my business. It's not anyone elses responsibility to make sure that I make good food choices, so why blame them for asking? If you say no enough times, they will get the hint and stop.

Just as a side note... I'm not sure how far you are into your journey, but you should know that there will probably be times when you WILL have to eat out. It's pretty much inevitable. It took me a while to realize that eating out is not the enemy nor is it going to undo all progress. You just have to manipulate menus and make good, sensible choices. It CAN be done!

Good luck to you!

Yep!

I don't get annoyed by the asking me to eat out, but more irritated by how my friend (or at least, a certain friend) acts when we do. I have a flatmate who is a close friend and I love him to pieces, but he's been blessed with a super fast metabolism and a skinny little frame, even though he eats like absolute crap.

Just tonight we went out to a chain pub to eat - I pretty much planned what I would have so I could keep the calories down and still enjoy the meal out (my friends and I like to eat out - that's how we socialise) but my friend has absolutely no interest in calories, healthy eating or even in my attempt to lose weight (not maliciously... he's just, not bothered).

So instead of my relatively low-calorie option, he went on and on until I ordered a gammon steak because it was cheap steak night. I tried to offer him my fries but he wouldn't take them and having them on my plate was too much and I ate them all. I'd planned to stop there, and I've been very good at avoiding desserts but he basically guilt tripped me into it by saying he'd really been looking forward to dessert but wouldn't eat it without me. Thankfully another friend was there and we split a dessert so I only ate about a quarter.

I know, I KNOW it's my own fault that I give into him. But it's so frustrating to live with someone who encourages me NOT to eat healthily. He's always trying to persuade me to eat the pizza he gets delivered weekly or have desserts etc etc. I think I bore him with my calorie-counting.

personally, i love eating out. i could eat out all day.


wait... oh, restaurants!!

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One of my very best friends came into town about a month ago and wanted to hit her old favorite restaurants. She is pretty naturally thin and I have made it known that I am eating good and working out-- Do I get upset when she asks me to go to the Chinese buffet, the pizza buffet, the barbecue joint, out for ice cream?

Nope. I am a big girl and I want her company.

At the Chinese place I got the hibachi with no rice and lot of shrimp and veggies. It was DELICIOUS and I still ate well out.

The pizza buffet had a salad bar, and I used self control and had ONE slice of pizza.

The barbecue joint, I ordered a BBQ sandwich and got rid of the bun. Problem solved.

At the ice cream place I got a kid sized cone.

I can still indulge and go to my favorite places. It's a lifestyle change, not me focusing solely on one aspect of my life obsessively and being upset when people want to include me. Often times it opens up conversation as to my changed habits-- a lot of people don't know a whole lot about healthy eating. Be an example and LIVE A LITTLE.

And maybe unclench your cheeks every once in a while.