Boyfriend.

you can adjust your portions to very small portions. IF you are trying to lose weight you can eat like one slice of pizza or something but thats it. I mean i wouldnt recommend eating crappy every day - even if it is small portions. I would recommend cooking some healthy foods too that work for you AND him to work well with other fattening foods too. That way you can indulge more in the healthy foods but have a small portion of the non healthy food also. I know hes trying to gain weight but he should also be gaining weight on the right foods, not just junk!

There are numerous ways to address this issue. Certainly you shouldn't feel like you're "sacrificing" in order to eat healthy. If I were in your shoes, I think I'd cook tasty, but healthy, meals 5-6 days/week, and have one day for him to request his favorites. This way you don't feel guilty and he doesn't feel deprived.

I eat steak..and lasagna(eggplant no pasta) .... and chicken Parmesan (with salad not spaghetti). You don't have the modify the meals that much to eat the same things he does. He gets to eat at much steak as he wants with a baked potato and broccoli. You eat 4 ounces steak with salad and broccoli.

He orders pizza and eats most of it, you have one piece with a side salad.

Life isn't over, it just needs adjusting.

We love eating together. Either out to eat or staying in all day watching movies while beef stew cooks itself and smells up the apartment all nice..... He's actually trying to gain 15-20, I'm trying to lose. But he loves when I cook lasagna or steak or chicken parm, and I love it too.....
I love ordering pizza and playing video games with him all day. He works so hard and deserves nice meals when he gets home. My point is I LOVE cooking for him and eating with him. Do I have to sacrifice this? It's literally our main form of bonding because our budgets are tight right now so it's not like we go out and do a bunch of fun exciting things all the time. How do you guys deal??

Wow - can I just say that this is probably the nicest post I've seen on this site? You posted here without any cattiness or animosity towards your boyfriend. In fact, you acknowledged how hard he works and that you love cooking for him and spending time with him. This is wholeheartedly refreshing and rare. You deserve to indulge in a big plate of lasagna with him and you can even toss in a bowl of ice cream just for being such a jem.

We are in exactly the same place..right down to the video games and my love of cooking This could be my life. My boyfriend is very thin - though he is gaining recently since he has taken to stuffing his face with all the goodies I don't eat.

I don't cook different food, I don't use 'low fat' because my boyfriend reacts the same way - I bought 25% fat reduced PB thinking I could sneak it by him..bad idea. I love him dearly and he is the most amazing man ever so I compromise on his 'pickiness' and he does the same for me when I have issues.

I still cook, but now I try to make a little bit healthier changes that he won't notice..If I make pasta I will only make 'cream' sauces when I have the calories to spare. I make angel hair pasta instead of the thicker noodles because I get more volume for the same amount and add TONS of vegetables to my home made pasta sauce - Buzz it around in the food processor and there are no huge chunks to give away the "secret" I leave some bigger pieces of peppers and onions.

I make my own pasta so I can control the amount of things that go into it - it's just egg & flour so not hard (especially for someone who loves to cook) If you have a sheet of pasta you can roll it thinner for lasagna and just add extra meat or egg or cheese or whatever to 'fluff' it up more and avoid the pasta calories. Alternately you can stuff it with other things - maybe more meat/cheese for him and some spinach and ricotta (or something a little healthier) for you.

When we order Pizza we get half veggie and half whatever he eats - usually meat lovers. I can have my 2 pieces and he can have his and mine are half the calories. OR I make individual pizzas with tortilla shells. I use 1 shell for me and stick 2 shells together with a layer of mozza for him. He loves them and they still taste like pizza ( I love thin crust pizza so this is good for me)

The hardest thing for me with my boyfriend was to stop sharing his snacks..he eats non-stop..always munching something and I was munching right along with him. Now I don't munch - or I have something healthier - and then I have more calories to eat 'real' food. I don't eat 'tiny' portions and I don't work out. My diary is open if you are curious or want ideas.

I'm single...LOL

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But really you can cook good foods, steak and veggies are fine. I changed my lasagna recipe and my teens still love it. You just need to eat less than him and give him bread with butter as extra.:happy:

my boyfriend loves everything fatty! the second he knows i want to be healthy and lose weight, he's suggesting pizza and takeout and i just can't resist. i have cheat days (i'll have a wendys combo meal or i'll have a few drinks) but for the most part you just have to be motivated. on the days i cheat, i'll work out and extra half hour, it might not burn all the extra calories, but makes you feel less guilty.