Naturally thin people who look down/make fun?

artslady96 · November 2012

It is difficult to judge anyone's health based on a few cursory interactions with them. If that was the case, then I would be an anorexic, gym-obsessed, health-conscious fatty since my co-workers never see me eat, people at the gym only see me workout, family sees me making healthy, home-cooked meals, and people at restaurants see me eating cheeseburgers and fries. The truth of the matter is that I am, and most people in life are, AVERAGE. Just because someone talks about eating whatever they want doesn't mean that they want to eat gut-busting foods all the time. Just because they don't want to go to the gym doesn't mean they don't exercise.

Moreover, people, especially women, tend to be secretive about their habits because we are supposed to be "naturally thin" for whatever reason. Think about it: what woman (other than maybe those of us who have let ourselves go only to put in extra hard efforts to get back to a normal weight) would want to admit that they have to work out daily or that they have to compensate for "bad" meals with a day of salad and broth? Heck, I've worked hard to drop sixty pounds, and I'm still not going to share my sweat and tears with anyone but my closest RL friends in addition to the anonymity of here.

I know it is frustrating to think that people just get good genes, and I have felt that way, too. But, the only person you are hurting with this subtle judging and subsequent frustration is yourself. So, don't dwell on it. Just let it go.

BaileyP3 · November 2012

Now that I am in my late 30s, I have come to the conclusion that there aren't too many women older than their early 20s who are naturally thin. People might say they eat whatever they want, but what is it that they want to eat? Tonnes of salad? They might eat a cheeseburger in front of you, but I am dubious about whether they eat junk food the rest of the day. Most of the really skinny women I know don't eat much at all. I also find they won't admit that is the case. I am super skinny now and it takes a fair bit of effort.

There is a fair bit of competitiveness about it. I find it is the really thin women and the overweight ones who say 'you aren't losing more weight are you?'. It is more about them protecting their own position, than you.

Very true...and...I would add that it depends on what they enjoy eating. For example...if I was told that I could never have takeout or chocolate ever again I could deal with it. Nuts and cheese...then I'd have a problem. :-)

I'm not condoning people who look down/make fun of the eating habits of others, just sayin' that 'I can eat anything' means different things to different people. Teenage boy versus my 79 year old MIL...different

paparazzijo · November 2012

My thoughts exactly....

beccannes · November 2012

When I was a teenager I as a "naturally thin" person and I could eat whatever I wanted w/out it touching me. I did not have the attitude that you are describing these girls have, that is horrible! At any rate *trust me when I saw this* it WILL catch up to them - I am living proof:) Once I had my 3 kiddos my metabolism slowed down and I started gaining weight. The benefit you have in all of this is you are learning how to live a healthier lifestyle early, these girls will not know what hit them. Not to mention there is a difference between being thin and being thin & healthy, just because you are thin does not make you healthy.

emzilee · November 2012

One of my best friends / flatmates is exactly like that. He's stick thin and eats junk ALL of the time. He's constantly encouraging me NOT to eat healthily, and if I mention controlling my calories or going to the gym he looks at me like I'm an idiot.

His mum was the same as him when she was young though, and it suddenly caught up with her - I'm kind of hoping we're still friends then!

LennyInFlorida · November 2012

Yeah, that crap bothers me as well...

I wonder how their blood work compares to mine though...

Preventing Heart attacks and strokes doesn't just come from being thin--it depends on heredity and eating habits as well.

Edit: although I eat like crap on the weekends too and can now maintain healthy blood work and weight...everything in moderation is key... but still. Don't taunt it or make fun of people--that isn't cool!

Cyngen · November 2012

They may be thin, but eating unhealthy has unseen to the naked eye effects upon our bodies. I'm going for healthy inside and out including my arteries and heart. I find that the good foods taste much better than a greasy cheese burger type meal most days. Most... there are times I could go for a great 'bar burger'.

Owlie45 · November 2012

I think you're taking these comments personally when they are not met to be.

Yes, there are naturally skinny people. A girl I grew up with is one of them. She eats and eats and eats trying to put on the weight, she was bullied at her school for being so skinny. She came in to our house one day and proudly told everyone she was a size 2 finally, one size up. It didn't last long she was back to a zero in no time. One day it may catch up with her but, I don't think she complain.

daryabella · November 2012

I used to be someone who was naturally thin and would say those kinds of things. I wasn't trying to make fun or be rude. I just genuinely didn't understand why people would only have a salad for lunch and hated working out! Now that I've gotten older and my metabolism has changed, I realize that some people (myself included) have to watch it and work out regularly if they want to stay slim. I never used to have to try, so I just didn't understand.

So in sum, I don't think they're trying to be rude, they just don't get it.

Exactly this.

caseysexton5 · November 2012

I'm definitely envious of those who are able to eat what they want and stay thin. But it seems like everyone's reply has been right on the money- if they're being meanies about it, that's their problem. YOU know what's right for your body and what makes you happy and healthy. Most people are just so self centered they're unable to fathom that other people don't operate the same way as them. I'm sorry if you've been hurt by some harsh tongued people. No one should act above another, regardless of weight, gender, race, etc etc!

gabriellejayde · November 2012

This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine that I'm starting to notice. There are a lot of people who are naturally thin or whatever, and eat junk food 24/7 and stay thin regardless. Then there are people like us who have to eat healthy/less and workout to become/remain slim. And I have no problem with that because I feel great eating better and exercising.

HOWEVER, what I can't stand is hearing or seeing those who are "naturally thin" saying stuff like "healthy food sux I eat whatever I want!" or "ew why are you eating a salad, have a cheeseburger" or "yeah I hate the gym lol count me out". Kind of like they're rubbing it in your face that they don't have to watch what they eat or exercise, or they think they're somehow better because of it? Idk it really pisses me off.

yeah, i see it all the time, and not just from thin people. I see it here too, which sucks. comments like, "you go enjoy your lettuce... i'm going to have a pizza."

okay, yeah... that helps.

ihateroses · November 2012

I don't let it bother me because even though they may be thinner...I"M HEALTHIER. That kind of eating and lack of exercise will catch up with them one day when they develop heart disease, diabetes, high BP, etc....they mistakenly think that THIN equals HEALTHY and it DOESN'T!!

i don't mean to offend you or anything but i freakin' hate when people do this. The fact that you're watching what you eat does not mean that you are in any way better than people who just eat whatever. You're comparing yourself to them and assuming you're healthier and arrogantly saying that they will develop diabetes one day.
A lot of health conscious people have this terrible habit.

^ What she said.

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