Alone, or share?

supertracylynn
supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
in Chit-Chat
This was asked by one of the more philosophical fitness experts on my facebook page:

"If you had to choose between being alone for the rest of your life or having the mate of your dreams but splitting half of their time with someone else, which would you choose?"

I'm curious what the good people of MFP think.

ETA:
It would be sharing "your" person either romantically or physically, perhaps both.
Also, it would be your completely ideal partner.

"Alone" meaning no dates, no sex, no flirting, no 2nd, 3rd base, etc. None.

ETA2:
If "your" person has an OnTheSide, you may have one as well.
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  • bethygirlie
    bethygirlie Posts: 311 Member
    Alone. I don't think I could ever be truly happy if I had to share the person I love with someone else.
  • amydee714
    amydee714 Posts: 232 Member
    Is the splitting of time with someone else "romantic" or just someone else? That would impact my answer.
  • shell22holmes
    shell22holmes Posts: 67
    Alone, I don't like to share
  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
    id share
  • Waszo
    Waszo Posts: 41
    alone
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    something > nothing
  • missashley2390
    missashley2390 Posts: 185
    I suppose I could share....
  • RubyRed8067
    RubyRed8067 Posts: 301
    I already do....my s/o indeed spends his time with something else.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Is the splitting of time with someone else "romantic" or just someone else? That would impact my answer.

    It would be sharing "your" person either romantically or physically, perhaps both.
    Also, it would be your completely ideal partner.

    "Alone" meaning no dates, no sex, no flirting, no 2nd, 3rd base, etc. None.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    I already do....my s/o indeed spends his time with something else.

    some ONE, not some THING.

    This is referring to spending time with, for example, a woman he met in the subway.
    Not a video game, ESPN, etc.
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    neither I don't share well ..... I'd say alone but I like lots of sex and flirting so I can't do that either
  • vice350z
    vice350z Posts: 1,066 Member
    I've been alone since Sept '10 and don't mind it at all. I'm gonna go with alone.
  • RubyRed8067
    RubyRed8067 Posts: 301
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  • namari
    namari Posts: 54 Member
    Alone
    i actually had to make this choice as he wanted a thai girl and a kiwi girl because we both offered different things....
    now i am alone
  • GlutesthatSalute
    GlutesthatSalute Posts: 460 Member
    Alone!! I am completely happy with myself! I believe sharing someone you love w another person would be self inflicted pain.. You can find happiness with yourself, friends and family..
  • RodSuarez
    RodSuarez Posts: 6,309 Member
    may we live in a happy 3some?
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    may we live in a happy 3some?

    Lol! Yes...

    Except... what if her other person is of the male gender?
    So potentially, you'd have a girlfriend, and she'd have a boyfriend.
  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    share. it certainly wouldnt be ideal but i cant imagine being alone for the rest of my life.
  • BogQueen1
    BogQueen1 Posts: 320 Member
    Do we get to share in the sharing? Odd, but if I'm going to be alone full time, or alone half time and anguishing? I might just take alone full time, at least then I had a chance to be happy, because I'm a terribly jealous person (comes with the scorpio thing). Unless, if we are with our ideal partner, are we our ideal selves? My ideal self is far less selfish and jealous then my actual self.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    You can find happiness with yourself, friends and family..

    Happiness is a choice, not a set of circumstances.

    Take in to consideration that there's nothing quite so sweet as *your* person holding and snuggling you after a hard day, tending to your emotional and physical needs... or serving their needs.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Do we get to share in the sharing? Odd, but if I'm going to be alone full time, or alone half time and anguishing? I might just take alone full time, at least then I had a chance to be happy, because I'm a terribly jealous person (comes with the scorpio thing). Unless, if we are with our ideal partner, are we our ideal selves? My ideal self is far less selfish and jealous then my actual self.

    Yes, you can have a "person" as well.

    You attract those who are like you, or who want to be like you.
    Therefore!
    If you are with your ideal partner, you are your ideal self.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    pfft rules.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    pfft rules.

    DUCK!

    Oh, sorry, there was a duck in your pic.

    :laugh:
  • hatsdown
    hatsdown Posts: 14
    Share. However, I will share the wife during certain times. PMS, When she is working, when her mother is visiting, etc...
  • RodSuarez
    RodSuarez Posts: 6,309 Member
    may we live in a happy 3some?

    Lol! Yes...

    Except... what if her other person is of the male gender?
    So potentially, you'd have a girlfriend, and she'd have a boyfriend.

    I'm Bi BOOM! I win.
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I don't find this to be a philosophy issue. This situation of sharing your love exists and can work well in the correct circumstances.

    Food for thought (from wikipedia):
    Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from both swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and polysexuality (which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes)[citation needed].

    Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Share. However, I will share the wife during certain times. PMS, When she is working, when her mother is visiting, etc...

    But PMS'ing is the Best! Cuddles, heating pads, hiking for hours, baked goods...
    Oh.
    Maybe most women don't PMS like I do.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    DUCK!

    Oh, sorry, there was a duck in your pic.

    :laugh:
    [/quote]

    I see what you did there.
  • GypsySoul_74
    GypsySoul_74 Posts: 152 Member
    share... because i've already had plenty of practice at that, and while it's not ideal, as another poster mentioned.... something is better than nothing.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    I don't find this to be a philosophy issue. This situation of sharing your love exists and can work well in the correct circumstances.

    Food for thought (from wikipedia):
    Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from both swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and polysexuality (which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes)[citation needed].

    Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.

    I fully agree!!

    And Kudos! Not many people I've encountered know what "polyamorous" actually means.

    Personally, I consider it "philosophical" because it is quite debatable. Funny how when it comes to carbs/protein/cals, this site is ALL about jumping down each other's throats. But this particular thread is cut and dry thus far.

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