Alone, or share?

though i'm not the jealous type, i pick alone. sharing romantic partners usually ends in disaster. count me out.

I don't find this to be a philosophy issue. This situation of sharing your love exists and can work well in the correct circumstances.

Food for thought (from wikipedia):
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from both swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and polysexuality (which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes)[citation needed].

Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.

I fully agree!!

And Kudos! Not many people I've encountered know what "polyamorous" actually means.

Personally, I consider it "philosophical" because it is quite debatable. Funny how when it comes to carbs/protein/cals, this site is ALL about jumping down each other's throats. But this particular thread is cut and dry thus far.

I would determine it more towards a sociological subject (I was a sociology major, I crave this stuff)

ALONE

I'll rather share than have no sex, and as I say if I get the double deal [poly] would be cool with me

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Clarification on the no sex thing...does alone mean I can't have "toys"?

Toys are always welcome!

But if you choose to be alone, no mutual *kitten*, webcams, videos, etc.

alone implies no sex right? I was right then?

then let's love begin!

I'd probably allow them someone on the side if it was that or be alone, but I'd be a raging jealous b****

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I thought we were talking about sex. Don't need feelings muddying that up.

well I am but if I am going to be somebodies regular boytoy I want to know I'm giving them something they need and don't get somewhere else so there's a bond - so it makes me feel special haha

I still think I'd pick sharing. Toys have their purpose, but they aren't the same as being with an actual person.

we've got feelings too lady!

I thought we were talking about sex. Don't need feelings muddying that up.

well I am but if I am going to be somebodies regular boytoy I want to know I'm giving them something they need and don't get somewhere else so there's a bond - so it makes me feel special haha

Don't be jealous of something powered by a 9-volt battery. It never appreciates the sandwich I make for it afterwards. It just lies there and ignores me.

Share. However, I will share the wife during certain times. PMS, When she is working, when her mother is visiting, etc...

LOL - cracked me up

I see myself having kids eventually so I would have to say alone, and then I would adopt. My definition of family is unconditional love and I believe your partner sharing your love would be a limitation.

I could never share the person I was with and would never want to be "shared" either. I am with an amazing man right now, and if we felt that we needed more than what each other could provide to be happy then we would not be together. plain and simple.

My boyfriend's parents were in a polyamarous relationship for over ten years (his mother lived in the united states and his father was living on a military base in germany) and it was extremely detrimental to their relationship and family. I won't even begin to explain the damage done to the kids.. But his mother has stated that if they let the relationship run it's course as a monogamous couple then they would not have been together, she said that having a boyfriend with a husband just let her run away from the problems she was having with her husband. She said if they were in a monogamous relationship then they would have both been miserable and would have seen that they should not be together. She said when they agreed to these relationship terms they were both admitting that they didn't love each other like they once did and that it was easier to have a poly relationship then to get a divorce.

To put it out there...

It's unfair to expect one person to be EVERYTHING.

I completely agree, but only because nobody should expect EVERYTHING from ANY relationship. My sister provides support to me in ways my boyfriend never could but that doesn't mean I'm going to start a romantic relationship with her. I don't expect ANYTHING from my boyfriend except unconditional love and if he wasn't able to give me that because he was shareing it with somebody else then he wouldn't be my boyfriend for long. And if he felt like he needed somebody else because my love wasn't enough, then again, we wouldn't be together. Everyday we have so many interactions and relationships that make us who we are and to expect to get everything we need from one person is ridiculous.. but that doesn't mean we should start romantic relationships with people who provide for us in any ways that our significant other can't...

Sharing...the more the merrier.