So I need advice... Dont judge

Maybe you only think he isnt talking to other girls, but as a guy, the signs all point to another girl that he became interested in. Sorry, but sounds like you need to move on and find someone else to be interested in. You probably deserve better anyway. Good luck.

Sorry about that babe! But to be honest "hes just not that in to you" don't lower your self or hold on to someone who isnt into you. Men are very simple and direct if they want you theyll work for it, if not move on. Dont waste your time your very young there are so many others! Good luck on your journey.

Ditto!

Move on. Don't try to contact him, it makes you look clingy/needy, and neither one of those are attractive.

Yep, I second this. The only way you two would end up back together at this point is if you indeed give him all the space he needs and he misses you so he has a change of heart. But it would require a lot of space. A LOT. Like from where you are standing to about...oh, the moon might be far enough. Any contact at all makes you look clingy and desperate. Don't text him or use other social media to reach out. Don't stalk him on facebook. Don't stalk him at all actually. If there is any tiny piece inside of him that still wants to be with you, then you'll soon find out. Because after a few days of missing you he'll come crawling back. And your dignity will still be intact. But I'm not gonna lie. The chance of this working is about .00001% You really need to find a way to move on. You may have loved him but it gets easier. Most people don't find their soulmates for life at your age or especially his age because your wants and needs in a relationship and a partner are going to change many times and that's ok. Life evolves. Most of us are different than we were in high school. So he's changing and that's ok. The thing is, you can't change to conform to be what he wants you to be. It doesn't work, it only destroys your self worth and your own identity. Let him move on. If he doesn't came back on his own, it isn't worth saving anyway. Sounds like he really needs to see what else is out there, and maybe you do too. Even if it doesn't feel that way right now.

When your heart's involved,its hard to just let go but you need to do just that. It was obvious that the guy had been thinking that he needed to either be on his own or out there in the world. He's YOUNGer than you both in years and in maturity. Let him go and grow up at his own speed.
You need to take a deep breath, look around and let your heart heal. Date a bit. Meet people. Go to movies or places with friends. Get into some activities that let you socialize with people who are 18ish and don't make your happiness depend on a relationship. That will throw you into a relationship that might not be what you need, or be with the right person.
Learn to be happy in your own right and do stuff with friends or even on your own. Being alone doesn't have to mean that you're lonely. Then when the right person or even the wrong one comes along, you choose what you want based on things besides being needy emotionally.

Give yourself some time, and the heartache will ease and it will be easier to move on. Don't rush into anything right now.

When you care about someone no ones advice can really help you in a difficult situation. The only advice i can give is listen to yourself, ask this:

Does this person appreciate and respect me?

Does this person ensure i am made to feel secure and treated the way i should be by them?

Does this person deserve my love and respect?

Don't pick over all or from the past, it's about right now. You cannot answer the questions you've got about the situation right now and most likely he can't. I doubt very much you have trouble with men, i think you may be picking the wrong kind, in fact from read this you are, because someone worth you wouldn't do this, ever. No matter how you feel right now about the situation you have to think for yourself. Right now do you feel ok? No. You need to feel ok. You need to listen to your needs, screw him for treating you with such little respect, you are what is important right now.

Pick a time of day say 10pm and say to yourself everytime this comes up, i'm not going to think about this siutaion till 10pm. it will be hard but try it, it really will be hard but you need to take a break from this situation for one week. Once you do this every day for a week, oh and spend no longer than half an hour doing this thinking about about the situation thing, you will feel easier and you will see him in a different light.

No matter what happens you need to make the right choice for you. These are just my ideas but you are most important and right now this guy does not have your best interest at heart.

Hope this helps, love and light

Fin x

just break up \m/

I would suggest you leave him be for a week or so, yes you will hurt, but the worst thing to do is call him. I imagine he has found 'other' interests and is pursuing them. At your age, there are many many more experiences for you to go thru. take care

Move on. Don't try to contact him, it makes you look clingy/needy, and neither one of those are attractive.

I dont try to be clingy or needy or anything like that. It is just so hard to move on, when that person is basically the most important thing in your life. All my friends are away at different colleges, so he's basically all I have right now.

We have all been there. It is not easy. Growing pains. He was no Mr. Right, He was Mr. right Now. You need to be a trooper and move on. It stinks, it is hard, and it is not fun. Step by step. Just do not do anything stupid to yourself.

Hate to tell you but it's nothing to do with age. I'm 47 and fought desperately for a year to get my husband back. It was a waste of time- I should have just accepted it was over and moved on. Two years later ivecmet a wonderful new man who I now realise is much better suited to me than my husband.

You need to chalk it up as experience and move on- as hard as it will be at first xx

Move on. Don't try to contact him, it makes you look clingy/needy, and neither one of those are attractive.

I dont try to be clingy or needy or anything like that. It is just so hard to move on, when that person is basically the most important thing in your life. All my friends are away at different colleges, so he's basically all I have right now.

Whether you are or not, unless there is something bad going on in his life, and he really needs space, he is breaking his ties. And his communication is poor- but hey he's 17. I wish I could say it gets easier, but many times it doesn't. I know you are hurting, but this is likely not your last broken heart. Take time to do stuff for yourself- because I promise you, if he has moved on, he isn't wallowing.
Get to the gym- meet new people. Yes old friends are at college, but time to make new ones. Just get busy being busy, and slowly the hurt will heal. From his words, he has ended things........ take care and heal

Bri....all I can say is guys at this age are not worth stressing over. I've read through most of the thread so I would encourage you to take the advice of the more mature women who've chimed in. It's good advice.

Move on. Don't try to contact him, it makes you look clingy/needy, and neither one of those are attractive.

I dont try to be clingy or needy or anything like that. It is just so hard to move on, when that person is basically the most important thing in your life. All my friends are away at different colleges, so he's basically all I have right now.

sorry, but that sounds more like you are lonely and afraid of being alone than you really need/want/love this guy.
face it, you are young, he is younger. It's not meant to last. I'm sorry, but the best thing you can do for yourself is find some new friends, some new activities, interests, try to keep moving and keep yoiur mind off it.
It will be hard, at first, but don't give up.

Dating for 4 months . In love. kaaaaaaaaay