So I need advice... Dont judge

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  • Arexxx
    Arexxx Posts: 486 Member
    Talk to him in a couple of days. if he still feels the same just move on. You're young. And being in a relationship isn't a necessity.
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    Some boys are total jerks. I felt head over heels at 15. Which sounds stupid. Needless to say he broke up with me. I would focus on you. Acting like you NEED this guy will just put him on a petal stool he doesn't need to be on. I am very sorry and I'm sure it's his loss!

    Wow. I think you mean "pedestal". No such thing as a "petal stool". :laugh: :laugh:

    Aside from that, this is good advice. ^ :tongue:
  • DKWaggoner
    DKWaggoner Posts: 185
    No means no. The world is too vast to waste a single moment being around someone who does not want to be around you. Consider it his loss and never look back. He'll come back around and say he's sorry and he made a mistake. Never live your life for another man (or woman). Set your personal path and move towards it. Eventually you'll find the right person who wants to come along for the ride and it will be a truly great adventure from that point on. Just my two cents. :-)

    Very nicely said & I agree
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    You've got some great advice on here...listen to it..I jsut want to say what a jerk!! you are adorable:flowerforyou: ..totally his loss!!..one day he is gonna regret it so bad
  • allisonrozsa
    allisonrozsa Posts: 178 Member
    I'm sorry this happened to you, it's no fun breaking up with someone you really care about. Give yourself a little bit of time to just be upset, cry, breath, and grieve over the loss of this special person. He has been very important in your life, and it hurts when that person is gone, but give it some time, and you will be able to heal.

    As for giving him time...yes & no. Yes, give him space and let him come to a conclusion of what he wants to do, but also don't give him too much of your time waiting around for him. If you are to be with this guy, he should pursue you and come back to you. If he doesn't, then let him go. You are 18, and he is 16, and you are both still young enough and will find someone that cares more for you and wants to pursue you. I'm sorry that you have been hurt, I hope that you are able to feel better soon.
  • RobfromLakewood
    RobfromLakewood Posts: 684
    No one on this post or in the world has handled every situation the best way possible. Partly, because there is no 'best handling' of every situation and also, because we are human and we aren't perfect. He's 16, almost 17 and you aren't much older, the two of you are likely to screw up a number of relationships and situations until sometime around...death. At 45 I think I'm doing better then when I was 16, going on 17, but I still have times in the here and now of my life to smack my head and ask, "WHY DIDN'T I KNOW BETTER?".

    So, your best bet, at least from what my life experience has taught me, how would you like to look to the future you? If it was me, I would not like to look at the past me and wonder why I pursued someone who said they didn't want to be with me. Someone else might look back at the past them and wonder, why they gave up on love so easily.

    Sadly, my advice comes down to we all screw up, we will continue to screw up, but how do we want to look back on our screw ups? Oh, and there will be lots more successes than screw ups. And even though I screwed up a lot in relationships along the way, mine and most of the people I know, eventually came to a happily ever after.

    Good luck to you and the future you.
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    I felt head over heels at 15. Which sounds stupid.

    Doesn't sound stupid to me. I've been with my husband since I was 15. In January, we will have been together for 20 years.

    As for the OP, I'll tell you the same thing I'd tell my 18 year old daughter. I know being dumped sucks, but don't waste your time wanting someone who doesn't want you. Move on.
  • carryingon
    carryingon Posts: 609 Member
    First take one step away and then another. It will seem hard at first. You will feel like your stumbling. Then you will steady. You won't even notice when it gets easier. It just will. Your walk will become a run. Freedom is amazing when you are young. Believe in your self. You are not him. When all else fails listen to "I will survive" (because you will) . Finally don't look back. You have nothing to prove. It is his loss. Find something to consume your time asap or you will try to consume it with him.There is always someone who needs help somewhere. Don't worry-you've got this!:flowerforyou:
  • WeekndOVOXO
    WeekndOVOXO Posts: 779 Member
    He's probably playing Black Ops 2.
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    He's probably playing Black Ops 2.

    Haha this made me laugh. Because it's probably true.
  • AimersBee
    AimersBee Posts: 775 Member
    how's it going with this anyways?

    update!

    you start talking to him again?... haven't said a word? deleted him from all technology?
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    He's too young for you anyway. Let him be and someone else will come along soon enough. :flowerforyou:
  • Masqueraded
    Masqueraded Posts: 91
    You are so young and so pretty. Man, I spent so many years chasing guys who weren't interested in me.

    Grab some girlfriends and go do something fun! Enjoy being young and carefree!
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    1.- He is 16.
    You are young. Go enjoy life. You know what, you have all your 20s and your 30s to be miserable over men. ENJOY being a TEENAGER!

    Go make something of yourself! Go reach your potential and have a fulfilling youth so later in life your are not a bitter older lady because you didn't enjoy your youth!

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