Is my hubby a saboteur or am I weak?

He waited until you went to bed. No sabotage there in my opinion. Don't feel guilty over one piece of pizza. Get in a nice Sunday walk today and it's gone! X

You were under your calories. You logged.
How is this bad?

It does not matter at what time you eat.
You are sabotaging yourself, if you eat so much under your calories that you cannot control your choices. Eat your calories.

Pizza, good. Guilt, bad.

tell him - New Rule - he can't go and get pizza unless HE can manage a whole one.

I would say both, he needs to understand you are on a diet and you need to be strong enough to say no or if you have some calories left use it up by having a slice. Partners always seem not understand our needs at times yet they are very fast to tell us we need to diet. Good luck and dont give up

I had a roommate once who insisted on going out to get Wendy's at 1AM. He would never gain weight. Me on the other hand, I blew up to my biggest size ever! Like you said it's nearly robotic how you can fall into the habit of eating along with them. Night after night I’d be shoving burgers, fries, soda and junk in my body and never really knowing or caring about what it would do to me.
I gained 30lbs in the year I lived with him and for months I blamed it on him (jokingly).

Fast forward 3 years to today I'm down 70lbs from back then and I have an amazing sense of direction as far as my fitness goals so I’m not slowing down.

That same old roommate has seen my success with a well balance diet and regular exercise and he was amazed. He actually stopped eating junk food all the time and started to work out (temporarily ).

It's funny because he would taunt me because I would order a chicken salad and water when we went out for lunch, while he still ate badly.

So I don't think your husband is a saboteur per say but he maybe similar to my old roommate in the sense that they're both afraid of Change. I think my roommate felt like if I changed he would have to change and sometimes that change is for the better

Keep up the good work. It's excellent that you still logged it. Don't be so hard on yourself; I'm a slave to Pizza.... I LOVE IT. Just don't fall into his trap, make him fall into your trap

In your post I see four issues you mention:

1. Eating the pizza: As you said, you stayed within your calories, so this isn't an issue. You shouldn't feel bad for eating pizza. I lost 40 lbs in six months eating much healthier but in moderation. I didn't deprive myself of anything...pizza, beer, chocolate. Had it all. But never went over my calories. Avoidance and deprivation is a bad idea. Some people can make a total 180 and start eating clean, but rarely, in those early days of weight loss is that an effective means of losing weight. It is usually a recipe for failure.

2. Eating at night: Studies show over and over that the time of day you eat has no bearing on weight loss. Your body doesn't stop burning calories because you fall asleep. Your body still needs fuel to perform basic bodily functions like breathing, pumping blood, etc. Eating at night does not effect your weight loss.

3. Your husband eating foods he enjoys after you are in bed: This sounds like an unhealthy habit. That fact that he is feeling he must hide food from you is unfair to him. Not once in my journey did my choices effect my family. As a whole, we eat healthy anyhow, but if I did not have enough calories for something, in no way did my family have to avoid those things. It is about self control. Like someone else said, food is going to be surrounding you at all times. You need to buck up buttercup. Your husband shouldn't feel like he needs to hide his choices and you shouldn't make him feel that way. If he was doing it to be considerate, then that is nice, but you need to make him feel like it is unnecessary. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for failure if you can't even see other people enjoying foods you want to avoid.

First off. Do you not plan to ever eat pizza?? I give ya a high five for only eating one. That is will power. Second, if you are trying to change your life style it doesn't mean your husband will be on the same page. Its up to you to decide to eat or not. Again one slice of pizza doesn't make you weak. My husband is thin and doesn't eat the best and liks his sweets. I choose to eat them or not.I don't cut everything out so in moderation I do eat some of the things he does.

I live with my 2 adult children (ages 19 and 20) and they bring pizza into the house 3-4 times a week. It is my choice to eat it or not. If I do choose to eat it (or the chips or the cookies or any of the other assorted junk food), I will not feel guilty for it.

Your husband DID wait until you went to bed which doesn't sound like he is sabotaging you. Sounds like he just wanted pizza and knew you "couldn't" have it.
BTW - you clearly could if you were that much under your calories that eating it didn't put you under.