in need of some brutal, honest advice

thankyou for all your caring responses. I think you've made it pretty clear to me that i'm not being normal i guess i'm just happy with having found something i can take control of and it's gone a little too far. My friends cooking fajitas tonight, so i guess i'm just going to try and test myself by eating without caring about the calories. thanks again everyone i promise to change my ways

Look at the Fajita this way:
If theres a wheat tortilla, use that instead if not limit yourself to 1-2 tortillas. Add more veggies than meat. Hold on any sauces (put them on the side if youll have any) and ENJOY !

If you have secondary amenorrhea it's a classic sign that you are not eating enough.

The fact that you are not hungry is meaningless. A prolonged lack of calories and nutrients will mean you have unreliable and distorted hunger cues. You're not in an immediate danger but you are not in optimal health clearly

You need to eat more in a systematic fashion.

this is the most informed advice I have seen on your topic so far.
The human body is naturally designed to in take 1200 calories per day at the least. If a woman goes below this and looses to much body fat her reproductive system starts to shut down, leading to a host of other potentially chronic conditions, osteoperosis and heart disease are two of the major ones. being under weight can cause heart damage due to low electrolytes. having imbalanced electrolytes can also cause your fatigue sysmptoms as well.

thankyou for all your caring responses. I think you've made it pretty clear to me that i'm not being normal i guess i'm just happy with having found something i can take control of and it's gone a little too far. My friends cooking fajitas tonight, so i guess i'm just going to try and test myself by eating without caring about the calories. thanks again everyone i promise to change my ways

Look at the Fajita this way:
If theres a wheat tortilla, use that instead if not limit yourself to 1-2 tortillas. Add more veggies than meat. Hold on any sauces (put them on the side if youll have any) and ENJOY !

She thinks she might have an eating disorder, and you're telling her how to be more restrictive? :noway:

no i mean she can eat 10 if she wants but i thought id tell her to eat healthy. She cant just shove a bunch of food in her mouth all at one time and gain weight, you have to start slow and if you do it with healthy foods thats better than filling up on junk to gain weight!

GPs are notoriously stupid about eating disorders. Advice from a GP is almost always useless when it comes to ED's/being underweight. Even if you aren't intentionally starving yourself, you are certainly under-eating. A nutritionist can help with that if there are no other underlying mental health issues, but if you are concerned about body image, you will need psych help as well.

Good luck to you OP..I took a quick look by searching "recovering from an eating disorder" on google and there are loads of resources out there!

Celebrate fresh, healthy foods. Set a schedule for yourself to eat breakfast, lunch, dinner & snacks inbetween. Slowly work your way up. This is also a way to be "in control".. you DON'T have to starve yourself to feel in control of your diet!

Here's a spin not yet presented:

If you're here HONESTLY tracking your intake and exercise, print out a few weeks or months history and take that to the doctor with you. Ask for a referral to an outpatient therapist and a nutritionist.

believe me i eat very healthily, take a look at my diary if you want cos personally i think what I eat shouldn't constitute being underweight. But i realize i am so obviously i'm going wrong somewhere. Most likely the control i have of my diet

I went ahead and took a look, there are a lot of great veggies in there and very healthy foods. I see you're drinking skim milk. You could bump that up to 2% or more.



Adding some nuts into your diet would help you add some calories and healthy fats. Maybe consider protein powder?

I'm not really one to take advice from as i'm struggling with my own weight and body image.. but these are just some thoughts.

And the OP can start eating some meat.. protein is very low.

believe me i eat very healthily, take a look at my diary if you want cos personally i think what I eat shouldn't constitute being underweight. But i realize i am so obviously i'm going wrong somewhere. Most likely the control i have of my diet

ill give an example of how it shows you being underweight- you ate ONE leaf of spinach. I am going to have 1c tonight on my taco salad.