Wife asked me to leave, try to get her back...

Sorry for being slow to get back on here, trucking life, with portable internet tech is tough...

I have tried to send some friend requests... this poor service while moving I am not sure what ones went through, feel free to add me. Thanks to those who already did.

Anyhow, trying to answer everyone as I can...

EnchantedEven - No as of now she will not consider counseling at all...

Antlady69 - Yes, I do know she may not fall back in love with me, and never be afraid to try to help me keep sight of reality... Even though getting her back I can call my main motivation, it is not my only motivation... My children are the ultimnate motivation, I need to be here for them...

roughneckswif - As above, you are right, she may never come back... As for someone new, I have tried to convince myself that I could be happy with another, but I really don't feel the ability to love another woman, she is it for me and if she doesn't find love for me again, I will live for my children and do the best I can, I never say never, but I just feel like I gave my heart and therefore I don't have it in me to love again...

mcgonigal - Thanks for thinking of me regarding the custody, as of now, the papers are already signed by me for the divorce, (I signed on the day she asked, the day of our 13th wedding anniversary) and all the custody is laid out in there, we have joint legal, she has physical. She also gets the house and everything she wants, I got my cloths and my cars.

mcgonigal - I know the weight came off faster than normal, but I had a very un healthy diet, 2 double cheeseburgers for lunch and a fri and milk shake and???? Lots of calories coming in, yet I was staying even, so just by cutting out junk and eating well I guess I'm dropping it partly from just the change of food? I will not let this come back this time, I am determined on that part.

Aschindler412 - again, see just above. The diet change plus exercise it is just what came off, some days I had 5 lbs in a day change. Now I'm at a pound or so a day. I guess my body is getting used to the new "food" in its life.

GoGlam - "Good for you or getting a job, and losing weight and eating healthy! And I can reaaaaaaally appreciate and respect for you leaving everything to your wife and kids. That's the real man, my friend! " I keep telling myself I have a rare opportunity here, men make mistakes, but I get to show my kids what a Real Man is to make things right...

Thanks all for the support...
William

Oh, and for the folks following this that aren't on my friends list, I had to make some changes...

In the agreement my wife made me sign, she said that I would have "reasonable visitaion" we had agreed when I was in town I could have the kids, well she never let my daughter go with me and my boys, I think it is because my wife has let her see her with another guy or heard her talking to one or worse, told her bad things about me. Before the separation my daughter never had a problem with being alone with only me, so where is this comming from???

So between that where she was breaking the agreement, and in 9 weeks has not been able to get a councelor to return a phone call ( I called 5 today, got 5 live people to talk to and shared the info with my wife, one of them included the councelor that my wife wanted and said she never called back) I had to do something...

I filed a response the the divorce, negating the uncontested marrital disolution she got me to sign. I then found out (when talking to an actual attorney) that if I had not done this on the day I did, the divorce would have gone into "default" and basically at that point she would have the divorce just as she had the attorney write it up, and that included what she said was a mistake by the attorney where it said she wanted Primary physical and SOLE legal custody! The paper my wife had me sign I think was just to make me feel better, as I had told her it had to be done prior to the 30 days after I was served. Now I am seeing why the attorney decided to not give me a copy of what I had signed when i asked for a copy...

Yes, I am now going for half of everything and anything I can get, this came when my wife told me she wants to be happy, she wants to re-marry etc. At that point I couldn't stand to see her re-marry, re-divorce and loose half of the house to a new guy, it would not be fair to the kids, so I had to do what I had to do. I am going to ask for my half of the house to be in a trust for the kids, I will pay for half the house payment etc, but if she sells, half the money goes in a trust for the kids, if she doesn't sell, when the kids are 19 the house will need to be sold and again the money go into trust for the kids. For this reason, to make the payment on the house i have also requested spousal support...

Just a little more of an update, but I still love her and I still pray we will be a family again, I have told her she is free, date who you want, do as you wish, God says let go of the ones you love and they will come back...

William