Dieting and got dumped?

Hello

Before I lost my weight, I was dating this guy who was almost my size at my highest weight. And he recommended I get the lap band!!
I tried to lose weight for him. I just didn't tell him I had started doing Curves, and we had a fight (ANOTHER fight) and I just told him where to go and I dumped him.
We were in college and it was summer though, so we didn't see each other for a few months. In that time I had lost some weight. By the end of the next semester, he wanted to get back with me!! But I wouldn't go back with him...because of how he treated me.

I think that personality is more important than anything. Anything could happen to us, even if we are beautiful, you know?
I remember talking to this guy at work after going to a dentist appointment and how it sucked that I had another cavity even though I quit drinking soda. He said that he had perfect teeth...and then he was in a car accident and they must have gotten ruined when he was in the crash. So like anything could happen!! It made me realize that one silly cavity is nothing because I have all of my teeth and they are in good condition, and they work.
Unfortunately, no matter how pretty or rich we are...we can still end up sick, hurt, bedridden, ect.

Perhaps he found your "too cheap to date" post on here and ended it.

I would

Sorry but what planet do you live on that I should not worry what I look like?

I think we've found the problem....well the other problem.

Perhaps he found your "too cheap to date" post on here and ended it.

I would

Bingo.

Perhaps he found your "too cheap to date" post on here and ended it.

I would

Hmmm, are we in highschool here? And LOL at the Emma Stone pic, lol.

I think if you weight was the problem your x wouldent have been with you in the first place.

Crazy. Did you know that Aqua released an album last year?

For reals? Their other album was my favourite cassette tape!

Trying to date (keyword try)

I got dumped for another girl. Part of me says if I was closer to goal weight I would have more success with men. The other part of me says to try and maybe meet someone along the way.

Dating just reminds me how important my weight loss is because it is such a superficial world out there.

*shrugs* I was over 300 pounds when I met my current flame. Maybe you need to find someone more interested in things other then looks.

wow! people are being MEAN on this topic! i think maybe it has to do with confidence more then appearance . it is a superficial world out there but a guy will almost always notice your smile first ... then your butt haha . maybe the guy just wasn't worth it and that's not the type of guy you want in your life anyway! stay strong, we are all beautiful in our own way you just need to find the guy worthy enough to see your beauty for what it really is ... am i not making any sense right now ? ... ANYWAY cheers :drinker:

I don't think that you being near or at goal has anything to do with it...people just naturally want what they don't have...sadly! It may not feel that way now but you're better off without that fish in the pond...good luck!

Agreed!

I don't think that you being near or at goal has anything to do with it...people just naturally want what they don't have...sadly! It may not feel that way now but you're better off without that fish in the pond...good luck!

This person ^^^was being nice and then you were mean to them:huh: I don't get that?!? I am sorry that it ended if you didn't want it too though:flowerforyou:

I can't speak for your situation, but it doesn't matter how much weight I lose. I'm still ugly. Just sayin'.

I recommend therapy for you.

You posted this in another thread :

have you girls losing weight found that you attract more or different men at different weight? If so what weight did you notice the change?

Why do you think at a certain number on the scale will magically make guys start paying attention to you? You clearly think that your looks and size will determine whether people will like you or not. I think you should see a professional about your unhealthy mindset.