What would you think if you saw self harm scars?

Unless they are really bad I don't know if a person would even really notice unless they were looking for them...

(and if anything I would just think I'm glad that person was strong enough to be able to get to a better happier place and not let their past get in the way of how they feel about their self now)

I have them, too. Mine are all over. I wouldn't think anything of it, except mabye "glad those are scars and not fresh". Hang in there. Best of luck.

I have them, I dont think about it or cover them.

I don't understand the behavior. I'd think the person had some deep emotional issues, or at least did. I'd proceed with caution around the person until I knew better.

But, to be honest. I'd llikely think the scars were from an accident. Perhaps the person ran into a barbed wire fence while biking. I think the best of people. But, once I know there are emotional issues . . . I handle the person very carefully.

I don't know that I would recognize them as self-harm scars. I am covered in scars, and would pray that the person did not endure what I did when I got mine. That aside, my scars are part of me and the experience that brought them about is a huge part of who I am. I don't hide them and nobody asks.

I have them too on my thighs and feel kind of embarrassed about them. Luckily they're really high up so they really only show if I'm in a Bikini or something. I guess that makes me more sensitive to noticing self-harm scars on others. If I saw that I'd understand that they went through something, if I was really close to the person, like dating then or something I might ask them about it or just offer them a listening ear if they ever wanted to tell me about it. But it would make me a little more cautious about the person especially in a romantic situations, I'd like them to be at a point in their lives when they are more stable. But I don't hold the past against people.

Mostly people who've seen mine have been boyfriends, it can be a tough conversation to have, since it's emotionally upsetting for someone who cares about you but if you assure them it's not something you do anymore etc my experience has been that people are understanding

One of my sisters used to do this. My thoughts would be that I would hope that this person has finally found peace in their life and no longer feels the need to cut.

As you are hearing, I think they are pretty common.

As long as they're definitely healed I wouldn't think much about it. In fact, I might admire that the person was strong enough to stop harming themselves. If they're fresh, it'd break my heart. :frown:

If they were fresh, I would be concerned. If they are healed, I imagine that the person has adjusted since that time period. I work at a jail and see it often enough from both ends. I actually think I'm the only person that noticed them on the arms of one of our nurses. Other people hide it better. One girl even talked to me about it. But I try not to look down on anyone for it. I'd rather help the person through whatever they need, if they are willing to let me. But that is always their choice. I don't ever bring it up, unless they are already open about it. And I don't see a reason to hide them, especially if you have moved on.

I have a dozen+ thigh self harm scars from my... weird highschool years. They are not small. They're still quite wide and white-pink. I don't care if people see them or not, though. It was just a part of my life where I was a hormone riddled teenager with self esteem issues, but I've grown to not care if they offend or not.

I have them too. They are just one of many reminders that I am a stronger, and happier person today than I used to be.

who cares what anyone else thinks...your always goingto have people out there that judge you whether for your scars, weight, height, the color of your skin or hair....be proud of who you are and what you have overcame in life. Wear those scars proudly because it shows that you had the strength to overcome hardship. You never know, someone who is going through something similar may see them and be encouraged by your history.

I'm in AA. I had a girl approach me and ask me to sponsor her I guess about 8 years ago now. I saw the cuts on her arms. I told her I could help her get sober but couldn't help her with the rest. I'm not a shrink.

Honestly, if I saw you on the street and these were scars and not fresh marks, I would hope you were in recovery and smile at you ...I never did self harm that way but my alcoholism was self harm. Takes one to know one.

You wanna wear the dress? F it! Wear it! Screw what others think if you're in recovery. If you're still doing it, get help.

I saw some on a girl sitting in our car on the Monorail at Disney once. I just felt sad that she had felt the need to do that to herself, but she was a stranger, so of course I didn't stare or say anything to her. She didn't seem in the least self-conscious about them, though.