Something my boyfriend does that bothers me. Mini rant.

Give your boyfriend an opportunity to help you. Ask for his support and to help you stay motivated. So when he does go get the pizza or whatever you aren't as annoyed. Hope that made sense.

My bf likes to serve me my food when he cooks. He'd load up a regular size plate with food and I'd eat more than I should so he wouln't feel bad. Then I'd enter it in MFP and groan. We tried having me fill my own plate, but I knew he liked serving me, so one night when I was using a smaller plate, I told him to try using that sized plate when serving me

He's awesome!

My boyfriend is bbqing today..
and he texted me saying "none for you, Gretchen Weiners"
hilarious...but i love bbq. :P
Just don't let his habits effect yours.
It's hard but..sorry.

you can too eat pizza!

IF IT FITS YOUR MACRO'S .

1)LEARN ABOUT IT.

2)EAT ALL THE FOOD! (that your macro's allow)

p.s i promise it works!

i eat everything my partner eats i just have smaller portions im not giving up pizza!
I do not have that problem with my partner, i do take my calories and exercise seriously, i just make better choices or eat smaller portions of yummy food

I shouldn't have posted this, mainly because none of you know how my bf is.We joke around. He knew i was joking but knows i'm sensitive about this because i'm serious about it. I just know i wouldn't tease him like that if he were in my position. Most of the time I don't say a WORD when he says stuff like that. Even when I don't he makes rude remarks. And for you guys saying i shouldn't care what he eats, i don't. He acts like he is trying to lose weight and eat better but he doesn't. Have i said anything to him about it? No. I DO eat what i want, in moderation. I just didn't know the calories of a food court slice of Sbarro pizza, so i did not get it.

I get where you're coming from. It's frustrating when we are trying hard to make a positive change and our significant other isn't completely supportive. From experience, it's because they know they should be making a change as well, but are just not ready or willing to put the effort into it. Everyone has to arrive at that decision on their own. When we do so well, sometimes it makes others feel a little envious of our efforts and successes.

Whether it's eating more healthy, losing weight, exercising or quitting smoking, the people in your life who know they should eat right, lose weight, exercise or quit smoking might feel that they don't have the willpower to do what you are doing and secretly wish you to fail (I'm not saying it's true of everyone, but it definitely is true of some). It's easier for them if they don't have to hear you count calories, remind them that maybe they should exercise or eat better or that they also should not smoke. If you fail, you are back in the same boat as they are .

A prime example is a friend of mine who's husband quit smoking and then began to bug her to quit. Instead of being happy for him that he was improving his health, she wished he would start smoking again so he would stop bugging her. Crazy as it sounds, it happens and people feel that way.

I definitely don't think your boyfriend is doing that, but I do understand why it bothers you. My husband eats things in front of me which I would rather not use my calories on and it really doesn't bother me, but he does things like getting me a bacon, fried egg and cheese sandwich on a roll when he knows I don't want to eat it. I tell him no thanks, that I will make my own healthier egg sandwich where I can count the calories more precisely. But instead of just letting it go, he tells me it's in the fridge if I want it. That bothers me because I feel like he is almost trying to sabotage my efforts, hoping I will cave in and eat it.

Sorry to go on for so long, I just wanted you to know that I understand what you are saying and all you are looking for is a little support from your bf.

Btw, the database for foods here is amazing. I bet if you put Sbarros pizza in the search, you will find the calorie count for it.

I've been successfully married a loooong time, and I've utilized something that works wonders. It's called "The 3 C's": communicaiton, cooperation, and compromise.

In a calm, kind, caring way, talk to him about your issue. Use "I feel..." statements instead of "You make me feel..." accusations. Ask for his cooperation in solving the issue, and compromise together on a solution that benefits both of you. You may have to give a little to get a little, but so will he. It may go something like this:

"Dear, I'd like to discuss our diet journeys. I am working hard to lose weight, and I feel tempted when you eat pizza in front of me. I understand that your diet differs from m ine, and yours may allow you to have those calories, so I don't want to deprive you of what fits into your daily calories. But will you please cooperate with me on a solution so I am not tempted? I feel what might work is if you endulge in whatever you like, just not in my presence. Would that work for you? If not, then I am open to your ideas about how we can work through this together."

Very well said! I don't think everyone was getting the point that you didn't WANT to eat it.

If my husband is eating something I'm trying to avoid but really want I ask for a bite. Everyone knows the first and last bite are the best and that one bite serves as both! Deeeeelicious!

well at least hes being more active right?

No. He goes for runs for 10 minutes and walks half of it because he says he can't breathe. I don't like bashing on him because everything being said has made me feel horrible, and i love him, so I'm done.

So? Not everyone can run 10 minutes right off the bat. At least he's trying. Maybe you should support him if you expect him to support you.

And when you open up your thoughts on a public forum, you have to prepare to get lots of opinions and feedback. Them's the breaks...

Some of my MFP friends get to eat ice cream every single night. The nerve I tell ya.

Then that biotch posts up pictures of a flat stomach and such. Clearly they are not her pictures, no one eats ice cream and stays amazingly fit and trim. No one.

Ohai!!!

I thought my "Eat Ice Cream Everyday" tutorial was being discussed and I was like /: haha
Then I see that crazy biotch..

I've been successfully married a loooong time, and I've utilized something that works wonders. It's called "The 3 C's": communicaiton, cooperation, and compromise.

In a calm, kind, caring way, talk to him about your issue. Use "I feel..." statements instead of "You make me feel..." accusations. Ask for his cooperation in solving the issue, and compromise together on a solution that benefits both of you. You may have to give a little to get a little, but so will he. It may go something like this:

"Dear, I'd like to discuss our diet journeys. I am working hard to lose weight, and I feel tempted when you eat pizza in front of me. I understand that your diet differs from m ine, and yours may allow you to have those calories, so I don't want to deprive you of what fits into your daily calories. But will you please cooperate with me on a solution so I am not tempted? I feel what might work is if you endulge in whatever you like, just not in my presence. Would that work for you? If not, then I am open to your ideas about how we can work through this together."

Very well said! I don't think everyone was getting the point that you didn't WANT to eat it.

This is what i finally had to do and for the most part he is very considerate now to take into account how what he eats in front of me will affect me. It has made a huge difference.....dont be sarcastic just tell him how it makes you feel.

You're the one who started with the joking about you not being able to eat any. : | I'm confused. If he wants to eat pizza, let him. Don't get all passive aggressive with your "jokes" and get all upset when he plays along, thinking it's all innocent fun.

this ^

it really sounds like you are being passive aggressive and then mad he hasnt picked up on it yet