boss thinks i am doing drugs
garystidham1
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well on august 18 i bought a scale when i got home and stepped on it i was at 310 i was astonished at how i let my self go
i was always fat but i stayed at 250 but over the last 3 years i guess it just started packing on so i made the choice to change my life not to just to go on a diet but to change how i look at food
this was harder than i thought because i am a chef so i looked into how much i ate on a daily basis and it was scary on a slow day i was eating 6000+ calories a day so i started eating 2000 after a month i was down to 1600 than in the last few month i have been eating 1200 c a day and i eat well no more fast food no more soda and no bread witch is harder than i thought it has been 4 months and 1 day and i have lost just under 90 lbs and over the last month my boss has been getting on my back saying he is worried about me and asking me if i am taking any thing to help me loose weight
i keep telling him no i am just eating right for the first time in my life
can anybody give me any advice to get him off my back
my goal is to get to 195 just to let you know i am 6' 3" tall and i am 29
and surprisingly i dont work out but i do work hard i would add a be for and after picture but i dont know how
i was always fat but i stayed at 250 but over the last 3 years i guess it just started packing on so i made the choice to change my life not to just to go on a diet but to change how i look at food
this was harder than i thought because i am a chef so i looked into how much i ate on a daily basis and it was scary on a slow day i was eating 6000+ calories a day so i started eating 2000 after a month i was down to 1600 than in the last few month i have been eating 1200 c a day and i eat well no more fast food no more soda and no bread witch is harder than i thought it has been 4 months and 1 day and i have lost just under 90 lbs and over the last month my boss has been getting on my back saying he is worried about me and asking me if i am taking any thing to help me loose weight
i keep telling him no i am just eating right for the first time in my life
can anybody give me any advice to get him off my back
my goal is to get to 195 just to let you know i am 6' 3" tall and i am 29
and surprisingly i dont work out but i do work hard i would add a be for and after picture but i dont know how
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just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are0 -
Maybe recommend some healthy changes to the menu or ask him if he needs any nutritional counseling since u have learned so much about nutrition.0
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Ninety pounds in 4 months is really fast. You might want to slow down a little.0
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I do not understand why people think
you used drugs, or had surgery
There are those of us that just
said it's time to STOP eating to much
I will not accept being fat any more!
I wear size 4, not a 28W, this is where I want to be
I am very happy for you, Keep up the great job
It is very hard, but so worth it, your opinion of
yourself is the most important one.
I applaud you!0 -
I just calculated the BMR of a 29 year old male who is 6'3" and 22lbs and it's a little under 2200. I'm all for people doing what's right for them and their bodies in their weight loss but 1200 calories is 1000 under your BMR. You really need to reconsider your approach to weight loss. Remember BMR is what your body needs to maintain it's essential functions not even taking into account that your job requires some physical activity. You may want to consider talking to a health professional about this0
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just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
This is certainly blunt, but also very accurate. 1200 is what MFP recommends for a petite, SEDENTARY woman. You are not sedentary, and you are losing at a rate that is not medically recommended because you are in too deep a deficit. I would hope you would look into your correct activity level, and have MFP calculate a safe deficit.0 -
thats 20lbs a month. it takes a deficit of 3500 calories to burn a lbs. so if you cut out that many calories,the math is right, right. but that dosen't mean its healthy0
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He is concerned about your health, as we all are. Don't kill yourself trying to get healthy. It's better to be fat and alive than skinny and dead. Please take care of yourself. Good health and fitness should be your goal, not a certain weight.0
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just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
^^^ this. But even a woman at 5 foot tall should eat more. You will eventually plateau because your body is not getting enough calories to support healthy organ function (BMR). You should calculate your body fat percentage and TDEE and eat according to that. The loss wil slow down, but be healthier. best of luck!0 -
i am surprised because he has joked about a random drug test but i could tell he was not joking0
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Is your boss overweight? He could just be jealous of your progress. Tell him to give you a drug test!0
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People want to hear an easy answer because it makes them feel better about their inability to make changes in their own life. I bet he'd get off your case if you told him that you've been doing P90x. Or you've started detoxing. It will make more sense to him than "I'm counting calories and exercising."0
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Sounds like the boss is worried about you with good cause. Your weight loss has been drastic, and would signal to anyone that something is wrong. I can tell you want this badly, but try not to be impatient. Try following the MFP guidelines to lose your weight safely. You'll get there!0
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i am surprised because he has joked about a random drug test but i could tell he was not joking
Tell him you will take one so he will get off your back.0 -
Gary, please understand this is not critisism, only concern for your health and well being. A man your size cannot sustain 1200 calorie days without it effecting his thinking skills and stamina. Have you been making any unusual mistakes? Are you unable to work as hard as you used to? Are you shaky? Are you losing coordination? Your boss is concerned and he wouldn't be if you acted and looked healthy.0
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Show your boss the app. Explain what it does and what you have been doing.
Example:
Hey, can I talk to you for a second? Yesterday, you mentioned being concerned about my weight loss. I can understand your concern....I've been blown away myself. I found this amazing app that really put things into perspective for me. I can track what I eat. When I started...I was eating around 6000 cals a day. I have lowered my intake to human consumption levels instead of a rhinoceros. I do think I am losing a little too fast...so I'm working on fixing that. It's a daily battle, but I'm doing ok. Thank you for your concern, that means a lot.0 -
i am the executive chef and if i was making any mistakes i could see the concern but it is the other way around i wake up after 7 hours of sleep without an alarm befor if i got under 10 i felt like crap and i needed my alarm to get up so i am at work by 8:30 am
have more energy i get more done in a day and i have no issue working a 10 or 11 hour day when befor 8 hours and i was done
i feel better than i have in 15 years my joints legs feet and back don't hurt any more i would be hunched over at the end of my day0 -
Unless you really are doing drugs, you have no reason to be afraid of a random drug test if your boss is truly serious about it. Your weight loss and how you are legally achieving it is none of his business. Your body, your life! It should not affect your job in any way, shape, or form. Start keeping a personal log of everything your boss says to you in regards to your weight loss. If he tries to use it as an excuse to fire you, then you have proof that it is some form of discrimination or even harassment.
I hate to sound worked up about this, but I can relate because I am sort of in the same boat. I have recently lost 21 pounds in about 3 months and several of my co-workers have been saying that I am starving myself and/or suggesting that I am doing something (drugs?) to lose weight other than eating healthy and exercising. No, I am not on drugs. Yes, I can admit I used to eat junk. I also used to be quite inactive. Of course there will be a significant turn around and loss when a person goes from eating unhealthy and being inactive to eating healthy and exercising.
There is a good chance it all boils down to jealousy. Squash the haters and keep up the good work!0 -
Gary, just give him your run down on how you were eating nd how you are now. If that don't do it, tell him you are willing to be tested!! You should get into some kind of excersize program and you would do even better, however you are doing great!!!
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At 6'3" I would recommend slowly working your way back up to around 2000-2500 calories per day - the 1200 calories a day will work for a while but it ultimately isn't sustainable, and the best way to not just lose weight, but to keep it off, is to eat in a manner that can be sustained for life. I'm not sure of your general activity level - I'm sure you have some activity at work - but if you don't have any medical things holding you back and aren't already working out, it would be a good idea to work in a strength and cardio regimen. Just don't do that with as big a caloric deficit as you have currently!
That said though, I give you hella props for having the mental toughness and the mindset to stick to what you have been doing. Even if it isn't perhaps the optimal route, diet is the hardest, but also most important, part of the equation.0 -
i am vary active at work in my feet all day moving around and on a daily basis i am moving kegs from the flore to about waist high moving 50+lb cs of food
from my research i am light to medium active lvl at work but when i am off i just watch tv0 -
There is nothing clever about eating as little as you possibly can to lose weight, it might seem impressive when the number on the scale drops so fast, but you wont be so impressed when you either regain all the weight back or end up with deficiencies or metabolic issues from eating far too low for your gender and height. Most women here don't eat 1200 calories to lose weight, as like many, they have realised that apart from in some cases, it is rather pointless and foolish.
I suggest using your brain and losing weight in a more sensible manner.0 -
Increase your calorie intake. 1200 calories is absolutely an unhealthy amount for you0
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At 6'3" I would recommend slowly working your way back up to around 2000-2500 calories per day - the 1200 calories a day will work for a while but it ultimately isn't sustainable, and the best way to not just lose weight, but to keep it off, is to eat in a manner that can be sustained for life. I'm not sure of your general activity level - I'm sure you have some activity at work - but if you don't have any medical things holding you back and aren't already working out, it would be a good idea to work in a strength and cardio regimen. Just don't do that with as big a caloric deficit as you have currently!
That said though, I give you hella props for having the mental toughness and the mindset to stick to what you have been doing. Even if it isn't perhaps the optimal route, diet is the hardest, but also most important, part of the equation.
All of this ^^ but especially the bold.
It's great that you are losing, but you need to be careful that your lose is not nutritionally deficient and sustainable.
Given that you are very active and have a lot of strength related activity in your daily work you are probably protected from some muscle loss but at high loss rates you will lose muscle - not good. Also, make sure you get enough protein and fat. You should be eating eating close to 130-160 g of protein per day - are you getting that?0 -
1200 calories a day? Ironic that a chef has a microwave dinner mentality about losing weight.
There's a real problem that you will plateau at some point which will have you being frustrated as hell. As others have said, eat slightly more than you are now.0 -
Being a chef is not Light/Mod active Gary IMHO, it is very hard work, and can be very stressful. Congratulations on your achievements so far, but i would echo what others have said on here, and after being at 1200 myself for quite a few months, and found it unsustainable in the long term, you can eat a little more and still be happy, and if you can excercise too, your energy levels will skyrocket! A lot of people suffer negativity from friends and family after weight loss. Just rise above it my friend. :flowerforyou:0
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I am that petite, older, SEDENTARY woman! You could eat more with your height. My DH is 6'4" and weighed 295. He let MFP calculate his calories and has around 2100 per day. He's lost 28 pounds since September 20. I know you want to be a lower weight but 90 pounds is good for a start and you can start losing more slowly and be healthier. Good luck with your journey. I'm sure if you don't drop the weight so quickly any more your boss will back off. You might want to suggest some healthy, low calorie items for the menu. *HUGS*just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
This is certainly blunt, but also very accurate. 1200 is what MFP recommends for a petite, SEDENTARY woman. You are not sedentary, and you are losing at a rate that is not medically recommended because you are in too deep a deficit. I would hope you would look into your correct activity level, and have MFP calculate a safe deficit.0 -
I'm not telling you what to do, I am telling you how it is:
I ran your numbers using an activity level of 1.4,
You should be eating at least 2250 calories a day,
You are starving yourself and that is unhealthy!
"Mifflin-St Jeor
(FOR MEN)"
BMR 2,005
Maintenance 2,806
Cut (@ 15%) 2,385
Cut (@ 20%) 2,245
Build (@ 15%) 3,227
If you would like a copy of the spreadsheet so you can educate yourself on how much you should be eating, message me and I will send you one.0 -
If you want to have saggy skin all over your body than by all means keep losing almost 20lbs a month. Will that make you happy in the end? I notice you do not respond to anyone telling you to eat more calories, only to those people that tell you what to tell your boss. I understand you really want to lose this weight. From what Ive heard is that when you weigh less your body needs less calories, what happens when you get down to say 180, will you be eating 800 cals a day? Keep it safe, thats all were saying.0
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You are doing great. If you are not hungry and are eating healthier you will lose weight faster because of what you used to eat. Rule of thumb I was told if you are not hungry you don't have to eat. You are doing what works for you and congrats. Be healthy and keep up the great job. You should be proud. Just tell your boss you are trying to be healthier so you can stay around and cook for him.....maybe you can come up with something for him to add to the menu to help others. Congrats again.0
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