50 Year Old Couples? Protection?

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  • sjohnny
    sjohnny Posts: 56,142 Member
    Get fixed. No more worries.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Also...has she been tested for cooties?

    Circle, Circle - Dot, Dot - Now you've got your Cootie Shot!

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  • Nebrie
    Nebrie Posts: 56 Member
    My mother had her tubes tied after my birth when she was 30. She's 65 now and that technique for preventing unplanned pregnancy was effective.

    Concerning STD I will assume that my mom and dad have been monogamous with each other thus the chance of STD is very low. If by chance my parents have not been monogamous then I will also assume that they aren't stupid and used condoms to help protect themselves.

    "I'm cranky not stupid." - My Mom
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    Quick question that hopefully won't be pulled by the monitors.

    If you are around 50 and in a very long term stable relationship, do you use protection?

    I have seen conflicting stats about how late pregnancy can occur.

    Echo all the posters who'd insisted sexually active couples in their 50s use protection, for unknowingly to many, they are actually the youngest group amongst the most sexually active [comparatively to the media-spun sexual years].

    They too are of the group-set who are said to be at a greater risk for STDs.

    Late pregnancy with mature women is a moot risk - so yet again - I too agree with those who'd attentioned that for women who still ovulate well into their older years, it is absolutely mandatory their men wear protection [at the very least], for I doubt very much that the percentage of women who fall within this age-range would favour falling pregnant.

    Edited to add
    Update:
    People are posting about STDs, we have been married almost 25 years. That is not really an issue FOR US. Other people, not so much........

    Knowing of some of my friends - I doubt very much they use protection@in their 50s + stable marital relationship. That said however, if and when any of my women friends suspects that their husbands "dabbled about" - the condom-must rears its head, plus the mandatory followup check.
    STDs were NOT the point of my post.
    We have been faithfull for 25 years.
    The question was for 50ish people about protection in regards to pregnancies and miscarriages, etc.....

    It is difficult for some to accept that women who are within this age-range still menstruate when the younger and procreative generations, despite the outputs [teen parents], are of a time where their sexual health is threatened and is at high risk.

    Women I know and knew who were fertile still, well into their latter years, would either deny their husbands intimacy altogether or they'd simply gone along with it - and had their babies. Am unfortunately unfamiliar with women in their 50s and miscarriages.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member

    You'd only need to use protection if you were not in a stable, long-term, monogamous relationship. If you've been having sex with the same person (and neither of you have had sex with other people) for 20 years, your risk of contracting a new STI from that person is very low.

    Um, what about the people that think they are in a monogamous relationship???

    Um, so you have never had sex without a condom? How do you think people get pregnant? You have to trust that your partner isn't sleeping around at some point.
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I'm not sure why you would if the woman is past menopause (or the man is shooting blanks) and you're monogamous.

    ^This!
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    just pull and pray ....60% of the time it works everytime
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233

    You'd only need to use protection if you were not in a stable, long-term, monogamous relationship. If you've been having sex with the same person (and neither of you have had sex with other people) for 20 years, your risk of contracting a new STI from that person is very low.

    Um, what about the people that think they are in a monogamous relationship???

    Um, so you have never had sex without a condom? How do you think people get pregnant? You have to trust that your partner isn't sleeping around at some point.

    True statement.

    However, it is silly to ignore that a STD is indeed a possibility.
  • michelejoann
    michelejoann Posts: 295 Member
    Unless they're sterile, or snipped...I would err to the side of caution and use it. The outside chance of a high risk pregnancy is scary enough.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member

    You'd only need to use protection if you were not in a stable, long-term, monogamous relationship. If you've been having sex with the same person (and neither of you have had sex with other people) for 20 years, your risk of contracting a new STI from that person is very low.

    Um, what about the people that think they are in a monogamous relationship???



    Um, so you have never had sex without a condom? How do you think people get pregnant? You have to trust that your partner isn't sleeping around at some point.

    True statement.

    However, it is silly to ignore that a STD is indeed a possibility.



    STDs were NOT the point of my post.
    We have been faithfull for 25 years.
    The question was for 50ish people about protection in regards to pregnancies and miscarriages, etc.....
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Condoms are for sailors.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Fun Fact: The Villages in Florida, which is a retirement community and really a small self contained city, has the highest rate of STD's.

    So in answer to your question yes. Use protection.

    OP was clearly asking about pregnancy, not STDs.

    So? It's still a fun fact and regardless of whether or not someone over 50 can get pregnant they can still get an STD. Age doesn't exonerate a person from this.

    So you weren't answering the OP's question. OP clearly wrote the word pregnancy and said that the couple is in a stable long term relationship. I wouldn't necessarily call STD facts fun, either.

    I wasn't calling an STD a fun fact. I was stating that the fact that this one particular retirement community is rampant with STD's the fun fact. Jeeze.

    And I'm sorry for not answering the OP's original question. I didn't realize it affected you that much.:flowerforyou:
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
    Saddle up partner! Every time! :drinker:
  • michelejoann
    michelejoann Posts: 295 Member
    Fun Fact: The Villages in Florida, which is a retirement community and really a small self contained city, has the highest rate of STD's.

    So in answer to your question yes. Use protection.

    OP was clearly asking about pregnancy, not STDs.

    So? It's still a fun fact and regardless of whether or not someone over 50 can get pregnant they can still get an STD. Age doesn't exonerate a person from this.

    So you weren't answering the OP's question. OP clearly wrote the word pregnancy and said that the couple is in a stable long term relationship. I wouldn't necessarily call STD facts fun, either.

    I wasn't calling an STD a fun fact. I was stating that the fact that this one particular retirement community is rampant with STD's the fun fact. Jeeze.

    And I'm sorry for not answering the OP's original question. I didn't realize it affected you that much.:flowerforyou:

    Geez oh man. People need to CHEEEEEEEEL. I found your fun fact interesting.
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    Geez oh man. People need to CHEEEEEEEEL. I found your fun fact interesting.

    THIS
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    Everyone is different...but I know a woman who had a baby at 49.. healthy little chubster that kid is. So...if your equipment is still technically in working order and you aint looking to get pregnant, me thinks you should either see a doc and find out your options or ....put a jacket on that beast.
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
    just pull and pray ....60% of the time it works everytime

    Haha! Yep. Works great... that's how I got my youngest son. Now, it's "No glove, no love".
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    Just pull out. Its been effective for me for the past 15 years. You just need to know when to pull the plug. No kids.....errrrr let me check.....yup no kids.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    not at all trying to be rude, but you are how old and asking about pregnancy?!? I'm not a doctor, but I play one on MFP....
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Just pull out. Its been effective for me for the past 15 years. You just need to know when to pull the plug. No kids.....errrrr let me check.....yup no kids.

    Something I've been meaning to tell you Chuckie. Have a seat.

    You remember that night? Well.. this is hard to say.. just look at his eyes..
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member

    You'd only need to use protection if you were not in a stable, long-term, monogamous relationship. If you've been having sex with the same person (and neither of you have had sex with other people) for 20 years, your risk of contracting a new STI from that person is very low.

    Um, what about the people that think they are in a monogamous relationship???



    Um, so you have never had sex without a condom? How do you think people get pregnant? You have to trust that your partner isn't sleeping around at some point.

    True statement.

    However, it is silly to ignore that a STD is indeed a possibility.



    STDs were NOT the point of my post.
    We have been faithfull for 25 years.
    The question was for 50ish people about protection in regards to pregnancies and miscarriages, etc.....

    It's alright, reading comprehension fail is rampant among this site.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member

    You'd only need to use protection if you were not in a stable, long-term, monogamous relationship. If you've been having sex with the same person (and neither of you have had sex with other people) for 20 years, your risk of contracting a new STI from that person is very low.

    Um, what about the people that think they are in a monogamous relationship???



    Um, so you have never had sex without a condom? How do you think people get pregnant? You have to trust that your partner isn't sleeping around at some point.

    True statement.

    However, it is silly to ignore that a STD is indeed a possibility.



    STDs were NOT the point of my post.
    We have been faithfull for 25 years.
    The question was for 50ish people about protection in regards to pregnancies and miscarriages, etc.....

    It's alright, reading comprehension fail is rampant among this site.

    You need to stop taking it so personally. Sit down, relax and have a cup of coffee.:drinker:
  • gingerveg
    gingerveg Posts: 748 Member
    Do people not get tested before taking on a new partner these days? It seemed to be a requirement back in my single days. I would never sleep with anyone (and wouldn't expect them to feel safe with me) if we both didn't get tested for STDs (so while I'm an atheist with no religious objection to as much, as often, and as many sex partners as you wish being safe means no one-night stands). Perhaps that has "fallen out of fashion" now that AIDS isn't a ginormous scare these days (since it can be managed). Anyway, after clearing those tests and being with someone long-term I think it is fairly safe to assume one's partner is not sleeping around. But of course pregnancy is still a risk. So for those talking about STDs, while I understand it is a big problem, I think at some point one should be able to trust their partners. Even if they are sleeping around hopefully they are at least protecting themselves. It is important to be open and candid about the risks with all new partners and stress the importance of safety with long-term ones. While it might be an uncomfortable conversation the implications of not having the conversation, proper tests, and proper use of protection can be quite significant.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    50 is late for menopause, but women can get pregnant during menopause. My aunt and grandmother both did, though both of those pregnancies ended in miscarriage.

    Post-menopause, then it shouldn't be an issue.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Quick question that hopefully won't be pulled by the monitors.

    If you are around 50 and in a very long term stable relationship, do you use protection?

    I have seen conflicting stats about how late pregnancy can occur.

    If no one has been snipped, I wouldn't take my chances.

    My mother's former boss went through menopause and hadn't had a period in two years. She was in her late 40s. Her doctor told her she no longer needed to worry.

    Doc was very wrong!

    I don't know if this got lost or the OP saw it. But it addresses the question at hand pretty well so I'm repeating it.
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    It's alright, reading comprehension fail is rampant among this site.

    Dr. Seuss is in da house!

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  • Fox_n_sox
    Fox_n_sox Posts: 283 Member
    Fun Fact: The Villages in Florida, which is a retirement community and really a small self contained city, has the highest rate of STD's.

    So in answer to your question yes. Use protection.

    Where do you get that information?
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Just pull out. Its been effective for me for the past 15 years. You just need to know when to pull the plug. No kids.....errrrr let me check.....yup no kids.

    Something I've been meaning to tell you Chuckie. Have a seat.

    You remember that night? Well.. this is hard to say.. just look at his eyes..

    HAHAHAHAHAHA the men of MFP are so on fire today. I have so much love for yall today. SO MUCH. Im adopting you all and lining you up on my couch for some football and beer. GET IN MY HOUSE!
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    Fun Fact: The Villages in Florida, which is a retirement community and really a small self contained city, has the highest rate of STD's.

    So in answer to your question yes. Use protection.

    you just ruined my weekend plans, but at the same time may have saved my life. so... thanks
  • Captain_Tightpants
    Captain_Tightpants Posts: 2,215 Member
    Sex after fifty is fine. Food after midnight however...

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