boss thinks i am doing drugs
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I don't know about what you are eating but there is a book called eat to live and if your are getting in the right nutrients and are feeling great then 1200 may be all you need, you are living off your fat stores..eventually you will want to up your calories slowly to maintance but right now it shouldn't be as harmful as people are making it out. Keep up the excellent work and I agree with showing your boss this website and get the book and give it to him..may shut him up.i am the executive chef and if i was making any mistakes i could see the concern but it is the other way around i wake up after 7 hours of sleep without an alarm befor if i got under 10 i felt like crap and i needed my alarm to get up so i am at work by 8:30 am
have more energy i get more done in a day and i have no issue working a 10 or 11 hour day when befor 8 hours and i was done
i feel better than i have in 15 years my joints legs feet and back don't hurt any more i would be hunched over at the end of my day0 -
I too am a Exec. Chef. First, I totally understand how one can consume so many calories a day and not even realize your doing so. I was in the same boat. Life at work was a non-stop buffet daily. A fry here, a piece of tort there, a bowl of soup, a quick sandwich on fresh bread, better test those fritters, a piece of bacon every time you pass the grill... non-stop for 8-16 hrs.
What I don't understand is why the (G.M./F&B Manager or what ever title your boss carries) is giving you grief over you taking charge of your well being. First off, you not eating the 6000+ cals. a day is probably saving the company $20-$30 a day. This alone should have him doing a happy dance. Secondly, it's none of his damn business. Maybe he/she should be the one getting checked with a drug test.
Don't let this get you down... you have made some really positive progress. Just read more about how to go about it properly, ask questions from your friends here when your not sure, track everything you consume and stick with it! You have made a life changing decision to better yourself. I commend you for that and wish you all the best. Feel free to friend me if you wish0 -
Well if you have good health insurance you could always make an appointment with a doctor, get a referral to a nutritionist, then when your boss worries you can quote whatever advice the nutritionist gave you that week to comfort him.
If you don't have good health insurance, tell your boss to shut up or provide some for you. :laugh:0 -
Maybe recommend some healthy changes to the menu or ask him if he needs any nutritional counseling since u have learned so much about nutrition.
He hasn't learned anything about nutrition. What he is doing is going to cause him health issues in the long-term!0 -
I do not understand why people think
you used drugs, or had surgery
There are those of us that just
said it's time to STOP eating to much
I will not accept being fat any more!
I wear size 4, not a 28W, this is where I want to be
I am very happy for you, Keep up the great job
It is very hard, but so worth it, your opinion of
yourself is the most important one.
I applaud you!
Is this a poem? Looks and reads like one!0 -
just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
Well said!!
A man needs at least 1800 calories per day!! Like the women said you are starving yourself to death.0 -
just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
This is certainly blunt, but also very accurate. 1200 is what MFP recommends for a petite, SEDENTARY woman. You are not sedentary, and you are losing at a rate that is not medically recommended because you are in too deep a deficit. I would hope you would look into your correct activity level, and have MFP calculate a safe deficit.
I am almost 48 years old, and just under 5'2". My calorie allowance is set at 1250, and I work my *kitten* off so I can eat at least 400-600 more than that daily. Please rethink your intake. *hugs*0 -
Have you read about the Minnesota Semi-starvation Study? Those men were restricted to 1,600-1,800 calories per day - 400-600 calories more than you. You can read a synopsis of it here: http://evolutionarypsychiatry.blogspot.ie/2010/07/semistarvation-experiments-in-wwii.html?m=1
Many of those men began displaying similar behaviours to eating disorder sufferers and some went, well, slightly insane.Only 32 of the original 36 completed the semistarvation period. One man who broke diet admitted to stealing scrapings from the garbage cans, stealing and eating raw rutabagas, and stopping at shops to eat sundaes. Two of the men suffered severe psychological stress - one became suicidal, and another began self-mutilating, and both had to be taken to a psychiatric hospital.
You are eating less than these men. Your boss is right to be worried!0 -
microwave diet??? i don't eat any thing i don't make my self and nothing prepackged except pasta0
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well i looked over the starvation study their meals consisted of foods that were available towards the end of ww2 in Europe
the biggest thing that i found in that study was the lack of variety of foods they ate for 6 months if all i had to eat was
potatoes, turnips, rutabagas, dark bread, macaroni, small glasses of milk, chicken, toast with a small smear of jam,i would go crazy also
but having a variety of foods to chose from every day and being able to get different vitamins from different vegetables starches and proteins also taking vitamins makes all the difference in the world
what affected their sanity and sex drive was the lack of vitamins and proteins0 -
Too big of a calorie deficit and huge drop in weight isn't a healthy lifestyle change...it's a crash diet. Plus you're losing muscle along with fat and putting a lot of stress on your body! Pick a sensible calorie goal and raise your calories before you hit the mother of all plateaus!0
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Show your boss the app. Explain what it does and what you have been doing.
Example:
Hey, can I talk to you for a second? Yesterday, you mentioned being concerned about my weight loss. I can understand your concern....I've been blown away myself. I found this amazing app that really put things into perspective for me. I can track what I eat. When I started...I was eating around 6000 cals a day. I have lowered my intake to human consumption levels instead of a rhinoceros. I do think I am losing a little too fast...so I'm working on fixing that. It's a daily battle, but I'm doing ok. Thank you for your concern, that means a lot.
This! ^^^^^0 -
Congrats on your weight loss! However, try eating more because 1200 is really low for someone who's 6'3''. I imagine seeing 90 pounds come off you that fast would be shocking. Just keep telling him you're eating right, but make sure you do eat right, which means not eating so low.0
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Tell him if he thinks you are on drugs to drug test you. You will pass and there will be no problems. Or you can show him your MFP and prove to him what you have been doing. Good luck.0
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omg... Congratulations on your success. That is amazing! I lost around 40 lbs and my boss flat out told me she thought I had either developed anorexia or was using cocaine. I couldn't believe it. We had it out and since then she really hasn't said anything about my weight at all. I basically told her tha nobody said anything to me when I was killing myself shoving quarter pounders (or whatever) down my face so I didn't want her opinion now that I was trying to lose weight and do it right. the problem with what she said was that I still needed to lose almost 80 more lbs. I have just now lost 60 lbs and I am finally half way to my goal.
I wouldn't recommend doing what I did and having it out with my boss...big source of tension for us, but I wouldn't definitely let him know that if can't helpfully support you and encourage you, to not say anything at all.
Good luck to you! You are not alone!0 -
It has been my experience that no one who is not dieting and exercising ever believes that diet and exercise will cause weight loss...they are still waiting for a magic pill or magic machine to make it all happen without any planning or effort. Since he's your boss and you don't want to alienate him (probably) just write down the website for him and encourage him to check it out.0
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Well done and keep working hard.
You can start to add more calories as you learn to adapt to the foods you can eat.
What works for me is eating things that I still enjoy bit in smaller portions.
Don`t forget to ask some of the guys on here for advice with exercise (and not be sexist the ladies too)
You are doing so well and I suppose it is natural for those around you who see you all the time to be a little concerned...sometimes it just shows that people care.
I wish you well in your new body0 -
At 6'3" I would recommend slowly working your way back up to around 2000-2500 calories per day - the 1200 calories a day will work for a while but it ultimately isn't sustainable, and the best way to not just lose weight, but to keep it off, is to eat in a manner that can be sustained for life. I'm not sure of your general activity level - I'm sure you have some activity at work - but if you don't have any medical things holding you back and aren't already working out, it would be a good idea to work in a strength and cardio regimen. Just don't do that with as big a caloric deficit as you have currently!
That said though, I give you hella props for having the mental toughness and the mindset to stick to what you have been doing. Even if it isn't perhaps the optimal route, diet is the hardest, but also most important, part of the equation.
I'll +1 this also.
Loosing fast is great BUT you risk crashing your metabolism and when this happens you will either a) Hit a wall with your weight loss and have to lower your calories further to keep loosing b) REBOUND badly when you reach your goal and start eating more since now all of a sudden, you have deteriorated your metabolism to that of a 90 year old woman. How are you gonna feel when you gain 30 lbs back right away when you stop dieting and have to struggle just to maintain that weight after that? It's not worth it in the long run.0 -
i am surprised because he has joked about a random drug test but i could tell he was not joking
Ask him nicely to stop and if he feels a drug test is needed then you'd be more than happy to comply with his wishes. Otherwise, tell him your fine and that if a drug test isn't going to be done, that he needs to back off. And I agree, 90 lbs is a lot for 4 months, and 1200 is not healthy for you. Eventually, you will stall out anyways, so you may as well eat at or above your BMR and continually lose weight that way.0 -
People want to hear an easy answer because it makes them feel better about their inability to make changes in their own life. I bet he'd get off your case if you told him that you've been doing P90x. Or you've started detoxing. It will make more sense to him than "I'm counting calories and exercising."
Is your boss overweight? He might want to know what you're taking so he can take it, too!
I know that when you're really heavy, it comes off faster, and men often lose faster than women, but you are losing REALLY fast! Might want to just touch base with a doctor to make sure you're getting all the nutrients you need at such a low calorie level. I did a really low cal diet once and it did work -- until I went off it and gained it all back! -- but it was doctor supervised. People worried about me, too, but when I told them it was doctor supervised, they didn't worry any more.0 -
just tell him you're starving yourself.
1200 calories is what women a foot smaller than you and 10 years older eat.
you're losing that much weight so fast because of how low your calories are
yup ^^ what they said. I'm 5'4, 24 yrs old, and 1200 is not enough for me! Eating that little caused me to plateau
Now I eat at least 1400-1600 0 -
I am 5'3 and this site has me at 1200. I think you should definitely be consuming more calories.0
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well i looked over the starvation study their meals consisted of foods that were available towards the end of ww2 in Europe
the biggest thing that i found in that study was the lack of variety of foods they ate for 6 months if all i had to eat was
potatoes, turnips, rutabagas, dark bread, macaroni, small glasses of milk, chicken, toast with a small smear of jam,i would go crazy also
but having a variety of foods to chose from every day and being able to get different vitamins from different vegetables starches and proteins also taking vitamins makes all the difference in the world
what affected their sanity and sex drive was the lack of vitamins and proteins
That's not what drove them crazy! You're completely missing the point.0 -
Tell him your stomach shrank and now it's like you had surgery because if you eat a lot you will get nautious. He's probably jealous.0
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