Family saying I am getting too skinny when I am not?

The solution is not to talk to them about your weight loss. If they start, change topics or leave the conversation.

We can't really tell. It is possible that they're right and they're just worried about you. It could be that they have a skewed idea of what's healthy and what's skinny. We can't know which is true.

It can also be because they consider themselves normal sized. I suffered from that delusion. But Lozze is correct, maybe you are too skinny and are in denial on the other end.

I think they just want you to feel good being you. My grandma is always trying to feed me.

Does anyone know why families fail to show support when it comes to fitness/losing weight/health?

I think it's because they are overweight themselves but because they don't do anything about it they have to put others down for actually taking action...

that's probably it, the people that see you a lot or what their used too is so different. My family asks me why I want to lose weight and I'm at 180# lol

When my younger sister was preparing to enter her senior year of high school, She wanted to lose weight so I put her on a sensible but strict diet (1800 calories a day since she was active, No grains/starches.. lots of protein lots of vegetables and also some fruit and some healthy fats) Over the course of 9 months she lost from 220 down to 160. That's just 6.5 pounds a month.. certainly not an unhealthy weight loss. Now her ending weight was 160 which at 5'5" is still in the "overweight" category.

You would not BELIEVE how many adults grilled her on her eating habits and suggested that she had an eating disorder and was getting too thin. Not just family members, TWO teachers at school also approached her on this! I don't understand why... Maybe because she had been overweight for her whole life and people just couldn't get used to her new size? I wonder if it also had to do with her shape.... she was and still is an extreme pear shape.. so when she was 160 pounds, her top was a small and yes, you could see a few ribs, but her bottom was a 12/14. Maybe they only noticed her top as she was quite good at camouflaging her bottom half. I don't think it was jealousy that inspired these comments. I do think it was genuine concern, but still it was annoying and even a bit offensive so I understand your frustration.

I ignore my family when it comes to this kind of stuff. My side of the family has all sorts of eating disorders so I figure their opinion is skewed so it doesn't count. My husband's side of the family is tall and skinny so they will never understand weight issues. I usually change the subject.

Based on your avatar photo they might be correct. Your round head is as big as your torso. I'm no expert but I think your torso should be at least two if not three times bigger than your head.

Lol !

Does anyone know why families fail to show support when it comes to fitness/losing weight/health?

I think it's because they are overweight themselves but because they don't do anything about it they have to put others down for actually taking action...

My dad flipped when I told him I want to lose more weight and gain some muscle to be a fitness model. I don't think they truly understand what being healthy means, they associate being in shape as anorexic or having a eating disorder.

I had a couple people tell me I was thin enough and didn't need to lose more weight as a way of trying to be complimentary and supportive, in their way. They were trying to tell me I looked good. (Note, this was NOT recent, this was many years ago when I did lose quite a bit of weight... which has now crept back on. On my current efforts, no one has really noticed yet.)

Anyway, I found it a bit condescending and a little insulting at the time, as I clearly was still bigger than the people telling me this. To me, it was a blatant lie, like telling someone their lousy food tasted good or that a bad haircut looked nice. But, I think they were well-intentioned and had no ulterior motives to sabotage me. I just looked a lot better than I used to and they couldn't picture me thinner than that.

You know, our bodies are our bodies. Whatever happened to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything"?

I never tell people they are too fat or too thin! I am an accountant by day, a church musician at night and weekends. I can barely keep my own body healthy much less someone else's...

BUT... either comment coming my way would make me stop and evaluate to be honest. Especially from someone I know cares about me. In the end, we all know we need to be incorporate fitness in our lives as bet we see fit. Part of that is asking others for objective opinions. Family members,friends and coworkers - God love them - are not always objective. I actually went to a Doctor of Performing arts to validate my goal weight range and nutrition plan were a-0k... and so I can sail on with confidence and have that truth to respond to the people in my life that voice concerns.

I used to get this alot. They gradually give up and accept your new body and some will eventually come to you asking "how can i do what you did?"

For me the turning point was when I started entering and competing in endurance sports. They could no longer accept my size as unhealthy and their's healthy when I can ride a bike 100 miles and they cant walk up stairs without getting out of breath.

Based on your avatar photo they might be correct. Your round head is as big as your torso. I'm no expert but I think your torso should be at least two if not three times bigger than your head.

LMFAO

can some help me out im really confused about results im receiving from the elliptical computer it say ive burned 150cals after smashing 7 1/2 miles in 32mins is this just inaccurate or is that what im supposed to be getting really seems to less to be true ?

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