Dieting with a skinny spouse!!!

My husband isn't skinny, but he has quite the appetite and doesn't give a second thought about eating whatever he wants! And then he brings home candy, soda, etc.!!! Sometimes having calories to count helps keep me in check, but I'm still trying to figure out how to practice restraint with this crap around.

I have a husband who probably could lose 10 pounds but for his height hes basically normal size. He loves eating out and fast food. I spend $100 on groceries and hear 'there's nothing to eat' hahah basically cause its healthy and doesn't sound good to him. I just do me. He can go get food and eat what he wants and I just say no. No one can MAKE you do anything you don't want to. Yes it would be nice to have a husband who wants to eat healthier with me and everything but he is supportive of my choices...and I am the one who gained not him, plus I am a foot shorter so i can't eat near as much as him. It may not be easy but you just have to do whats best for you. My husband says come the new year hes going to be right there with me, yes that would be great but It doesn't change my goals.
Just make better choices and don't let anyone decide for you. As far as restaurants, don't do it often, get a workout in and make better choices. Most restaurants you can customize anything, get a sandwich on whole wheat no mayo and eat half with veggis. I mean its doable anywhere you go. Plus if you workout a lot you get those extra calories for a reason.
I just had to realize along the way, it was MY fault I gained weight..no one else. Once I accepted that and stooped making excuses (husband wanted food, boss brought burgers in, friend wants to meet for dinner) I started making changes.
Good luck.

PS! and trust me I KNOWWWW its hard. And its soooo easy when he says 'hey babe lets go get food, you look great you can cheat one night' ... Just keep at it girl!

You gained all that weight simply because you went out once in a while?

You can eat pretty much anything as long as you burn it all. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I think you're making excuses. In every relationship everyone learns something from other partner. Some good, some bad. You have not learned the good from your partner to eat moderately and are now blaming him

Also, did he literally shoved them in your face? Because if so, might wanna look at your relationship. If not, ask him to take it away since you're trying to lose weight and him bringing all these goodies is not being supportive. You have to remember us ladies put the guys in a tough spot. They try to show affection, we label them unsupportive. Explain to him why a particular action of him is being unsupportive.

Eat, be active, be healthy

Before I met him I walked daily with my friends. I would park my car and just walk around city. After I met him I moved in with him out in the country with no friends and no where to go. We ate out everyday. He do not eat anything in moderation he just have the metabolism of a teenage boy.

Re-read my post I did not blame him for my weight gain I blame him for sabotaging it. And FYI you do come off as harsh. I asked for comments from people with similar situations not for someone to criticize my situation. Do me a favor and just get lost.

Re-read the bolded area and judge for yourself how defensive you come off as...

He has the metabolism of a teenage boy because he's active. You started that post by saying "before I met him". Sounds like blaming to me. Once again, I'm sure you can still walk around. Maybe make some new friends or since you live in the country, you can walk around and explore the new surroundings!

I'm sorry that you felt the need to get defensive. I won't take offense to your rude behavior since, once again, you are trying to blame somebody else. However, I personally find it offending when people blame their spouses for their failures.

Once again, be active, eat well, be healthy!

My husband isn't skinny but he eats anything he wants and loves to go out to eat. That has nothing to do with me. It's called willpower. He can bring home 10 dozen donuts if he wants, I don't have to eat them. We go out, I make the best choice, eat the portion I want and have them box the rest.

You'll never get control of your weight until you take responsibility for yourself. He's not sabotaging you, you're sabotaging you. You're making excuses for your failure before you barely get started. Unless he literally is holding you down and shoving food in your mouth (to which I'd suggest a divorce) then he has no bearing on your weight. You may think it's harsh but it's the truth. You can either make excuses or you can do what you need to do. It's in your hands.

I'm in a similiar position with my husband. He frustrates the hell out of me though. Goes on how healthy he is, trains 6 days a week ( don't get me started there either! ). Yet smokes, whinges if I pack lunch when we go out, rather than driving through somewhere, complains there's nothing to eat- translate to there's no junk food in the house, I'm going to starve.

In the last 15 months I'm completely changed my life around. Now in the last 4 months or so, I've gotten stronger though. I just refuse now. If he wants to get Mc Donalds, that's fine I'll either pre-pack my food ( which I do 99% of the time anyway). With eating out, I just refuse to go, unless it's somewhere we can both eat. It seems that I'm willing to comprise at times, but he won't budge.

All I can suggest is to remain strong, remember how great you feel when living healthy. And just suggest to eat at places that you can both get something you want. Or do what I do, bring out my chicken, brown rice, beans and broccoli in the middle of Mc D's, while he's scoffing his face. He's only ever done that once lol.


Mel

My husband is skinny and might be under weight. I think the only thing keeping him from being too thin is that he likes his sweets. We don't go out often together but I always eat what I want out and still do okay with losing weight. He used to put cookies and such in my hand and it took a couple times asking him not to do that before he finally stopped. He still eats his sweets and at times asks me if I want some. It really varies if I say yes or not. Its not his issue to worry about so I just use moderation when I really want something sweet. He is very proud of me and I don't feel like he is trying to keep me big or anything. Good luck with going forward with your diet.

My husband isn't skinny but he eats anything he wants and loves to go out to eat. That has nothing to do with me. It's called willpower. He can bring home 10 dozen donuts if he wants, I don't have to eat them. We go out, I make the best choice, eat the portion I want and have them box the rest.

You'll never get control of your weight until you take responsibility for yourself. He's not sabotaging you, you're sabotaging you. You're making excuses for your failure before you barely get started. Unless he literally is holding you down and shoving food in your mouth (to which I'd suggest a divorce) then he has no bearing on your weight. You may think it's harsh but it's the truth. You can either make excuses or you can do what you need to do. It's in your hands.

You're right. I rarely ate out before I met him and when he's away for work I lose and maintain, but as soon as he get home I fall back into old habits with him. I know I have what it takes to make healthy choices I just need to stick with it. Willpower is my main focus right now. So early in my current journey it's hard to stay focused with temptation all around you. But I know I can do. There's nothing like a big dose of reality lol.

There are a few things that you can do to get some habits changed. I don't know your schedules, but maybe if he's off at work, start cooking dinner before he gets home. That way, you have no need to eat out.

If he has a work one week off one week type of job, pre cook a few reheatable meals like lasagna, spaghetti and meatballs, soup, chicken fajitas and such. Add a huge side salad and you have meals for every day of the week.

I buy a lot of quick and easy meals to throw together. Frozen fish filets I throw in a pan of lemon and pepper, canned vegetables I heat in a pot, A LOT of sandwiches, salads, eggs and tortillas. I almost always have bread, eggs, tortillas, vegetables, fruit and cheese. Add a bag of chicken breasts and you have a combination of ingrediants you can make 100 different meals from.

My BIGGEST change had to be having the patience to come home and make food, rather then say fvck it and go through the drive through or out to dinner. Once you come to terms with its going to take time to prep and prepare fresh meals, it'll start getting a bit easier. You'll take 3 minutes to put a few slices of turkey breast on a piece of bread with a small serving of chips, rather then run to mcdonalds and get a big mac because you realize its just not worth it.

Keep in the mindset of healthy lifestyle. A lot of people on this site that have lost 100 pounds have had periods where they fall off the wagon for weeks and even months but the most important part? They always get back to it. It takes YEARS to cultivate a healthy lifestyle that rids you of those extra pounds. Don't let one meal or one day get you down, but you ALWAYS have to get back up.

He works at a convenience store.. It's semi- laborious, but not crazy exercise. I did the same job when I was pregnant with our son. Tonight, he had 3 chicken burgers, and an entire mixing bowl of mashed potatoes. I don't get how he can eat so much!

I know how you feel. my husband is not overweight, and barely has an ounce of fat on him. I was 125 when we met, I'm 140 nos (7 months postpartum). I've been working hard to lose the weight, it's coming off slowly. BUT! once a week or so, he brings home donuts or bagel for breakfast after dropping our daughter off for daycare. He has this grin like "look what a nice gesture I did for you!" so I feel guilty by not eating what he brings me.... so I try to balance out the rest of the day's calories. Also, he eats ice cream every night and has at least 1 beer every evening after work. I have a desk job and a 2 hour commute (all together) every day... so it's tough. Not to mention that when he cooks (i'm so lucky he cooks) it's usually a big pasta dish or casserole that is mainly pasta. He means well, I know, but his habits aren't changing any time soon.