Feeling very down today- but didn't soothe with food!

I was a a christmas party the other night and there were about 15 kids in the room opening presents. One little girl from out of state was there, nobody knew she was coming. While the kids were opening their presents she was sitting in the corner crying. I felt like crying too after that. I know how it feels to be left out like that :-/ but congrats! you didn't give in a eat

Oh how I know the feeling. We, as Mothers want to please our children and family. That maternal feeling we have. But, we are still human and have those normal feelings. Men do not think as we do. Call it programmed from birth - I don't know. Again, not that "presents" is what is "important", but your husband teaching your children consideration, caring and thoughtfulness at a time when they are influential makes a big difference.

You, however should be so proud of yourself. Look what you did.for yourself! How wonderful and proud you should be. I think you gave yourself the best gift anyone could have given themselves - caring about yourself.

On the other issue with hubbie, I'm not sure what "Phase" in your marriage you are in, but I do understand as my husband does the same. (He doesn't go to sleep), but he moves on with his day. Earlier in our marriage there were the little notes here and there, a single rose in my car after he cleaned it . But, 10 years later and we are in a new phase of our marriage. I can't say it's a good phase, too much complacency. Also, he works many many hours. I have to look at the pros and the cons. He's working hard for our future, he's loyal, he cares deeply for me and the children, which out weighs the cons.

Sometimes, when I'm very upset with a situation, I write him an email - since I'm unable to get the right words out verbally without crying. It also gets his attention without being diverted by seeing my emotions or putting him in an awkward defensive mode. Hopefully, some of these ideas will help. Kudos to you for caring so much about yourself. Also, feel free to friend me also, I'm here for moral support. God Bless.

Sorry to hear about not getting a present. We all l like to be valued. Then working out shows that you value yourself. Good on you. That's the headline here. Proud of you.

I'm not sure about going hog wild on Amazon, although I can relate. However, my humble suggestion is for you to find something truly special, hopefully on sale--that makes you feel treasured. it could be a cool hat or bath salts or gloves or sunglasses---why not be glam--so in the future, whenever you look at it your spirits will be raised.

You can't change your husband. You can only work on you. If he eventually comes along for the ride. groovy.

I say he owes you a trip to the spa for a facial, mani, pedi; why not ask for this for Christmas since he "forgot" to get you something? He could even just write a blank check with the name of your spa of choice and babysit while you go relax next weekend. Treat yourself. You deserve it......

I am so sorry, I know exactly how you feel, had way too many Christmas' just like that!! I am proud of you for not using food, that is WONDERFUL!! I wish I could say the same...I always used food... Stay Strong, be kind to yourself, Keep up the hard work!!!

Sorry , Your having a bad day , But be thankful to see your kids smile today !

Some parents in NEWTOWN, Conn. didn't see that today .

Ok so this does put it all in perspective but you know what, this is about her being upset about the way her husband is treating her, not about a gift. It is incredibly sad that those families don't have their loved ones but I don't see how comparing her story to something that awful is proving a point.

So sorry to hear you had to go through that hurt on Christmas. Been there

I finally started buying a present for myself and filling my own stocking. It upset my kids when I had nothing to open, but they were too young to take care of it themselves. Now it's all good - things can improve, have hope

That's kinda crappy that he didn't get you anything. I'd be bummed out too. I'm glad you took that disappointment and turned it into something positive, though!

For anyone else with a husband that either hates to shop or doesn't know what to get - set up a wishlist! I have a wishlist on amazon and I can link things in from non-amazon vendors too. It takes the guesswork out of it for him and he can shop from his computer if he wants.