why does my mum say this *kitten* to me???

Work on getting out. Work on finding a good therapist. Then you can tell her that she can pretend that she never did have you. Leave her life for good and work on making your own life. Then when she needs help, just remind her that she didn't want you so now she doesn't have you.

Have you been a good girl alll your life or you're the black sheep of the family.
Everybody is hating ur mom and judging her, it could be she's been saying that due to how she feels, angry, caused by you. Anybody can say anything hurtful to another person even ones child when angry.
Am not saying its right for her to say that but at least let's give her the benefit of the doubt, your brother beating you could be because he's trying to beat sense into you.
Your story is incomplete, I think there are issues that are causing all this, as a mother I will never want to tell that to my child no matter what but then I can never tell till am in a similar situation like what exists between u and ur mom.
It's easy for us to say the mother has a disorder or she's a bad person, don't judge cos u don't know her.

My mom & I used to be this way. She goes straight for the jugular during a fight and doesn't think about the repercussions of her actions. Once the cops were called because she put hands on me because she was in such a rage. Personally, I think some people are emotionally stronger than others. Some need to blame people because the thought of it being their fault is too much for them to bare. I know that I am more emotionally sound and can take what she is throwing at me, when she could not. It makes me feel like the bigger person. Don't sink to her level.

your brother beating you could be because he's trying to beat sense into you.

No.

There is no excuse for beating someone up, save in self-defense. It's inexcusable behavior, and someone needs to intervene immediately.

I totally agree with you, no excuse whatsoever but like I said one cannot conclude and even call them evil and toxic from her scanty post, something more serious is happening if you ask me.

your brother beating you could be because he's trying to beat sense into you.

WTF?! So you're condoning violence and assault?! There is NO EXCUSE for violence!

If you're being assaulted, you need to call the police. No one deserves to be treated like that.

This!! Like I mentioned in my post before, I had to call the cops because my mother putting hands on me. Just because you call them doesn't mean you have to press charges. They gave me the option and I declined. I more or less wanted them there to calm her down and scare her a little bit. But if you feel like they need to, then have them hauled away.

Get help, now.

Don't sit here and put up with it, and posting about it on the internet won't help either.

It is not right for your brother to beat you up, or anyone for that matter. I am a mother myself and could never imagine myself saying those things to my kids.

I had my first son at 16 and didn't graduate high school I have never EVER thought it was his fault. His father and I are the ones that decided to keep him and sacrifices had to be made. I took control of my life by getting GED and going to college. Here I am 35 and I still don't have a career. I am waiting to get into nursing clinicals right now. I chose how to conduct my life and none of my short comings are ever my kids fault.

I hope you get a therapist and also talk to any women's shelters to see if they can help you get out sooner. I would just rise above your mom, be the bigger person and try to limit contact, if any is needed, with her. Sometimes we have to cut abusive people out of our lives for our own sanity. I have done it with my verbally abusive brother and it was the best thing I have ever done for myself or my parents. I hope things get better for you! Please get help for yourself!

I didn't even read any other posts, which isn't my style, just because I want to say:

READREADREAD the book "Toxic Parents" by Dr. Susan Forward. Someone actually posted about it on an MFP thread probably close to a year ago. I picked it up, even though I'm a very stubborn, "this can't help me" type of person.

It literally changed my life.

You probably won't get a wonderful, happy family filled with flowers that you'd ideally want, but this book really, really helps YOU from getting upset about it, helps YOU deal with comments like this, and can seriously help you essentially cope and defuse instances like this with your mom or brother (I've applied many of the things in the book to my sister with behavioral problems to good success).

Sorry you had to hear that. No child should EVER have to hear their parents say such hurtful things.

If it were me, I'd separate myself from this woman, and consider speaking to her in a few years. In the meantime, I'd find a counselor, and talk it out.. You'll feel better if you better your life, and chances are, she will STILL be miserable.

As a therapist, I agree.

The OPer's mother really ought to seek professional help, too.