Grudge

Basically I held one grudge my whole life I held it for about 15 years... . Most people would understand. Aside from that, unless it's to do with sports I don't hold a grudge.


I still cannot stand Jim Harbaugh OR Andrew Luck because of the VT/Stanford game
I cannot stand Matt Ryan because of the Matty Ice miracle...

You get the idea.

i wouldnt say grudge but i seldom give me second chances...

"you only get one shot" - marshall mathers

Basically I held one grudge my whole life I held it for about 15 years... . Most people would understand. Aside from that, unless it's to do with sports I don't hold a grudge.


I still cannot stand Jim Harbaugh OR Andrew Luck because of the VT/Stanford game
I cannot stand Matt Ryan because of the Matty Ice miracle...

You get the idea.

Sports grudges, I do hold. That helps make sports fun for me, though.

But those aren't real, because it's not personal

Not really....but there are certain people who've come and gone in my life that I have zero interest in communicating with, but it has more to do with things they do that just rub me the wrong way and I don't see the need to surround myself with people that annoy me.

The last grudge I held was about 5 years ago when I didn't talk to my dad for over a year.

I held a grudge against a family member for a while. I forgave him and a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I decided not to do that again.

Are you one to hold a grudge?
Does it matter the person or the event that caused you to be mad on how long you stay mad?
Whats the longest grudge you've held?
Have you ever regretted it?


*Me....I'm not one to hold a grudge. To make me mad means you've really done something. I get irratated, upset and frustrated, but actually fuming mad....not often. So if/when I'm 'mad', I can usually get over it fairly quickly. I just find that being mad takes too much effort.
Except for one person..... This person is a family member and used to be my best friend. Its a very long story and Id be willing to talk to her....but I guess she too is holding a grudge. :ohwell: This happened 3 yrs ago - my longest and biggest grudge!

No I dont hold a grudge..It takes alot to make me mad..I like to talk things out rather than stop talking.

If i do stop talking to somebody, its for good.

If I was you..after 3 years , there is no point on even trying to be friends again

I don't hold grudges, but I do hold people accountable. For 10 years I refused to speak to my mother unless she was sober, so we didn't talk for 10 years. She ended up in intensive care for cirrhosis of the liver - she was sober then, so I dropped everything and drove 1,600 miles to spend three weeks with her. She got out of intensive care and began drinking again....we stopped talking. She died a month later. Do I regret it? No. I regret that she chose alcohol over her family.

I hold no grudges. To do so only allows anger and hatred.

I dont hold grudges, I just eliminate ppl from my life.

Ditto!! I just kick them out of my life and move on. They're not worth the space in your head.

Friends/acquaintances....yes - but even family? That seems much harder to do!

I live 1,000 miles away from family so its much easier. Ignore Calls...plus I dont do facebook.

I don't normally hold grudges; however, after the same family members *kitten* on me and my one son again and again, I finally cut them from my life. My son does have a relationship with them today, but again, only when they see fit, but I do not. Their loss.

I forgive but I never forget. I will always and forever be suspicious.

I dont hold grudges, I just eliminate ppl from my life.

Ditto!! I just kick them out of my life and move on. They're not worth the space in your head.

Friends/acquaintances....yes - but even family? That seems much harder to do!

I live 1,000 miles away from family so its much easier. Ignore Calls...plus I dont do facebook.

We live far from family too, but my mom is still very close to my aunt ....whom I'm holding the grudge. So it makes for awkward moments with my mother. Eh..... :ohwell:

I wouldn't call it a grudge, but choosing to not have that specific person in your life.

My biological father was never really a father. He has spent my entire life in & out of prison due to substance abuse issues, theft, parole violations, etc....
My DAD who raised me, well we didn't have a good relationship either
When I got pregnant for my daughter I decided to put the past in the past and make amends with both of them. Give them a chance to be grandfathers. My Dad has changed. He's not the man I grew up with and a wonderful Grandpa to my daughter. We don't have a father-daughter relationship but we're friends.
My biological father however saw my daughter when she was about 3 or 4 months old.....he then did what he does best. I made up my mind right then that he was not going to be a part of my life or my daughter's. That was almost 6 years ago.
He called me a year later and I told him off basically and he never tried contacting me again.
The tricky part is the once or twice a year I have to see him at family get togethers heh we don't speak, we don't make eye contact. My grandfather is in his 80s though and I don't want to miss out on time spent with him or time with my Aunts & Uncles.

Last function, my bio-father's girlfriend actually spoke to me (I don't think she realized who I was) .... I must admit I wasn't friendly. I just gave her an icy stare and went back to talking to my cousin I had been talking to.

Grudges are the cancer of the soul.