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Yes this isnt fitness related, but not everything on this site seems to be lol.. but I have alittle question and thought someone might be able to answer this for me...
If your seeing someone and you decided its not going where you want ...do you just drop of the face of the earth, or do you do the decent thing and let them know your not interested?
If your seeing someone and you decided its not going where you want ...do you just drop of the face of the earth, or do you do the decent thing and let them know your not interested?
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You should do the decent thing and let them know. They're a human being too. They have feelings.0
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The latter. Why would you just break off contact without any explanation whatsoever?0
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Yeah....let them know so they are not just left in limbo.0
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Be decent.0
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defriend them. ey'll figure it out.
or the next time they send you a text that goes "i miss you." just respond with "yeah, i miss you too. you're such a good friend. it's like hanging out with my brother." he'll figure it out.
or call him by a different name. he'll figure it out then.0 -
defriend them. ey'll figure it out.
or the next time they send you a text that goes "i miss you." just respond with "yeah, i miss you too. you're such a good friend. it's like hanging out with my brother." he'll figure it out.
or call him by a different name. he'll figure it out then.
All of these would work.0 -
Let them down in a gentle but firm manner0
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You should do the decent thing and let them know. They're a human being too. They have feelings.
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Reverse the roles here...what would you want them to do? Personally, I hate it when someone just blows me off with no explanation, but it's also awkward - for both sides - to have that conversation. So, generally I still talk to them but when they ask me to do something with them I start by telling them I've already made other plans. Once there's a little more distance between you the conversation becomes easier.0
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If you don't put a solid end to it, you leave yourself open to the lingering "where are you" emails and calls. You're not saying they are crazy, you said that it's not going anywhere, so obviously you must like them enough to not want to be a jerk... So you care, and so you should act like you do.
If it's early in the interactions and you're not exclusive to any extent, and it's only been like 2 dates that were initiated by you, I think it's acceptable to just stop calling but don't ignore them if they follow up. Just be point blank honest about it.0 -
Definitely let them know.0
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This happened to me twice in a row where they both just completely dropped off the face of the earth. One was because I didn't put out on the first date. The other one claimed he was needy and wanted me to be in the same town-- I was away at school. Just don't do it, I took it very personal which how couldn't I!? I'm a nice person and wouldn't hurt a fly... guys are *kitten*. Don't be one. Be honest, be forward... you'll be respected for it.0
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Let them know...
Ten years ago, when I was in college, I basically faded away from a relationship, I still feel guilty about it to this day. It was selfish for me to handle things the way I did....0 -
Reverse the roles here...what would you want them to do? Personally, I hate it when someone just blows me off with no explanation, but it's also awkward - for both sides - to have that conversation. So, generally I still talk to them but when they ask me to do something with them I start by telling them I've already made other plans. Once there's a little more distance between you the conversation becomes easier.
Exactly what I was going to say. It all goes back to the whole "treat others as you'd like to be treated" saying. You'd hate it if someone just stopped repling to you right? It can be short and sweet, it doesn't have to be some big long drawn out thing.0 -
You can explain to them that you just don't see this going anywhere....no blame, no harshness, no insults. You just have different goals, you're moving in diferent directions, you don't want to be unfair. ANYTHING!
I've had the other person disappear off of the face of the earth before. Even though I AGREED that we weren't going anwhere, it still hurts that he didn't respect me enough to tell me anything. If I wasn't friends with his mom on Facebook I would have been worried that he was hurt or in trouble. He had a bit of a self-distructive personality....0 -
Just had to throw out there... I wasnt the one to drop of the face of the earth lol.... its what happened to me,,, I agree with all of you...0
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tell them...tell them now!!!0
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Most people fall of the face of the earth like that because they don't know how to confront people, or because they're keeping you thinking about it- and will come back when whatever they left for isn't working anymore... If that happened to you, just delete his number, and don't give him the satisfaction of answering him anymore, because usually if a guy does that he'll say something out of no where some other time like no big deal0
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Tell them face to face like an adult. We're not in grade school any more.0
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Why do you even need to ask? Either you are a person of integrity (in which case you'd talk to the person) or you're not (in which case you'd disappear). Who are you?0
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