Support from your family

My mum and brother are supportive and my dad isn't supportive at all.

The house is full of chocolate, pringles, cakes, just everything I struggle to resist! Even the supportive members of my family still buy this stuff and it tempts me so much! x

My thing is that this your journey not there's. Why do they have to get rid of the junk because of your temptation. I eat gluten free but i'm not going to make my whole family eat gluten free. I have two lactose kids and I love dairy so i'm not going to not buy it.

My family and husband fully supports me. I'm home with the kids during this Christmas vacation and my husband either goes to work later so I can take a early class at the gym or I leave as soon as he gets home so I can go to the gym. I'm starting a half marathon training program today and last night sat down with my husband and said that i'll need his support. My last 10K he broght me sneakers and workout clothes as a gift.

On the other hand My husband also eatswhatever he wants: fast food, soda, candy bars. I don't mind that he brings in the house and sometimes we go to lunch and eat fast food and we split up. He gets his burger and fries and i'll get a salad and then we eat together. I have no desire to eat that stuff but if I wanted it i'll get it. Mcdonalds here have gluten free bread for burgers and every now and then i'll eat it.

I hope they support you as far as encouraging you but when eating your always going to be faced with temptations. You have a choice and the choice is yours.

My husband is destructive to my progress. He constantly wants to go out and eat and it is typically fast food. I have gotten to the point where I refuse to go get it for him and I make sure I cook something for myself.

This is a difficult one, Jurce. Since we're supposed to be eating healthier (not just be on some crash diet), it would seem logical to have our families eat healthier too. After all, we want them to be healthy as well, right? But it doesn't always work that way. Families (especially husbands) are going to pretty much eat as they want. So my suggestion is to have your own food on hand for when your husband is eating something that looks good. You don't have to eliminate all those foods like crisps, either. I eat what we call "chips" over here because I love them, but I only eat a small portion (10 at a time, usually with a sandwich). I also adapt recipes to make them less caloric. I make my own salad dressing using light mayonnaise and shave off about 100 calories a serving. I know it's hard to do this by yourself, but you can do it! And we're all behind you! Go to some of the blogs here and read what others are doing as well. Best of luck!

My husband and lab, Sam (dog) eat fast food about 2 X a month. They eat it in front of me. They also eat cookies, ice cream and other assorted treats in front of me. But I am the one that has changed my eating habits. It is important to me that I get healthy. My husband is thin, has no issues with sugar. So, I am not going to make him change his whole life because I need to get healthy and lose weight. This is my thing and I don't see it as "not supporting me" if he eats things that I now choose not to eat. It was hard at first, but now? If I even smell a McDonald's cheese burger it makes me sick.

Decide how badly you want to eat healthy and then you will do it. Good luck! :drinker:

Quoting for wisdom - this lady has a handle on it - listen to her!!

I don't expect my family to accomodate me 100% of the time. If my husband wants McDonald's, then he can have it. If I go to my in-laws and they are serving something very high calorie, I don't eat too much of it. WE are the ones responsible for ourselves. Learning to work your intake level/diet around a variety of situations is part of making a lifestyle change.

My boyfriend has been supportive of my efforts, but has not changed his eating habits. In comes the soda and the candy every week. Sometimes bags of it. I've had to learn portion control and how to stay out of his side of the apartment where he stores it.

I cannot demand that he not bring these items into the house. He is my boyfriend, not my child. And in the end, this is my decision, not his. It's hard at first, but after a few times of over-eating on junk food and realizing I've squandered my calories (and not wanting to be miserable with hunger later trying to keep at goal), it got easier to stay out of it all.

It's nice to know that the general consensus here is it is OUR journey, not theirs. I've had to say no while DH sits on the couch and eats cookies and ice cream and bags of potato chips, and crackers and cheese.

And yes, I believe that my husband should adopt my healthy eating habits, but he'll only go so far. I am aiming at about 80% vegan. We both don't use olive oil or salt for "regular" cooking. He has agreed to eat lots more salads and veggie dishes with me in addition to his regular food and glasses of wine. Although he has noticed that he can't handle heavy Mexican food any more like he used to,or eat large amounts of meat anymore like his own 16 ounce T-bone or slab of baby back ribs. So yea!! But I buy him sugary treats now and then but he'll buy the bags of potato chips. I told him I will not buy him regular supplies of junk food or wine any more.

I don't care so much what food is in the house. Their food choices are theirs, and my food choices are mine. My mom does the food shopping, and if there's not enough healthy food in the house, I'll go out and buy salad or seafood and cook something healthy for myself to eat throughout the week.

What gets me are negative comments. My mom is obese and I am a healthy weight. I work out and she doesn't. She's taken it upon herself to inform the rest of the family that I have an eating disorder and my gym time is ruining my body. She is hateful and nasty and mean when she says these things, and they come out of the blue. If she were worried about me and approached this like she loved me - by taking me aside and opening a one to one dialogue, I might feel differently. But her comments are downright rude. It's putting a big strain on our relationship.

My family is somewhat supportive. They don't change what they are eating but will make an effort to have something healthy available for me if I ask. My husband is good about either not bringing bad stuff home, or hiding it from me when he does. At the end of the day it is your own journey. Just because its there doesn't mean you have to eat it. The whole world is filled with food your shouldn't eat. You cant close down every fast food place just because you don't want some. With my husband I have found drawing a parallel to something he likes helps, i.e. I remind him that me taking the kids so he can work out or hang out with friends is on the same level as him not eating fast food in front of me all the time.

My parents invite my husband, children and I out for dinner but they always choose the unhealthiest places. They know I'm dieting and It drives me nuts. I feel bad for declining all the time but I've mentioned so many times that I'm trying to lose weight. My husband is always snacking and eating whatever he wants. He tells me to try something and if I say no, he gets upset. I remind him that I'm dieting but it's like he doesnt care. It's hard to diet when you don't have the support of your family.