Soul Mates - Real or Not

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  • fadedflower79
    fadedflower79 Posts: 80 Member
    compatibility + communication + commitment + compassion + cuddling = soul mate to me (but I have not found him yet!) :)
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    People who said stuff like this used to make me want to puke. Until....... I hooked up with mine. It just felt "right" from the beginning. I know this sounds crazy, but its true: we never fight. I have picked up my phone to call him and it rings because he is calling me. I tell him I want middle-eastern food for dinner and he tells me he is on the way to pick some up after work. I am not joking. I can talk to him about anything. I have never been able to love myself until he loved me. I know this sounds ridiculous and frankly if anyone would have told me this 8 years ago, I would have laughed in their face. I wish everyone could find their soulmate and not settle for less.

    He felt diff at the strip club with us last nite
  • marthathebear
    marthathebear Posts: 498
    My husband and I are soul mates. I know we were destined to meet and if we had not we would not be as happy with anyone else. There has not been anyone I've met before or since that would have worked this well. It's not perfect by any means but we figure out how to make it as perfect as possible together. You have your own beliefs, maybe that is because you haven't met your soul mate, idk.
  • IDCY843
    IDCY843 Posts: 78 Member
    I found my soul mate, married him, he passed away (that same year). I have met another soul mate now and am very happily married again. Just proves that there is more than one soul mate out there for us.
  • amberlykay1014
    amberlykay1014 Posts: 608 Member
    everyone: go watch 500 days of summer.



    you're welcome.

    ^^This. I was just thinking that.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    Science!
  • Hopeful_
    Hopeful_ Posts: 39 Member
    I don't think a soul mate has to be a partner or necessarily associated with romance, I think they can be in the form of a friend, who understands you more than anyone and brings out the most honest, unguarded version of "you".
  • Artemis726
    Artemis726 Posts: 587 Member
    I believe in it. Yes, the notion is cheesy. But if you are fortunate enough to find yours, all of the sudden the concept doesn't seem that foreign

    I completely agree with this, and the notion of 'kindred spirits'. But I also believe there can be many people you *could* be happy with and be in love with who may not be your soul mate. I've been in other relationships, and I've thought that I was in love with them. I can see that I could have been happily married to one or two them. But- that love didn't even touch the connection and love I feel for my husband, or the happiness that we have with each other. :)
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    People who said stuff like this used to make me want to puke. Until....... I hooked up with mine. It just felt "right" from the beginning. I know this sounds crazy, but its true: we never fight. I have picked up my phone to call him and it rings because he is calling me. I tell him I want middle-eastern food for dinner and he tells me he is on the way to pick some up after work. I am not joking. I can talk to him about anything. I have never been able to love myself until he loved me. I know this sounds ridiculous and frankly if anyone would have told me this 8 years ago, I would have laughed in their face. I wish everyone could find their soulmate and not settle for less.

    You never fight? Dats crazy.

    I fight with mine, its the making up that's the best part. "Soul mate" might be too strong a word but I've definitely found someone that makes me feel awesome.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Science!

    Pfft science smience. No one here believes in that junk.
  • gym_king_carlie
    gym_king_carlie Posts: 528 Member
    I want to believe in it but I can not, I believe that some people just click on a different level to others
  • Daedalus35
    Daedalus35 Posts: 8
    I'd have said no until about 5 months ago.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I believe!! That said, the notion that being with your soul mate is all puppies and rainbows is a bit off. In my opinion, a true soul mate can go through some hard stuff with their significant other and still be giddy in love with that person like a 6th grade girl.
  • Sugar7324
    Sugar7324 Posts: 12
    Definitely real, don't get me wrong I went through a lot of horrible relationships before I found my soul mate but we are definitely made for each other. I do think that there is one person for each of us that we are meant to be with but most of the time we get caught in the wrong relationship and sometimes we never find our true soul mate. I was one of the lucky ones that did.
  • survivor1952
    survivor1952 Posts: 250 Member
    When I was 18 I met my soul mate. YES 18! :love: Cannot explain it. We met in June, got engaged in August & got married in Oct. (4 months total). Had our first baby on our 1st. anniversary (for those of you who were counting) It is 41 years later, 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren and we are still best friends. It is there for some people but I don't know if everyone has a soul mate.
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
    I think Mr Minchin sums it up nicely.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro
  • Jimaudit
    Jimaudit Posts: 275
    I think that there are such things are soul mates, but I don't think that everyone only has one out there. I think a soul mate is someone who makes you feel special, love yourself, and brings out the best side of you. someone who makes you want to be the best possible person you can be in the world.

    THIS. I have been with my wife for 19 years but do not believe she is the only one I could ever be happy with. God forbid something happened to her, I know she would want me to move on and find someone else who makes me happy.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    I think you can have a soul mate. I think they can be anybody, a friend, spouce, child, parent, or just someone you met at the coffee shop and never saw again.

    I met my soul mate 6 years ago and she is my best friend. We really are perfect for each other. Hahahaha main thing we say to my husband "you just dont know!" Her weirdness and my weirdness are one in the same. She was in my brain one time. Cray cray
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Nah, its all bs....u live, then u die....all sharing does is give someone a chance to own & depress u.

    You depress me. I want you to own me. I think we're soul mates.
  • nexangelus
    nexangelus Posts: 2,080 Member
    After years of waxing lyrical, reading many books, being married, divorced, having two kids before I was 30, living a full 38 years on this earth, I do not think soul mates exist. There are people we feel comfy with, people we don't...love can strike more than once if you let it. Hankering after or thinking in romantic terms can be very detrimental to the psyche.
  • sjohnny
    sjohnny Posts: 56,142 Member
    I'm that cheesy.
  • lunajes
    lunajes Posts: 23 Member
    Real.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    I'm that cheesy.

    Get cheesy...
  • ChinniP
    ChinniP Posts: 166 Member
    Maybe not for everyone, but my husband and I are definitely soul mates.

    That is the only "soul mates" there are. In marriage, you join your soul to your spouse, "until death do us part." It wasn't until the romantic age that anyone considered that marriage could be based on other than practical considerations---it was too important a decision to be based on the emotion of the moment. The reason why many marriages end at the two year mark is that the heated romance of the first two years gives way to a practical arrangement of working out roles---and it is there that character deficits and other impediments to satisfactory marriage crop up.

    Interestingly enough, the idea of soulmates goes back to Plato. In his dialogue The Symposium, Plato has Aristophanes present a story about soul mates. Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them. It is said that once the two find each other, they can overcome anything, move mountains with their love.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Real, but i didn't realize the concept was limited to just one person.
  • sapphireswi
    sapphireswi Posts: 583 Member
    real . . . but helps only if the other person thinks so tooo!
  • hellraisedfire
    hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
    I think that there are such things are soul mates, but I don't think that everyone only has one out there. I think a soul mate is someone who makes you feel special, love yourself, and brings out the best side of you. someone who makes you want to be the best possible person you can be in the world.

    THIS. I have been with my wife for 19 years but do not believe she is the only one I could ever be happy with. God forbid something happened to her, I know she would want me to move on and find someone else who makes me happy.

    :) I know what you mean. she's not the only one you could be happy with. but the only one you WANT to be happy with. it makes all the difference in the world.
    I have a pretty crappy history behind me. I've been a cheater. I've been cheated on. I was engaged to a guy that shattered my car's windshield with my head.
    everything changes though when you find that person.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Real, but i didn't realize the concept was limited to just one person.

    I don't think it has to be limited to one person. Everything has a season.
  • sjohnny
    sjohnny Posts: 56,142 Member
    Real, but i didn't realize the concept was limited to just one person.

    I don't necessarily think it is but if something happens to mine I'm not going looking for another one. B!tches be crazy and I'm too old to go through all that *kitten* again.

    Seriously. I'm really happy that my wife and I got together before Facebook and interwebz and cell phones and texting and all this craziness. It was a lot simpler.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    Ermagherd, are you telling me I've been saving myself all this time and it might not be real?

    I know what I'm doing tonight. NAMSAYIN?

    LOL, Bean!!

    I believed in it when I was younger. Then at age 27 my soulmate left me for a Kellie Martin lookalike that "challenged" him, telling me that I was "fundamentally wrong" for him.

    Now I'm married to a wonderful man who is a great husband and father and my ex is divorced from the challenge. Heh heh.

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