How do you deal with comments on your loss?

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  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    I flash a smile, say thank you, and strike a pose.
  • cjudesaenz
    cjudesaenz Posts: 67 Member
    I say "I Know Right!!" then put my hands on my waist and do a model spin and walk... lol... its super fun and we end up laughing lol
  • luvScott
    luvScott Posts: 15 Member
    I love it when people notice! I don't think it's rude to comment on weight loss at ALL. I don't think anyone in the history of the world has ever intended it to be a mean thing when they ask if someone has lost weight.

    I have to disagree with that. I went through a period where I lost about 30 pounds a few years ago and I got a lot of "Have you lost weight? Don't lose any more, you look like you're dying." This was when I was 135 pounds. Hardly starving. I also had other people tell me I looked good. By the end of the day I was exhausted and confused by all the people who wanted to talk about my weight. It all made me very uncomfortable.
  • ktsmom430
    ktsmom430 Posts: 1,100 Member
    I have never told anyone that I am in the process of getting healthier. The comments started coming at around -40 pounds. The first one was "Are you losing weight?" My reply, "I am trying to, thanks for noticing". I am still getting comments daily, especially from people I don't see every day. I like the acknowledgement, but, don't really like to talk about it. I don't really like it when people say I am getting so skinny, because I am not skinny, far from it. I will never be skinny.
  • Proyecto_AN
    Proyecto_AN Posts: 387
    I just say an honest thank you.
  • Vassyness
    Vassyness Posts: 4
    say 'oh great, thanks, i've been wishing to trim down, that genie paid off'.
  • wjniii
    wjniii Posts: 110 Member
    I say THANK YOU! I'm proud of every pound I loose and every person who notices.
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    Just say "THANKS!"
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    I swear at them and punch them in the neck.

    ^This. Or I say thank you and then proceed to babble on at length about how hard it was, how my parents and wife were totally against me, how fast food kept attacking me and forcing me to eat it, how the metabolism fairies were set against me, and how much I wish people were nicer . . .

    Seriously, smile and say "thank you" and leave it at that.
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I say "I Know Right!!" then put my hands on my waist and do a model spin and walk... lol... its super fun and we end up laughing lol

    :heart: :heart: :heart: I love it.
  • syrklc
    syrklc Posts: 172 Member
    Enjoy the compliment. ;)
  • SafioraLinnea
    SafioraLinnea Posts: 628 Member
    It depends who it is. Usually I just thank them, but sometimes it feels awkward because of the way they word it.
  • BellaFe
    BellaFe Posts: 323
    Thank you, usually.
  • Dianemustang
    Dianemustang Posts: 77
    As most have said - just acknowledge with a Thank you, yes I have...no need for detail and be proud of it - I went to a retirement party in Dec. - most had not seen me in 3 year and I have lost 65 lbs.....It was wonderful to hear how great I looked and how beautiful my clothes were (by those who were afraid to ask)....thank you was all I needed to say. Enjoy and bask in it
  • sunnyside1213
    sunnyside1213 Posts: 1,205 Member
    Because I have skinny arms and legs, and a apple body which I covered up very successfully, no one has noticed. :(
  • saraann4
    saraann4 Posts: 1,296 Member
    My go to response is "thank you, I'm trying". Then you get the people who are like "oh my gosh, you look so great, what are you doing?! " I look at them alittle dumbfounded and say "diet and exercise?"
  • o2bADyer
    o2bADyer Posts: 208
    Totally up to you...personal preference. I think it depends on how well you know each other and the context of the comment/compliment. Be proud of the hard work you've put into YOU! :flowerforyou:
  • dough21
    dough21 Posts: 216 Member
    It didn't bother me until someone said - "You look good and don't need to lose anymore." When and what weight I want to stop at is my business. I also thinks it makes one look jealous with a comment like that.
  • saraann4
    saraann4 Posts: 1,296 Member
    Because I have skinny arms and legs, and a apple body which I covered up very successfully, no one has noticed. :(

    They will, give it some time. I just had someone finally noticed I lost weight (after 70lbs). Other people have noticed, but this was her first time. The first time someone commented on my loss was my boss and I had lost 17lbs at the time.
  • bathsheba_c
    bathsheba_c Posts: 1,873 Member
    Life is too short to take offense at innocent comments from people who are trying to pay you a compliment. Just say, "Thank you."

    Of course, the funny thing is that, for every thread complaining that it's awkward when people comment that you've lost weight, there's another one whining about why people haven't noticed yet. :flowerforyou:
  • Carolyn_79
    Carolyn_79 Posts: 935 Member
    If you think it's awkward now just wait until they start arguing with you because you're getting too skinny :smile:

    In all seriousness though, it's not going to stop so I would just say thank you and if it makes you uncomfortable then change the subject.
  • Alidecker
    Alidecker Posts: 1,262 Member
    I say thank you and quite often end up discussing ways for that person to make healthier choices. I love to encourage people and if my loss helps them want to make changes in their lives, I'm all over that.

    I would never take that as an insult and don't find it rude or awkward in the slightest and like someone else said, it helps me keep perspective on days when I'm feeling fat and don't see the difference.

    I agree. The comment the makes me the happiest is when someone tells me I inpsired them to get healthy. I would never think someone was being rude for asking or commenting.
  • ladylumps12
    ladylumps12 Posts: 12 Member
    Just say thanks I have been there as well I think its just the being big frame of mind, you know u have lost but u still think your bigger and just here someone commenting on you figure.
  • LizardQueen4PointOh
    LizardQueen4PointOh Posts: 245 Member
    "Yes! Thanks for noticing." *flash a brilliant smile*

    That's my plan anyway, for when someone other than my husband (who happens to see me nude on the regular) notices. :laugh:
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    I think drawing attention to someone's weight (even if it's a positive comment) is rude.

    I completely disagree. I LOVE it when people notice I've lost weight. It makes me feel good, like my efforts are paying off, like people can actually tell. It gives me a buzz that I keep all day long. I say "Thank you very much!"

    I love when people notice too.

    I wouldn't even care if they said, "you were a fat fvck before but now you look great!" I'm fat trying to get skinny and that's it.
  • KimLovesDon
    KimLovesDon Posts: 152 Member
    I generally thank them, and if they keep on about it (oh you look so good now, yadda yadda) I say something like "thanks, I was so over being freakishly hideous! " :)
  • Louiseisme
    Louiseisme Posts: 73
    I just say "Thank you, I really have been trying" and smile and walk off unless they have questions. The ones I hate are those I heard today "Can I buy you a sandwich, mac n cheese or pie?":huh: I answered no thanks I am fine, I have all that just not all in one day, give my biggest smile and leave the area.:tongue:
  • dg09
    dg09 Posts: 754
    If you think it's awkward now just wait until they start arguing with you because you're getting too skinny :smile:

    This was by far the most irritating thing for me when it came to people discussing my weight loss.

    No one told me "you're getting too fat". :laugh:
  • annielizbeth
    annielizbeth Posts: 1 Member
    It was nice to have people notice at first. Now it's a little frustrating to have every conversation be about the weight I've lost (60 lbs so far). Even MORE frustrating is people who say "ohhh you are starting to lose too much now" or "ohhh wow you are getting too small now". It's like they were happy for me at first but now they are jealous or something. I'm definitely not losing too much or getting too small. I'm still 30 lbs above my healthy weight!
  • Qskim
    Qskim Posts: 1,145 Member
    Love the hands on hips and spin...good one! The strangest thing...a woman who hadn't seen me for a while (after baby no 4 and at my biggest) disagreed with me on how much I'd lost...I'd lost 32kg (64lbs approx) when she saw me again and she felt it was "only" about 16kg..okkaaay but WTH lol? I was just amused..strange tho.

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