How overweight is TOO overweight?

mikoodles
mikoodles Posts: 139
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I don't know man... Can you still be attracted to someone EVEN IF they're a tad pudgy? Maybe you're like me and go more for personality... Maybe not. What do you think?
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  • hearthemelody
    hearthemelody Posts: 1,025 Member
    How overweight is TOO overweight?

    It depends - for what purpose?
  • whitneyps7
    whitneyps7 Posts: 409 Member
    ya ve dated big guys before cause i liked who they were not wheat they looked like
  • Justkritter
    Justkritter Posts: 143 Member
    I'd go for someone with more personality even if she's a bit over. A girl can't be judged by that IMO.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    For what, like diabetes errr??
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Thread title is misleading.

    Are you asking at what weight is it not okay to like/love someone? :huh:
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    uhm. I think it comes to personal preference.

    My fiancee started dating me when I was 300 pounds. Go figure.
  • robin52077
    robin52077 Posts: 4,383 Member
    I've been with guys from 5'2" 130 to 6'4" 350 and everywhere in between.
    For me it is NOT about height, weight, looks, or anything like that, when i decide who I love.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I am overweight...but I just bang hot chicks. Is that what you're asking???
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    I like chubby guys so....... yes? I mean like 15-20 pounds chubby, not like.. 50.. 80... 150 pounds chubby. I really dig "built fat" body types.
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    Nothing to see here....superficial is superficial.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
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  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    I've never been in a position where that's mattered. I've never thought 'Hmmmm... He/she's amazing, but too big for me to sleep with.' Just never been part of the process.
  • fIashforward
    fIashforward Posts: 66 Member
    I don't know man... Can you still be attracted to someone EVEN IF they're a tad pudgy? Maybe you're like me and go more for personality... Maybe not. What do you think?

    I MUCH prefer overweight women to normal sized, or even chubby women. The bigger the better I say - strange I know
  • mikoodles
    mikoodles Posts: 139
    Sorry if this was a little misleading. Ive just been doing a bit of thinking about my last relationship. I know how I feel about love and relationships, but many tend to disagree. Not being superficial, I was actually dumped for being too fat, which made me feel just awesome. But it is nice to see that there are genuinely good guys out there who can appreciate a girl for who she is, not her waist size. Thats all :)
  • spiritcrusher
    spiritcrusher Posts: 326 Member
    Pretty sure overweight means overweight.
  • Justkritter
    Justkritter Posts: 143 Member
    Sorry if this was a little misleading. Ive just been doing a bit of thinking about my last relationship. I know how I feel about love and relationships, but many tend to disagree. Not being superficial, I was actually dumped for being too fat, which made me feel just awesome. But it is nice to see that there are genuinely good guys out there who can appreciate a girl for who she is, not her waist size. Thats all :)

    Sorry to say it but your prev relationship might have not been worth it if you were dumped for being too fat. I mean like.. I just can't even lol. Its things like that gives guys a bad name lol.
  • srcardinal10
    srcardinal10 Posts: 387 Member
    I love my boyfriend and his little beer belly :) I can definitely say that I'm someone who is attracted to personality because I hope that no one would be so vain as to disregard me because of my weight.

    Without me it's just aweso!!!!! haha
  • mikoodles
    mikoodles Posts: 139
    I love my boyfriend and his little beer belly :) I can definitely say that I'm someone who is attracted to personality because I hope that no one would be so vain as to disregard me because of my weight.

    Without me it's just aweso!!!!! haha

    You and your bf are adorable!!! :D I don't know. I keep telling myself weight doesn't matter, but I went on a date about a week ago and I heard from one of the guys friends that he thought I was too heavy... I mean I'm chubby, but Im really not even that big... I just feel surrounded by these superficial guys who won't give me a second look. :(
  • shorty35565
    shorty35565 Posts: 1,425 Member
    Of course you can still be attracted to them. I find men who are muscled up, skinny, average and a little pudgy attractive. I find up to 25% body fat in men attractive. I guess it all depends on how he looks with the weight. Plenty of men like pudgy girls too. Everyone is different. Ur x is an *kitten*. Don't let it get u down!
  • mikoodles
    mikoodles Posts: 139
    If anything though, this thread has proved me wrong. Obviously there are quite a few guys out there who are very accepting... I'm probably just looking in the wrong places

    and thanks shorty35565 :) Im definitely starting to figure that out..
  • XxfitforeverxX
    XxfitforeverxX Posts: 144
    You are soooo pretty!
  • Deedsie
    Deedsie Posts: 348 Member
    You are beautiful. Those guys are nuts.
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    I don't know man... Can you still be attracted to someone EVEN IF they're a tad pudgy? Maybe you're like me and go more for personality... Maybe not. What do you think?
    If you were in a sexual relationship with someone and then their mind was somehow transferred into the body of a goat, would you still love them? Yes. You would still care about their well being and want them to be happy, etc.

    Would you still want to have sex with them in their new goat body? Of course not! Sure, lust has some small intellectual element to it, but there is undeniably a physical component that is essential, and if it isn't there it just isn't there.

    Imagine, for a moment, your family tree going back fifty thousand generations. That's a lot of ancestors. One thing they all have in common is that every single one of them, without exception, chose a mate who produced vigorous, successful offspring. Not a single failure among all of those ancestors. The same is true of the ancestors of every human being you will ever meet. That is who you inherited your genes from, some of those genes being, "how to grow brain structures that determine who you want to mate with."

    Everyone has their own built-in range of what they are physically attracted to and we don't get to choose that. It's not a character flaw to have a preference, or to realize that there are billions of potential mates out there and try to find someone who fits your own preference. (Although it does seem odd to decide that after you're already involved with someone.)
  • JenM76
    JenM76 Posts: 38 Member
    I don't know man... Can you still be attracted to someone EVEN IF they're a tad pudgy? Maybe you're like me and go more for personality... Maybe not. What do you think?

    I think it is a matter of personal preference. I am most attracted to what society deems attractive (you know, Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, Jensen Ackles, etc). However, not one person I have been with looks anything like any of them. They have either been really thin or pudgy. Doesn't mean I wasn't madly and wildly attracted to them. I fell for their personality.
    I think your ex is crazy. Totally not worth your time to worry over. You are a beautiful girl and we all deserve someone that doesn't see the physical flaws we see in ourselves and loves us for us.
  • philshjips
    philshjips Posts: 41 Member
    Your ex is completely insane. I've always been more attracted to bigger girls; i love hips and butts. If she don't jiggle, then she ain't worth it.
  • 00sarah
    00sarah Posts: 621 Member
    I prefer my husband with an extra bit of chub
    <3 cute!
  • 00sarah
    00sarah Posts: 621 Member
    Sorry if this was a little misleading. Ive just been doing a bit of thinking about my last relationship. I know how I feel about love and relationships, but many tend to disagree. Not being superficial, I was actually dumped for being too fat, which made me feel just awesome. But it is nice to see that there are genuinely good guys out there who can appreciate a girl for who she is, not her waist size. Thats all :)


    He was worthless anyway. You are GORGEOUS!
  • kdz526
    kdz526 Posts: 210 Member
    I've always been chunky and did not have a problem finding decent guys (yeah there were some losers mixed in). My bf in high school was an awesome guy, reallly good guy but was definately more athletic (soccer player). My husband who I met in college and has loved me all the sizes i have been even when I was up to 235lbs. He is just average build bordering on overweight, but when we hooked up he was about 20lbs heavier. Age may have a factor in it too. The decent guys tend to be less obvious, and the douchecanoe's are out in full force most the time. You look younger to me, so what I have actually read, when guys are highschool/college age, they are programmed to like the skinny hipless societal beauty types, but once they reach around 25 or 26, they start thinking of procreation, and that widen's their perceptions and preferences. Not to mention they finish growing up.
    I do have to say if a guy dumped me and said it was cause I was too fat, I would probably junk punch him (hey being short has its advantages) and make a sarcastic smartass comment about some imperfection of his own.
  • darkguardian419
    darkguardian419 Posts: 1,302 Member
    Even in highschool, weight wasn't a primary concern.

    I'm happily married now, but when I was single a girls weight wasn't that big of an issue.
    Unfortunately, sometimes weight affects attitude, which is where I focus. If you have a crappy attitude about being 350lbs and say it's society's fault, and you've never worked out a day in your life, I won't talk to you.

    If you're the same 350lbs but you are a happy person, absolutely. If you also want to help yourself and start eating better etc etc, even better! It's all in the attitude.
  • KristysLosing
    KristysLosing Posts: 683
    I love my boyfriend and his little beer belly :) I can definitely say that I'm someone who is attracted to personality because I hope that no one would be so vain as to disregard me because of my weight.

    Without me it's just aweso!!!!! haha

    You and your bf are adorable!!! :D I don't know. I keep telling myself weight doesn't matter, but I went on a date about a week ago and I heard from one of the guys friends that he thought I was too heavy... I mean I'm chubby, but Im really not even that big... I just feel surrounded by these superficial guys who won't give me a second look. :(

    I hope he calls for a 2nd so you can shut him down. :smile: I totally feel everyone is allowed their opinions, and you can't always help what/who you're attracted to, but that doesn't mean you can't be decent to people. I've been overweight my whole adult life. I haven't dated but 3 guys and married the last one. I'm sure my weight had a lot to do with it. I feel there is tension about it even now...sometimes from him and a lot of times from me being self conscious. Sounds like you're just finding the wrong ones. Keep looking!

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