Need "marital" advice ASAP!

and the sex is always great even when I wasn't in the mood at first

just keep doing that ^

You have your man in your bed every night. I don't see the problem here other than you making excuses.

Try holding it together when you don't see each other for weeks on end.

Divorce.

We, as women, do seem to be more about the mental aspect of sex than men are, but I am just generalizing. Sometimes it's really hard to get "your head in the game" sorta speak! Maybe you should speak to your husband about him coming to bed early with you, even if he gets up later when you are done, but at least he is making an effort as well. Remind him that even a quick massage once you get into bed can stir things up, it's amazing how that will waken up your senses, just having him rub his hands on your back for a few minutes. Try to take a bath or a shower together. There is a lot to be said about the "oral" help to get fires burning, it's a great way to get things started!!
Keep your chin up, and it's really great that you are interested in making it work!! The fact that you and your hubby are grown up enough to talk about it together is a great sign that you guys will figure this out!

Stop saying no. Remember how much you desire him.

Visiting your doctor isn't a bad idea.

Rule 1: Stop saying no.

Rule 2: Repeat Rule 1.

Tired is tired, but is anyone ever really too tired? Even when I'm barely awake, I don't say no when I'm in bed with my husband.

i agree with this!^^ just dont say no

Rule 1: Stop saying no.

Rule 2: Repeat Rule 1.

Tired is tired, but is anyone ever really too tired? Even when I'm barely awake, I don't say no when I'm in bed with my husband.

Here's some motivation:
If you don't give it to him, he'll get it somewhere else.

^ What they said. That and maybe go see a doctor..maybe a sex therapist/marriage counselor in case there are other problems that aren't being resolved as well.

I don't understand the question

When is the last time you had a day off, from work and the baby? Get a sitter, book a room, go to a nice dinner and hump like bunnies.

Withholding sex from your husband is the equivalent of him withholding affection and conversation from you. If your husband was too tired to talk with you or give you a hug or even hold your hand, that would cause problems, too.

I don't know what could be causing it, but I'd make it a priority to figure out what's up. If that means seeing a doc, then do. If it's just too much stuff going on in the evening, then work to figure out what you can take off your plate. Taking care of each other should be at the top of your list. Not vacuuming the house or skipping laundry isn't going to take a toll on your marriage the way that skipping sex will. If you make sure you have time and energy for those things but not for sex, you're sending him the message that those things are more important than him.

The way I see it, when it comes to the quality of my marriage sex is not something I am willing to sacrifice. Chores are.

Just Do It.

Sometimes trying to "schedule" the act of making sweet, passion fruit love kills the romance. My wife and I are a big proponent of just having the love making occur when we feel like it. If we're at home and I'm getting ready to hit the gym, sometimes we'll exchange looks and we go to freak town.

If you ever have the urge, don't ignore it, just do it!

when I get home things just pile up and I'm in bed before him. Poor guy will come to bed about an hour or so later and try and I just say no because I'm so tired and I have to wake up hours before he does.

Maybe start with asking him to go to bed when you do. If he's a night owl and doesn't typically go to bed that early, he can always go back to the living room or whatever he does AFTER, and you can roll over and sleep with a smile on your face.

Here's some motivation:
If you don't give it to him, he'll get it somewhere else.

This happened to me and my hubby. We are now trying to work through cheating issues and it is very very hard..