Your slim friends telling you, you look good.....

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  • mathchote
    mathchote Posts: 1
    @ they all backstab me those f!@£$%^ losers, anyway u rock nice q i reallly need true friend !!!!!!
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I've been on both sides so I know how you feel, but also that you may be wrong about why your friend is saying it. When I was younger and slim I had a friend that was overweight. When she would lose weight she would always mention it, which was normal and fine, but what do you say in return??

    "Yeah, good job. Just another 50 lbs and you'll be there!"?? That wouldn't really go over very well, either.

    Even something like "You look awesome. I can't believe the improvements you made." doesn't sound very nice.

    I suppose just a "You look great!" and ending it there is the answer, but it's not always easy being on either side of that conversation.
  • erinsueburns
    erinsueburns Posts: 865 Member
    The other perspective of this is that just as we sometimes have distorted pictures of what we really look at in our heads, those who are close to us sometimes do too. Like when I was gaining weight, hubby didn't really realize just how much bigger I had gotten until I explained I outweighed him by like 70 lbs and he is 6 inches taller than I am. And on the coming down track, a couple of weeks ago I was unpacking clothes I saved when I got too fat for them and sorting them into what I can wear and what I need a bit more work to get to. And hubby picked up a shirt and indicated there was no way I'd be able to squeeze into it and he was quite shocked to see it fit loosely on me. Pictures get stuck in people's heads.

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