Question about husbands music choice

I normally don't ask opinions about stuff like this from people I don't know but this isn't something I'm willing to talk about with anyone who I know in the real-world. This site is one of the few places where I'm almost positive nobody knows the real-world me.

Anyway....

My husband just purchased two P!nk cd's (he doesn't know I know this). When I asked him what he had ordered he told me some classical guitar cd's. Trust me when I say P!nk is not on his radar of music he listens to (or me), not even close.

So here is the thing. He obviously lied to me about what he purchased. He purchased something very unusual for him. This of course raises all sorts of red flags for me.

Am I just being paranoid? Or does this sound fishy to other people too?
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  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    He lied. I'd want to know why.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    bah I have no clue.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Yeah, I'd be embarrassed about ordering P!nk cds as well....

    You need to ask him otherwise the niggling doubt won't go away and will probably drive you nuts.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Divorce.
  • Windy_
    Windy_ Posts: 1,012 Member
    He bought it for his girlfriend, who is much younger than you.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    He lied. I'd want to know why.

    Aw geez Patti!

    It's a Pink CD! He's probably embarrassed because that isn't exactly "tough guy music." And you say it's not what he normally listens to, so he'd definitely feel embarrassed.

    Relax. He bought some music.

    OR he's using the sweet lyrics of Glitter In The Air to lure girls into backseat car sex. Which do you think is more likely?
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Well you just have to speak to him otherwise you'll drive yourself mad thinking of the reasons behind it.
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    By asking him what he ordered, weren't you feigning ignorance? Why didn't you just say, "I noticed you ordered Pink cds." He can explain from there.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    You can write "Pink" and not get in trouble here.

    Never mind, I see the woman's gone lost her mind and changed the spelling.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Aw geez Patti!
    It's a Pink CD! He's probably embarrassed because that isn't exactly "tough guy music." And you say it's not what he normally listens to, so he'd definitely feel embarrassed.
    Relax. He bought some music.
    OR he's using the sweet lyrics of Glitter In The Air to lure girls into backseat car sex. Which do you think is more likely?

    She asked how I felt about it. If my husband lied about something he bought, I'd want to know why he lied. If his reply is "I'm embarrassed because it's Pink", then that's fine. But, I'd still want to know why he lied.

    And Windy missed her opportunity here to say that at least the OP has a husband!
  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
    There are only two reasonable explanations:

    He is embarrassed about buying them and didn't want you to know he likes Pink.

    Or he bought them for another woman.

    Wait, I shouldn't rule out the third possibility that he bought them for a man...
  • __RANDY__
    __RANDY__ Posts: 1,036 Member
    maybe he likes p!nk and is to embarrassed to admit it

    there are tons of songs that come on the radio I crank up i'd never tell anyone about.
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    The whole thing seems creepy. You checked up on him to find out what kind of CDs he ordered? What does it frigging matter, unless he is making you listen to music you don't like? So it's sad that he felt like he couldn't be honest with you, but I have to wonder why. Why did he feel like he couldn't be open with you about that? Something is off here, but I don't think it's the fact that your husband apparently likes Pink.
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  • He lied. I'd want to know why.

    Aw geez Patti!

    It's a Pink CD! He's probably embarrassed because that isn't exactly "tough guy music." And you say it's not what he normally listens to, so he'd definitely feel embarrassed.

    Relax. He bought some music.



    OR he's using the sweet lyrics of Glitter In The Air to lure girls into backseat car sex. Which do you think is more likely?


    :laugh: This is my response too. It's just music.
  • LittleMiss_WillLoseIt
    LittleMiss_WillLoseIt Posts: 1,373 Member
    Geezz...overanalyzing and oddly creepy in my opinion.

    Probably just embarrassed that's all.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    You can write "Pink" and not get in trouble here.

    Never mind, I see the woman's gone lost her mind and changed the spelling.

    *context*
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Oh, and FWIW, my BF pretends he doesn't like certain music that he secretly loves. He listens to certain I guess "acceptable" music in front of me and then I'll sometimes accidentally come across something on his MP3 that he would never listen to in front of me or anyone else.

    He loves Lady Gaga, but if you asked him, he would deny it. And I am the only person in the world to whom he will admit he likes to listen to classical music.

    I think if I came out and asked him if he liked Lady Gaga, he would deny it. I only know he has it because I was looking through his playlist for anything I might want to steal for my own.
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    How did you come to find out what he ordered?
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    He bought it for his girlfriend, who is much younger than you.

    Um, I beg to differ. He bought it for his secret daughter whose 11th birthday is next week.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    The whole thing seems creepy. You checked up on him to find out what kind of CDs he ordered? What does it frigging matter, unless he is making you listen to music you don't like? So it's sad that he felt like he couldn't be honest with you, but I have to wonder why. Why did he feel like he couldn't be open with you about that? Something is off here, but I don't think it's the fact that your husband apparently likes Pink.

    This what a harpie she is.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    I like Pink, what's the BFD?
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I like pink.













    The musician too.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    How did you come to find out what he ordered?

    The key logger she has installed on his computer so she can secretly trace everything he does online without him knowing about it.

    How could he lie about CDs?!?!?



    :tongue: :wink:
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    You used the wrong approach, which was your first mistake. Why not just say just laugh and say "dude what's with all the P!nk" and then point and laugh? In my house that's what I would have done. Or I would have said, "expanding our horizons, are we? I thought you liked "good" music . . . mind if I put it on my ipod when you're done so that I have something mean to run to?" Now you've put yourself in a position where you played coy for some reason, I don't know why, and you're insecurities are hanging out.

    The only recourse I can see now is to back track and say "I was wondering which guitar CD's were going to be coming in and I didn't find them on the purchase order, but I'd really like to put those P!nk CD's when you're done with them to load up onto my ipod for when I run . . . sissy."

    Oh, and who the f still buys CDs? I can't imagine that they're for his "girlfriend" because if some guy presented me with CD's I'd laugh and tell him that I need to go find my phonograph.
  • DoomCakes
    DoomCakes Posts: 806 Member
    ... He bought cd's... not a mail order bride...

    Way over paranoid, and why were you snooping to find out what he ordered?

    He probably just likes it and feels silly because it's different and some people may view her as more directed to a female crowd.
  • Mythel
    Mythel Posts: 72
    Just to clarify...I wasn't checking up on him. He ordered them off of Amazon (my debit card is on his account for ordering shows/movie that we stream through our blu-ray) and used my card to pay for them. When I saw the unknown charges from Amazon I asked him if he placed an order. No big deal. They way he responded didn't sit right with me, so then I went onto his account and check what he ordered.

    I guess before I posted any of this I knew that this was fishy and that I have to confront him about 1. his lie and 2. who the cd's are for (he would not be embarrassed to tell me if they were for him). I guess I really just want to hope I'm wrong and maybe I needed to be able to talk about it with someone even if it's people who I don't know.
  • RunIntheMud
    RunIntheMud Posts: 2,645 Member
    My ex-hubby loved Pink. So, it's not unlikely that he's a closet fan and just didn't want you to know.

    Other possibility, do you like Pink? Valentine's Day is next month...maybe they're for you?
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    When you look at it long enough, 'pink' is a really weird word. It's like the sound of dropping your glass eyeball on the tile and having it bounce away. Pink pink pink pink pink...
  • DoomCakes
    DoomCakes Posts: 806 Member
    You used the wrong approach, which was your first mistake. Why not just say just laugh and say "dude what's with all the P!nk" and then point and laugh? In my house that's what I would have done. Or I would have said, "expanding our horizons, are we? I thought you liked "good" music . . . mind if I put it on my ipod when you're done so that I have something mean to run to?" Now you've put yourself in a position where you played coy for some reason, I don't know why, and you're insecurities are hanging out.

    The only recourse I can see now is to back track and say "I was wondering which guitar CD's were going to be coming in and I didn't find them on the purchase order, but I'd really like to put those P!nk CD's when you're done with them to load up onto my ipod for when I run . . . sissy."

    Oh, and who the f still buys CDs? I can't imagine that they're for his "girlfriend" because if some guy presented me with CD's I'd laugh and tell him that I need to go find my phonograph.

    ^ LOL!