Just plain MEAN!

....... quietly leaving .......

Maybe it was because I grew up so FAT that now I'm a complete semi-psycho *****. I mean, I am demonic sometimes. I'm unapologetic and almost incapable of caring about people I don't know. Does anyone else have an obscene amount of hostility to just little things? I mean you go ******* crazy sometimes, and later wonder WHY you got so ANGRY, and stayed that way for so long? Sometimes I simply don't care about people or their plight. I don't get any pleasure off of it, but I don't care. What makes an entire room cry, has zero effect on me. Am I just mean?

Dear Overly Angry OP,

I suspect that hard view on the world comes from a lot more than just being fat. Such a lack of empathy and a desire to be angry probably stems from something deeper than that. Then again, it may stem from nothing. Sometimes personalities are just... what they are. And mental issues may be at play, even ones as 'simple' as depression or anxiety.

I mean, I honestly don't care much for other people's problems at work or in their relationship; it's just how I am. But at the same time, you have to understand that being angry at things you can't change won't solve anything, and getting angry at things you can change—without doing a thing to change the problems—solves nothing, either.

Vent your anger for sure (I suggest journals; they help me), but don't take it out on other people. They have their own problems; we all do. I know some people get off on making others miserable, but after a point you have to grow up and grow past that, and deal with things more maturely. I'm not sure if you're one of these people, but if you are, it's food for thought.

This may be a really odd reply, but to OP and anyone else who may have read it, I am very close in personality and I personally pinpointed many of the problems I mentioned above in myself. But I know anger is no good for me, and I am still very much in the process of trying to overcome my temper. Unfortunately, I still struggle with a lack of caring for other people's mundane problems, but hey, no one likes to hear about boring work stories... [coughs] XD

Anyway, good luck if you're trying at all to fix it. I mean, you must have posted for some reason. And if you're not trying to, then good luck to those around you.

Sincerely,
Another Rage-Filled Person (Who Happened to Learn on Their Own to Be Laid-Back AF and Stopped Giving a F--k About the Small Things Because What's the Point of Stressing About BS?)


Edit: I have never been to therapy and have mostly overcome my anxiety without medication. I find that this issue of mine is much like losing weight; it takes dedication and a conscious effort, and I think it can be done depending on severity and the person. I don't think there's any harm in professional help, either, if you think you need it. But you should want it for yourself.

I just see a lot of myself in OP, and from a personal standpoint, it's very rare to come across someone who is in the same boat about this issue, as evidenced by pretty much all of the replies here. And that's to be expected, nothing wrong with you all for replying the way you have; it's a natural reaction. Just letting OP know they're not alone and not an alien or anything.

Maybe it was because I grew up so FAT that now I'm a complete semi-psycho *****. I mean, I am demonic sometimes. I'm unapologetic and almost incapable of caring about people I don't know. Does anyone else have an obscene amount of hostility to just little things? I mean you go ******* crazy sometimes, and later wonder WHY you got so ANGRY, and stayed that way for so long? Sometimes I simply don't care about people or their plight. I don't get any pleasure off of it, but I don't care. What makes an entire room cry, has zero effect on me. Am I just mean?

Dear Overly Angry OP,

I suspect that hard view on the world comes from a lot more than just being fat. Such a lack of empathy and a desire to be angry probably stems from something deeper than that. Then again, it may stem from nothing. Sometimes personalities are just... what they are. And mental issues may be at play, even ones as 'simple' as depression or anxiety.

I mean, I honestly don't care much for other people's problems at work or in their relationship; it's just how I am. But at the same time, you have to understand that being angry at things you can't change won't solve anything, and getting angry at things you can change—without doing a thing to change the problems—solves nothing, either.

Vent your anger for sure (I suggest journals; they help me), but don't take it out on other people. They have their own problems; we all do. I know some people get off on making others miserable, but after a point you have to grow up and grow past that, and deal with things more maturely. I'm not sure if you're one of these people, but if you are, it's food for thought.

This may be a really odd reply, but to OP and anyone else who may have read it, I am very close in personality and I personally pinpointed many of the problems I mentioned above in myself. But I know anger is no good for me, and I am still very much in the process of trying to overcome my temper. Unfortunately, I still struggle with a lack of caring for other people's mundane problems, but hey, no one likes to hear about boring work stories... [coughs] XD

Anyway, good luck if you're trying at all to fix it. I mean, you must have posted for some reason. And if you're not trying to, then good luck to those around you.

Sincerely,
Another Rage-Filled Person (Who Happened to Learn on Their Own to Be Laid-Back AF and Stopped Giving a F--k About the Small Things Because What's the Point of Stressing About BS?)


Edit: I have never been to therapy and have mostly overcome my anxiety without medication. I find that this issue of mine is much like losing weight; it takes dedication and a conscious effort, and I think it can be done depending on severity and the person. I don't think there's any harm in professional help, either, if you think you need it. But you should want it for yourself.

I just see a lot of myself in OP, and from a personal standpoint, it's very rare to come across someone who is in the same boat about this issue, as evidenced by pretty much all of the replies here. And that's to be expected, nothing wrong with you all for replying the way you have; it's a natural reaction. Just letting OP know they're not alone and not an alien or anything.

Maybe it was because I grew up so FAT that now I'm a complete semi-psycho *****. I mean, I am demonic sometimes. I'm unapologetic and almost incapable of caring about people I don't know. Does anyone else have an obscene amount of hostility to just little things? I mean you go ******* crazy sometimes, and later wonder WHY you got so ANGRY, and stayed that way for so long? Sometimes I simply don't care about people or their plight. I don't get any pleasure off of it, but I don't care. What makes an entire room cry, has zero effect on me. Am I just mean?

I am the same way. I was fired from several customer service jobs due to my attitude. I even cussed out a pedophile when I was a phone sex operator. (I get paid to cuss out child molesters now. I probably should have handled that differently) I ended up homeless due to lack of a job since that was the only job to be had at the time. I had been fired from my previous 2 jobs for cussing people out as well. My negative attitude makes me tired and angry at myself for being so angry at the world. It holds me back at work. It makes me feel like a terrible parent.

I recommend talking to a therapist and perhaps if needed seeking medication. I am currently taking 5-htp. It helps take the edge off things a little. I grew up fat and became angry partially due to that and partially due to other things out of my control. You can change your attitude but it is a slow process. It is like getting in shape in your brain but it can be done.

You are not alone, there are plenty of us mean and angry folks out there. If you want to add someone who is trying to get a better attitude feel free to add me.

I am the same way. I was fired from several customer service jobs due to my attitude. I even cussed out a pedophile when I was a phone sex operator. (I get paid to cuss out child molesters now. I probably should have handled that differently) I ended up homeless due to lack of a job since that was the only job to be had at the time. I had been fired from my previous 2 jobs for cussing people out as well. My negative attitude makes me tired and angry at myself for being so angry at the world. It holds me back at work. It makes me feel like a terrible parent.

I recommend talking to a therapist and perhaps if needed seeking medication. I am currently taking 5-htp. It helps take the edge off things a little. I grew up fat and became angry partially due to that and partially due to other things out of my control. You can change your attitude but it is a slow process. It is like getting in shape in your brain but it can be done.

You are not alone, there are plenty of us mean and angry folks out there. If you want to add someone who is trying to get a better attitude feel free to add me.

Ew! Why would you be fired for cussing out a pedophile? That sounds like grounds for a raise! Phone sex operator sounds like amusing work, actually, and certainly beats being homeless, but no way would I provide this service to a pedophile.

Might have to get some 5-HTP for the Spring and Summer, I am super cranky when it's hot, who knows, maybe it would help.

I am the same way. I was fired from several customer service jobs due to my attitude. I even cussed out a pedophile when I was a phone sex operator. (I get paid to cuss out child molesters now. I probably should have handled that differently) I ended up homeless due to lack of a job since that was the only job to be had at the time. I had been fired from my previous 2 jobs for cussing people out as well. My negative attitude makes me tired and angry at myself for being so angry at the world. It holds me back at work. It makes me feel like a terrible parent.

I recommend talking to a therapist and perhaps if needed seeking medication. I am currently taking 5-htp. It helps take the edge off things a little. I grew up fat and became angry partially due to that and partially due to other things out of my control. You can change your attitude but it is a slow process. It is like getting in shape in your brain but it can be done.

You are not alone, there are plenty of us mean and angry folks out there. If you want to add someone who is trying to get a better attitude feel free to add me.

Ew! Why would you be fired for cussing out a pedophile? That sounds like grounds for a raise! Phone sex operator sounds like amusing work, actually, and certainly beats being homeless, but no way would I provide this service to a pedophile.

Might have to get some 5-HTP for the Spring and Summer, I am super cranky when it's hot, who knows, maybe it would help.

Haha well, I was supposed to me cute and cuddly and nice about it apparently. That job is terrible, you ever want to lose faith in humanity try it out. I hated it, but I had the voice and had to pay my bills.

5-htp is AWESOME!!!! It takes the edge off. Welbutrin left me not caring about anything at all but the 5-htp is amazing.

Maybe it was because I grew up so FAT that now I'm a complete semi-psycho *****. I mean, I am demonic sometimes. I'm unapologetic and almost incapable of caring about people I don't know. Does anyone else have an obscene amount of hostility to just little things? I mean you go ******* crazy sometimes, and later wonder WHY you got so ANGRY, and stayed that way for so long? Sometimes I simply don't care about people or their plight. I don't get any pleasure off of it, but I don't care. What makes an entire room cry, has zero effect on me. Am I just mean?