Need opinions...my friend and I are debating...

It sure is. I fell in love with the man who is now my husband over a cup of coffee at a diner..... we've been together for 5 years and we both feel like the luckiest people in the world to have what we do, and I knew within hours that he was the one for me. But, everyone is different, of course!

Yep. I talked to the guy, Jerry, on the phone 2x, shared a few emails. Jerry was living with a friend of mine. Then I flew out to visit this friend and Jerry. We spent the week - Jerry, me, our mutual friend and another friend - sight seeing and hanging out. Jerry asked me to marry him at the end of the week. I told him no and flew home. We traded some more phone calls and emails. He went out to sea (they were all in the Navy) for 6 months. We emailed and I sent him packages. We didn't get many phone calls. He kept asking me to marry him the entire time. I kept saying no. When he got out of the navy (after the 6 months was up) he moved to live where I live (and gave up all his friends and family to be with me). I told him he had to wait 6 months to propose so he did. He put 6 months to the day in his geek watch, put a ring on laway and waited. We've been married 11 years.

^^ Aww! What a sweet story!

Making life changing decisions that effect your job, your children and your family based off a 5 day romantic interlude seems a bit hasty. If it's love, what's the hurry? Take time, build the relationship via long distance, visits and phone calls.....if it's true love it's not going anywhere. If you still feel the same in 6 months (or more realistically a year) go for it.

And....what's the current divorce rate in America?

Making life changing decisions that effect your job, your children and your family based off a 5 day romantic interlude seems a bit hasty. If it's love, what's the hurry? Take time, build the relationship via long distance, visits and phone calls.....if it's true love it's not going anywhere. If you still feel the same in 6 months (or more realistically a year) go for it.

And....what's the current divorce rate in America?

Yep, I totally agree. It's part of the reason why my 4 year Long Distance Relationship is still going on! LOL I picked up once in my life to be with someone and I won't call it a mistake because I have my sons out of it...but, it wasn't the smartest thing I've ever done. If it's meant to be...it's meant to be....and will still be in a year's time. Love knows no distance when it's the real thing!!

It's infatuation, not love.

I knew my wife was the one immediately. I proposed within two months. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary. Best decision I ever made.

It wasn't 5 days though. They've known each other for 20 years. There is something to be said for that even if they haven't seen each other in a while. There is a history there.
I knew when I met my husband that he was someone I could see myself falling in love with. There was just something about his personality, and the way that he treated me from the get go. As our relationship continued, and he maintained the same level ( wasn't faking it ) I knew for certain.

It is possible. It doesn't happen for everyone but it does happen.
Case in point:

My husband and I met on Facebook. We do share the same faith which is super important (deal breaker). So that was the number one thing for me. He is 20 and I am 29. When we met, he was a month shy of 18 and I was almost 27. We started "dating" 6 days after we "met". We said I love you's after 11 days. We met up on Labor Day and again over end of October (two times) before he moved here. (4 months after we met). We have been married for a year and a half.

I thought people would think I was crazy, which they did. His family tried to keep us apart because his mom and grandmother had both died around the same time a few years prior. They thought he was just looking for a "mother" figure. We have proven them wrong and could not be happier.

It is safe to say it doesn't always work though. People could know eachother for years but when you put a relationship in the mix, for whatever reason, things don't jive.
You are right to be worried but don't worry too much. She is an adult and people make mistakes no matter how old or young. Just be there for her for support whether it works out or not. That will probably help her the most.

Keep in mind he is willing to have his job transfer him to her location, move away from his kids (one of whom is going away to college in a few months anyway) the other is 16....

I understand they do know each other, even know quirks about each other, that my annoy otger people....but is it possible???

I want to believe it is... my gut tells me it isn't. I just dont want her to get hurt...

While I think that's totally possible to fall in love so fast... a red flag would be going off in my head about any man who is willing to leave his kids and move far away. Even older teenagers need their dad around. Putting his new love before the kids he's raised for how many years seems like a really bad move and one that would make me question his ability to commit to any relationship, and the wisdom of getting into a serious relationship with him.

The fact that he flew in from out of state to visit her for 5 days means they must have been talking prior to the visit.

Could it be love? Sure. Can you tell in 5 days if you can make a long-term relationship work? Hell no.

And I can’t imagine ever wanting to be in a relationship with someone who’s willing to move states away from a son or daughter who is not yet an adult. That’s just plain wrong.

^^ Exactly.

I exactly your exactly this post!!!